My Mother has to wear adult diapers but she still insists on wearing low rise jeans with a belly shirt and the Diaper shows through the top of her pants I find it embarassing but she does not do you think she is in denial or maybe it is just part of her ahlzeimers?
2007-03-04 14:11:37 · 12 answers · asked by Seoul Brother 3 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
She is 77 years old.
2007-03-04 14:18:16 · update #1
Alzheimer's is a disease that deteriorate the brain. What you are saying is that she is incontinent. Is that in both urinary and bowel movement? My guess is at some point it will become embrassing especially if you are traveling with her. If this behaviour is primarily because of her dementia which can easily be, compromise with her. Give her a few choices and tell her that her mother would not want her to wear these kind of clothing. These people are very hard to convince, do whatever you think is best for both of you and less stress.
2007-03-04 14:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by Reidi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I’m one of the writers for Gilbert Guide (the foremost resource for everything senior care). We have a new expert blogger on our site who deals with adult incontinence, and I’ve been doing quite a bit of research on how this issue affects people.
Is it humiliating to wear an adult brief? Well, different people see it differently. Some people find it demoralizing to be at a point in their lives when they can no longer control their bodily functions. Others accept it as a fact of life. Throw Alzheimer’s in the mix, and there really is any number of possible explanations.
As to why your mother is letting the adult brief show—I think a larger question is why she’s wearing low cut jeans and a half shirt. Do you live in a tropical climate? I by no means think older people can’t dress in clothes marketed to younger people, but I’m wondering what informs her choices in regards to wardrobe. Has she always dressed that way? If she has Alzheimer’s, she may be actually reliving a younger time in her life. She may be unaware she is wearing clothing that others may deem inappropriate. Or, she may be wearing those clothes because it’s comfortable for her and she doesn’t like the way it feels to have fabric on her stomach. Another possibility: she may be trying to dress as young as she feels, showing she is not her age.
IF the climate where you live is warm—and she’s not putting herself at risk in any way—than the issue is more yours than hers. If she wears that type of clothing in inappropriate situations and you’d like to change that, here’s what I suggest:
• Does your mother like dresses? This is a sure fire way to keep her body covered. Perhaps you could take her dress shopping and point out ones that look pretty on her. Avoid discussing your embarrassment as it may make her defensive.
• Compliment her often when she wears outfits you think are weather/occasion appropriate.
• Be an example. If you don’t want her to wear low rise jeans, don’t wear them around her (if you even wear them at all.)
Alzheimer’s is a confusing topic. If you need some additional information, visit the Alzheimer’s page of our blog at:
http://www.gilbertguide.com/blog/tags/alzheimers-and-dementia-care/
I hope this information helps. If there are any other questions I can answer for you, feel free to email me at info@GilbertGuide.com.
Lori
www.GilbertGuide.com
2007-03-08 21:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by gilbert_guide 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone reaches that age they should be allowed to dress there way just be happy she does use depends, If she refused use of them not that would be embarrassment.
2007-03-04 22:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is truly....
forgettable.
I think the real question should be why would a 77 year old person be caught dead wearing low rise jeans? I don't think those plumber's crack pants look good on anyone.
2007-03-04 22:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by On the upside 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
well yes its too embarassing, but you could not do anything to stop her especially you said shes suffering from ahlzeimers.
2007-03-04 22:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by zagi 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No; I think life's too short to spend time being embarrassed by something.
2007-03-04 22:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by ailee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's the new trend started by a former NASA astronaunt.
2007-03-04 22:19:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why is she wearing belly shirts and low rise jeans at 77??????????????????????
2007-03-08 19:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
when someone reaches around that age, they're accepted by public to wear whatever they want
2007-03-04 22:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by obvlious56 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Better than a stain!
2007-03-04 22:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by Wounded Duck 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋