I am only 17, but more level headed than my parents, and i was wondering if i should regret not having sex with my boyfriend. Both of us got an medical examination, and were more than willing to use any type of protection. now (only because we live so far apart) we broke up. I wanted to lose my virginity to that guy, i wouldn’t be able to stand the thought of loosing it to some one else. i wouldn't matter if i got knocked-up, i would never be happier knowing that i was having the baby of such a wonderful guy. and i am totally against abortion.
2007-03-04 14:51:36 · 22 answers · asked by Frankly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you won't regret it, you will find another guy who you will fall for too. you're so young and getting ''knocked up'' isn't anything to be happy about. you two broke up, its time to move on, sorry hunny. but you will find someone who you will fall for, possibly even more than you did for him.
2007-03-04 14:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by ricleigh 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
try not to regret this. It is an admirable thing to be your age and to still have your virginity. I didn't lose mine until I was 19, by then I was two years out of high school and I had a better head on my shoulders. I was more selective with whom my partner was and i was more careful.
It does Matter if you "got knocked up". Think about the consequences, You would be a single mommy right now and chances are, no matter how wonderful you thought that guy was, he probably would not be around like a "father" needs to be for their child.
You made a good choice by not giving in. If you are more than willing to use any type of protection, then you should consider being on birth control for when you do lose your virginity and Also make him use a condom so that you are better protected against STD's. this way, you don't get pregnant and are better protected.
One day you will look back and thank yourself. A good man in this day and age is hard to find. But it is a rarity to find a woman who doesn't sleep around, or one who doesn't have kids already. It is a noble thing to wait.
2007-03-04 15:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by Deu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is 15 and he regrets have had sex
so you are on the right side of regret and please reread your question
"I am only 17, but more level headed than my parents,
only because we live so far apart) we broke up. I wanted to lose my virginity to that guy, i wouldn’t be able to stand the thought of loosing it to some one else.
i wouldn't matter if i got knocked-up, i would never be happier knowing that i was having the baby of such a wonderful guy. and i am totally against abortion. "
what do you see wrong with this ??? i see many things
2007-03-04 14:58:19 · answer #3 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In ten years you will not regret not having sex with this guy. If you are indeed more level headed than your parents then you must believe that you have achieved some level of maturity, as such you will acknowledge that you have more knowlegde than you did even 2 years ago. I was not a virgin when I got married so I will not patronize you, but I will tell you I truelly wish I had been a virgin when I met my husband. We have a wonderful marriage and I wish he were the only man I had been with. After ten years of marriage and still going strong I hope you will take my advise and wait. I know it hurts right now but you will change and so will he, neither of you are the people you are giong to mature into. Be glad that you did not bring a child into a world you have yet to find your own place in.
2007-03-04 15:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kari S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While the feelings might still be strong now, give it some time and things might change. And while I understand that you are against abortion as am I, I don't think that at 17 you'd be ready to have a baby. That's not to insult you; rather it's moreso in tune with the fact that you have SO much more life to live before it's time to settle down and raise children. High school, colllege and more. I am due with my second this friday, and I also have 2 stepchildren. I could have never EVER handled having a baby at 17 and I was mature for my age, as it seems you are as well.
When the time is right, it will come. Maybe your ex will move closer, maybe you'll meet another man who will sweep you off your feet and he will be the one that you are so happy you share your first experience with. You have so much time, never rush things like sex. It will happen soon enough and when it does it should be something you cherish, not something you regret or wish you would have waited longer for.
Be proud of yourself for waiting this long. Some girls are at it in their pre-teens and having babies before they can get their license. You have chosen to wait and the reward is a more fulfilling life before you bring a baby into this world.
I wouldn't regret it at all. Keep your head high!
2007-03-04 14:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by schmidtee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he broke up with your for whatever reason then it wasn't meant to be. I'm not saying you should or shouldn't have lost your virginity to hip but don't regret anything you do in your life. I'm a very firm believer that everything happens for a reason. Won't it be nice when you do meat someone later on down the road that you do lose your virginity to and it will mean that much more? Do you honestly think he would have stayed with you had you lost your virginity to him? If he would have then he's probably not the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. You have plenty of time to lose it and I'm sure you'll be happy with whomever it is. Cherish the fact that you are a virgin--it really does mean a lot.
2007-03-04 14:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that the fact that you did not have sex with your ex boyfriend is something that you should be pleased about. I think many young people jump into physical relationships way too early before they are emotionally ready to deal with the consequences of their actions.. They confuse sex with love.
At your age you should be setting goals for yourself..graduating from high school, going to college, and starting a career. Instead of focusing on sex:
You don't have to have sex with someone to prove you like or love him! Sharing time, thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and mutual respect is what makes a relationship strong. Saying "no" can be the best way to say, "I love you." It is always best to make the choice to wait!
If you had gotten pregnant you would be raising this child on your own. As there is no committment from him, You should be grateful for that.
Your virginity is a wonderful gift that you have to share with someone you love, someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with. The gift of sex deserves only the highest level of commitment possible, marriage.
2007-03-04 15:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by schmoo_withazing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girly - our first loves never leave us! You don't have to have sex with him to know he was and is a great person and you loved him dearly. Losing your virginity to him won't show him that you loved him more than you already did. And on top of all that, it would matter if you got 'knocked-up'. You're 17 years old and that is truly not old enough to be a responsible parent. You have a lot of living to do ahead of you and "NOT doing it" is a very grown-up decision you made so props to you for that!!!
Ever hear of the ole' saying "more fish in the sea"? Well there is. And you will find someone who you will want to devote yourself too, physically and emotionally. Someone will sweep you off your feet and you will find yourself saying "I'm glad I waited".
AND AN EXTRA KUDOS TO YOU FOR BEING PRO-LIFE!!!
2007-03-04 14:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by momto3 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt regret not having sex with him. Since you would of been far more heart broken now being broken up. There is no rush to having sex. Also you shouldnt have sex until your body is really asking for it or you get married. But I am not going to lecture you by saying wait until you are married because obviously i would be a hipocrite since I didnt. But you do want to wait until you are really ready to have sex and not just because you think you should or because you think that it will make your boyfriend happy. I was married by the time i was 15 and because I had gotten pregnant. Every time I had sex it was to make my old man happy and not because it was somthing that I really wanted to do until I hit 21 and then oh my god but by then i had left my old man. Sex is more than physical and at a young age if you really arent mentally able to handle your relationship lasting after giving yourself to a man it can cause you some real heart aches. Guys when they are young not all but most when they have sex it is not because they are in love with the girl its because they are in love with how it feels. At 17 you are just barely figuring out what the next step in your life is going to be before you go off on your own. It is alot easier if you arent all spun on some guy. Girls are different then guys when it comes to sex . Once we give our selves to a man we have a hard time letting go or accepting that it was just a one time deal. We want to claim full ownership and guys that age just really arent wanting to be owned yet. It will take alot of stress off of your life if you dont trip on the sex part quite yet. All the decisions you make in the next couple of years are the ones that are going to more less decide where you will end up in life. Babies are cute but they grow up and they are alot of responsibility. THey dont stay cute for long and they quickly turn into little people that need to be taken here and there and your life gets put on the back burner. Maybe your x was a wonderful guy but trust me there will be more guys some wonderful and some awful just dont stick yourself to what ever , IF a guy is wonderful but your really dont feel it for him then move on to the next . Never take second best. and remember that people come into our lives to fill a need and when that need is filled they move on because they work has been done filling your need and when the right one comes you will know and you will find true happiness. It is hard letting someone go but when it is their time to go they must go so your mr right can come along. You will see soon enough that someone else even more wonderful is going to come into your life but still wait for sex until you are ready and your body is asking for it and not just because the guy wants it. It is supposed to be for your pleasure to and not just his . You wont regret waiting trust me. One last thing what if you would of gotten pregnant and had a baby and then the father moved away then you would of been a single mother and would that of been fair to your baby? Make sure before you have a baby that it will have both mom and dad. I know its not necessary but it is better . I grew up with no dad and it would of been nice having one.
2007-03-04 15:22:57 · answer #9 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, props to you for being 17 and still waiting. It's normal to wish you had done it with someone you feel so strongly for...but if I'm a firm believer that if it was meant to be, then it will come back around. Your almost 18 and probably going to go to school soon, even if not, when your graduate you can move wherever, so maybe you can both try again. Just make sure that if it's not with him, it's someone you feel just as strongly for, if not more.
2007-03-04 14:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by Brendins Mom21 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you are only 17...... teen as in teenager..... i am only 19 (married) and 4mths pregnant i couldnt be happier having a baby right now.... but i also wished that could have waited i havent had the chance to go to collage or to travel or to do everything that i wished that i could do and i regret trying to grow up to soon.
i made simular choices that you were thinking about doing and it left me empty and used because i didnt know what "love" was back then.
my advice would be to finish school/ collage... make a life for yourself.... and get married
saving yourself for your husband is the most rewarding thing you can do for yourself when you meet that one person you will know you are suppost to be with and he WILL be worth waiting for.(i didnt but wished i would have my husband is a wonderful man and has blessed me greatly)
you probably have enough problums and stress in your life (trust me i have been there) you dont need to put more on your sholders then needs to be there dont put a damper on your life by getting "knocked up" there are too many un married familys in this world and im sure if you ask any of them they will say that there child was worth the sacrifices ... but they would have done it differntly if they would have known.
so please dont sell yourself short life seams hard now but there is someone out there for you, you just need to wait for him (if it is this boy friend then you will work out the differences if he really loves you he wouldnt ask you or want to hurt yourself or to give up your dreams he will marry you and wait for you and make your family together with the support of both of you as husband and wife)
good luck to you and i hope you make the decions that are right for you.
2007-03-04 15:32:57 · answer #11 · answered by sara s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋