parents..what percentage of your childs (teens) wages, now they are working full time?

Question

(that is fair) should they pay as bored to their parents?

she has graduated from high school and is working full time.

she hasn't a car. we run her every where. she has no bills to pay and her wages usually get spent on 'luxury' items music social events, going out... fashion clothes etc.

.vato. she is a responsible teen and she does go out. rules in the house are not that strict. she respects me and i her. she is an adult. she can go where she pleases simply because i know she is responsibile and mature. this is something she and i want to work out so i thought it would be great to have every parents input in this situation and ask here. but thanks for sharing :-)

oh yes. and she has a lovely bf who she goes out with and their friends and he treats her like a princess...the way she should be treated :-)

hiya sonya. i am well aware of the responsibilities of parents my dear. and yes we do just that for each and everyone of our lovely children. and if anyone who doesn't should be shamed. the role of a parent is also to teach them how to survive in the world once they do leave home, and of course the responsibility of managing money and paying their way once they are old enough. and .vato. i think any child would be home as quick as a flash if they had to pay any kind of rent at the moment. i know it would take ALL of my daughters wages for just one week. so, plus she would never want to leave home, so no fear for either of us there....
the question was.....what is fair..for a young adult...to pay ..to contribute..to their parents...! is that better? i didn't ask wether we should or not...that decision has already been made....we want to know what percentage other parents think is fair....thanks all.

nursebettys on the level..thanks my thoughts excactly...the saving account is just what i had in mind too..cheers.

Answer 1

She should pay about 30-40% of her monthly take home pay for room and board. This will teach her how to budget her money and realize that you can not spend all her money on going out and buying stuff at the mall.

If you feel this is too much, take part of it and put it in a savings account (without telling her, of course) to be used to buy a car some time in the future.

Answer 2

A teen shouldn't be working full time while they are in high school.

If in college, I say the fair amount of 35% of lets say $900 with tax's taken out. That also includes them doing choirs around the house. If on parent's car insurance and at a decent price (granted student discount), I say $100 to $150 a month. Depending on the car insurance as I know people's who are only $50 a month.

But you can't really place a %, as each paycheck or job related can be different. plus, the teen/young adult can't save up for their own place if they have nothing to save per say.

I think enough to pay their half of utilities, phone, insurance, some food items and a lil extra here and there, is fine enough.

now if they are messing around, blowing the money on stupid, no good stuff and not paying anything at home, that is when i would get strict and say enough is enough. pay and be responsible or get out.

Answer 3

I though my mom had a pretty fair deal. 1/3 went to her for room and board, 1/3 had to go into the bank for later unexpected expenses and I could spend the last 1/3 any way I chose. In addition I had to help out by making dinner 5 nights a week, do my own laundry and part of the family wash. Assist with my 4 siblings homework and cleaning the house every weekend. In the summer everyone did yard work. I also had to keep a 3.5 grade point average of I was not allowed to have a job outside of the home. All of this was whole in high school. I was able to manage my money well enough by my self by college that I moved out on my own. I started my first paper route at 8 and was doing baby sitting also by 11 and paid yard work, as well as, snow shoveling and sewing. I even did tutoring in junior high school. Just keep your options open. Good luck.

Answer 4

My parents always told us that if we stay home past highschool (ie, won't go to university) then we would have to pay what was fair in rent to rent a bedroom in a house according to the local market plus 1/4 of the bills and 1/4 of the food bills. They basically tried to make it impossible to stay at home because they paid for us to go to university/college.

You might just want to start by taking out "rent" money, including utilities and a bit of the food bill money. I would say that as long as you are leaving your child with $100/week, they should be fine.

Answer 5

I am a 19 year old parent and I give my mom money everytime I get money because she watches my son when I go to school or work and she helps me out. I live in my own apartment, so I pay my rent, cable, phone&cell, and utlities. I also have to feed my son and buy diapers and etc, but I still make sure I give my mom at least $50 if not more because she helps me out the most. Once your child is on their own they'll realize what you as a parent do for them.

Answer 6

my answer to this is if you own the home she shouldn't have to pay or make it something small like 60 bucks a week ($AUD) if you are renting the place then make it equal share. but she should have to pay for bills any thing thats hers. the phone bill you can split up. electritcity bill just divide by however many bill paying people in the house.

my reason is for owning the home because she will never own it so it is unfair to make her pay for something she will never own especially if you have other children that will share it when you are no longer around. definately something to think about.

Answer 7

She should help out with the bills.

She is using the electric, phone, watching tv, proably using the internet and your gas when you have to take her anywhere's. She should be paying atleast 200 bucks a month. She will not find anything cheaper if she did move out on her own and she knows that and that is why she is still living at home with you.
If she does not want to pay then she should get her own place.

Answer 8

i have two friends who's parents do this they charge them 150 a month. It helps teach her reposiblity but it seems like she kind of is already. There is no harm in charging her some rent in the real world adults have to pay their way

Answer 9

A child shouldn't have to pay board to live in a house that has rules or guidelines to follow given by parents. If I were your kid I'd move out to a place where I still had to pay rent but could do whatever the heck I wanted. If you choose to make them pay rent be prepared for a backlash--if you are going to treat them like adults--making them pay room and board then they will act like adults--staying out all night. Just something to think about.

Answer 10

I think it is unfair and stingy to charge your children room and board unless they are 18 or over. One of the responsibilities of parenthood is providing for your children -- shelter, food, and emotional well being.

You can however encourage your child to contribute in other ways. To teach responsibility, maybe have your child purchase and cook one meal a week or month. If your child is wanting a special item (CD, snack foods, jewelry, etc), encourage them to begin purchasing these items on their own.