I got really close to my teacher and told her everything basically about me and she somewhat did the same We even went out to eat together which just isnt a normal student/teacher thing to do especially in the SUMMER However my exboyfriend who is friends with my physical therapist started talking to her under my pt's screenname and she was so happy so I didn't tell her anything & figured that it wouldn't last a week if that but it went on for months and then she finally stopped talking but she got hurt really bad and doesn't even know if he exist or who she was talking to I wanted so bad to tell her but never could and now our friendship is falling apart I think she believes I was the one talking to her she has caught me in a few lies which makes it easier for her to believe but they were silly except for one which was I guess my way of calling out for help from her b/c she is the only person I can trust w/anything and now when I need her even more I dont think I can talk what do I do?
2007-03-04 14:14:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Is this in a high-school setting? or university / college? Me, I find it personally weird situation in which students and teachers are that "close," I mean, I've seen the close "bonds" between a coach teacher and his team but I'm unsure about of this type of relationship. Don't get me wrong, I think that I'm just new to the idea.
Anyways, as for your situation, why was your boyfriend (now your ex) using your screen name? Did you give him permission to do so? (It sounds like you did because you just "let it happen" for a few weeks). I think it's best if you just confessed to her and told her the WHOLE truth and say that you are truly sorry. Who knows, maybe she'd respect you a little bit for the honesty. But still, it was BAD for your ex to do this to both you and her.
2007-03-04 14:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are you? This doesn't sound to me to be a healthy relationship.
Teachers need to keep their relationships with their students at arms length.
Chatting on-line & sharing deep personal secrets with students is definately over the top, & should not be acceptable behaviour from a teacher.
I am sorry that the only person that you can relay on as a confidant is a teacher who has questionable values. But maybe now you can find the oppourtunity to find someone more appropriate to share your deepest thoughts & feelings with.
Keep well!
2007-03-04 14:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I for one am the kind of person who believes that the truth hurts but it will set you free. Either she will believe you or she won't but at least you tried...If you think you are calling out for help then you are calling out for help .... but nobody can help you but you. So come clean .... Sorry for being so straight forward but it sounds like avoiding things has gotten very complicated for you so just bite the bullet.
Good luck and have some faith in your friend.
2007-03-04 14:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by bigtjeeper 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to them personally adn talk out you alls differences and discuss them in a calm and mannerable tone.Agree to the one thing that matters the most to you both in life and receive it.But most importantly, learn from it and never do it again. Say I'm sorry and you both start back to being friends as you were before the conflict occurred.
2007-03-04 14:25:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you're sorry and explain what really happened. If she wants to save the friendship, she'll forgive you. She might need some time to heal the hurt tho, so be patient and let it work it's way out.
2007-03-04 14:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by aweety69 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telling her would make things a lot more complicated...much more than it already is. My advice is not to tell her and continue to keep your relationship with her on a more student/teacher level.
~Good luck ~
2007-03-04 14:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell her the truth and tell her your so sry that u never told her and and ask her if you could start all over but stay as friends.
2007-03-04 14:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by Connie Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her everything and come clean, and then apologize and tell her that you did not have bad intentions in mind. you simply did not now what to do.. and how to react.
these things sometimes happen
2007-03-04 14:19:28 · answer #8 · answered by DD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really tell your friend the truth then maybe if she really cared for you in the first place then she will find it in her heart to forgive you ...
2007-03-04 14:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by asphyxia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it up by doing something that makes them better. make it good to. if you f*ck up now it might be the end. good luck
2007-03-04 14:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by azehriad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋