I have known my friend for 2 yrs and in that time we have become very close friends (we are both girls and this is strictly a regular friendship I am talking about here-- nothing more, for all the sickos who out there). However we are both very busy and its hard to find time to spend together. Also, she is always afraid to ask for things and puts herself down alot and that makes me sad. I really love this person as a friend, she is such an amazing person and she is so fun to be with. Any advice on how to find more time to hang out? Also, how can I get her to realize that I will care about her as my friend no matter what, because we just click when it comes to being friends. Please answer with good advice.
2007-03-04 14:51:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
call her up and set up a regular time when your both free to do something you both like to do.. like play a sport.. if you play phone tag (calling each other but only getting the answering machine back and forth) for awhile try sending her an email. when people put themselves down all their trying to do is get attention so give it to her... tell her she pretty or sumthin then quickly change the topic to a recent movie or the latest news. i really hope your friendship lasts forever!!!!!!
2007-03-04 14:59:04 · answer #1 · answered by imaperson=] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could both try to schedule time off from work at the beginning of the month that way you both will be able to hang out and know when you are going to and where you are going to. If your friend is constantly putting herself down that means she is seeing something either from herself or others that she doesn't agree with, but you should no matter what let her know as her friend that you appreciate her no matter what, and when she does put herself down tell her exactly how you feel about the situation by saying things like why do you think that, and it will open up the floor for more inner feeling and help you to get an understanding of where she is coming from, and be sure when you guys do hang out you let her know that you had fun and then begin to plan your next outing together.
2007-03-04 23:08:00 · answer #2 · answered by king louie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you want to spend more time together you guys should compare schedules... if it's homework or projects you could maybe help each other by doing it together.
If she puts herself down you could be like "no way that's not true" and say like, if she says something about her hair you could say "no way your hair is gorgeous, the style really looks good on you and the color is so rich" ok you'll sound like a hairdresser but oh well. If she is afraid to ask you stuff maybe she is just shy (i am like that too) but if you sense that something's wrong with her you could ask her about it and just make sure that she knows that you'll listen to her.
2007-03-04 22:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by arsenic sauce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im guessing you dont go to school together?...Me and my friend were alot like this (i was more like your friends) i soon was down on myself i abused my body with anorexia, since then my friend always supported me, i have gotten better, and we have gotten closer...Can you try to get her try out for something? or involved in a group?...events will give you a reason to go see her, and support strengthens a relasionship!!!hope that helps! Thanks
2007-03-04 23:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Dez K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is she so depress? take her mind off that, offer to do something with her, like go shopping with her, and showed her that u care about her as a friend, thinkn about what places that she like to hang out with u.
2007-03-04 23:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by GuitarChik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋