my son 1 month old will not sleep?

Question

my 4 week old will not stay asleep. when he falls asleep i hold him for 10-15 minutes until he gets into a deeper sleep. Then i lay him down and he starts cry. i just want a nap. just 1or 2 hours. the 2 times he feel asleep in the car today as soon as we got home his dad woke him up then 10 minutes later hand him to me. What can i do?

he just started this a week ago.

i do breastfeed. i cant co sleep because he is on a apnea monitor because he stops breathing sometimes when hes asleep.

Answer 1

wrap him up so hes not cold and try using avent bottles to prevent colics. dont hold him for to long cause then they become brats, and bug all night my son is 6 months old and has been pulling all nighters since he was born but he sleeps near me try manzanilla tea or mint tea maybe he has a stomache ache. good luck hope you have better luck

Answer 2

Swddling works very well for some babies. There are special blankets (the SwaddleMe and Miracle Blanket are two) that make this easy. Swaddling helps the baby feel secure and keeps flailing arms from waking him up.

If your baby likes motion, you could try a battery-powered swing. I haven't tried it, but I've heard that putting the baby in his carseat and setting it on a moving dryer also can lull babies to sleep.

If those don't work, you could try white noise - running a vaccuum or blowdryer or tuning a radio to static. This can help because it sounds like the womb.

Finally, I found out that my son sleeps better if I don't let him get into a deep sleep before I lay him down. If he's crying, I'd pick him up, but you might be able to just get him sleepy and then lay him in a dark, quiet room.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi there. I know how you feel and I can imagine how tired you must be. Honey, have you tried just lying down with the baby? Tuck him in bed with you and I bet he will snuggle right down and just sleep "like a baby". I don't know if you are nursing him or not but even if you are giving him a bottle I imagine (although I personally never tried it) that you could give him his bottle in bed and then the two of you could just take a nice nap together.
If you ARE breastfeeding then I am confused as to why you would not be getting plenty of sleep. Just keep him in bed with you and sleep all you want. I think that was one of the main reasons that I breastfed (that and the health benefits) I never even knew how many times my baby woke up and night! We just slept and nursed all night long. I never missed any sleep at all. During the day when my older children would take a nap, baby and I would cuddle down for one too.
I hope this helps a bit at least. If your baby is only 4 weeks old and you are not nursing him it is still not too long to change your mind. Contact your local chapter of LaLeche League and get some advice on how to relactate and you will be back in business in no time! Really, I have talked to mothers who have done it. Just think of all the time you will save fixing bottles and sterilizing bottles and making formula and all that! You could be resting instead! Give it some thought.
Love and Blessings
Lady Trinity~

Answer 4

I remember what it was like when my kids were babies and I was exhausted, so I sympathize with you!

My usual advice for new parents is to never, ever let your baby sleep with you because it's a hard habit to break, but I really think it's okay for you to lie down with your baby during the day so you can both get some rest. As soon as you're feeling better, you can start teaching your baby to put himself to sleep.

Four weeks is so young. A lot of babies that age don't have a "rhythm" yet. Those first few months are so hard. Don't beat yourself up about it -- your baby will fall asleep and stay asleep soon, I promise!

Good luck, darling!

Answer 5

Honey you need to worry about now, not what may at some point cause a problem.

Co-sleep you have a baby that REQUIRES constant contact, it isn't a want it isn't manipulation it is a need. All babies require different levels of contact. As long as you are not on medications that cause drowsiness, have a sleep disorder, or are morbidly obese you can safely co-sleep. Baby proof your bed, if you have very long hair tie it up, if your partener has any problems that preclude co-sleeping find a different sleep arrangement for him/you.

The keys to babyproofing your bed:
NO waterbeds
NO gaps between headboards, footboards, side rails or the wall. No fluffy blankets. Caution should be used when using pillows.

There are lots of great co-sleeping safety resources out there.

Personally I have a crib with one side removed attached to the side of my bed as a side car. Between 6-8 months my son preferred to sleep in his crib for the first half of the night (I moved him back for my convenience at a certain time during the night) and now at 11 months he is moving back to the crib again, all on his own (with some help)

However, just another quick note, if you are so exhausted you feel you will pass out, get someone else to take the baby for some time. Being that tired isn't safe, not for co-sleeping and not for parenting in general.

Take care, and I promise it will get easier at about 6 weeks. If you need any help or encouragement (or links) e-mail me. I'm not on the computer with all my notes so I'm not going to link to any co-sleeping safety but I have them if you need them.

Answer 6

put him in the crib and let him cry pat his back and let him know you are there put a blanket or something that smells like you in there under the baby so it will not smother him and swadle him tightly that may help. I always held my son and took him to bed with me so I could get some sleep so I know that feeling. Your child just wants to be close to you still since he was so use to being in a nice warm place and could hear your heart beat. You can't spoil him at this age so if that is what you are worried about don't be. My son is now 1 1/2 years old and sleeps all night in his own room no problems at all. Good luck

Answer 7

My two month old is the same way. What I do is I sleep with her. She loves to be on someone and more than anyone me. It can be very tiring but the only way I can get sleep is to lay down on the couch (so I know I won't roll) and lay her belly to belly on me. and because my baby has colic I have to pat her for a long time but eventually we both go to sleep. And unless you are still a heavy sleeper I wouldn't worry about rolling. Your instincts will keep your baby safe. Of course if you are uncomfortable about that then I wouldn't do it.

Answer 8

My mom taught me to put the babies down just as they were starting to fall asleep.. in their own bed... bundled warmly. That way, they're sleepy.. .. they're warm, dry, and full, and they learn from day one to put themselves to sleep.

It sounds to me like he's showing signs of colic. Watch what you're eating carefully and watch his crying patterns. If it's worse at night, or after eating, then talk to his pediatrician about it.

Other than that, just keep doing what you're doing, except I'd put him to bed when he's done eating, rather than holding him an extra 10-15 minutes. That way he'll learn to fall asleep on his own... a skill you'll be thankful for in years to come.

He's still VERY young, but In the next few months he'll thrive on the routines you establish for him. They love routine..

Answer 9

Did you tell his dad to just leave him be? I used to put my child on my chest while I slept it worked like a charm but you have to be careful that the baby wont roll off of you maybe by sleeping in the middle of the bed rather than on the side. It will get better when the baby gets older. Its just a minor adjustment for now.

Answer 10

My son did that round 4 months -- I hated that month! He could take 2 15 minute naps and make contact with it an afternoon! truly start up to concentration on your sons signs and indications of sleepiness. If he rubs his eyes, take him, feed him his bottle, rock him and placed him in his mattress. Do your same recurring for all his naps, regardless of the truth that in case you in reality get the a million/2 hour out of it. make certain his room isn't too magnificent, get some reliable blinds in case you do not have them already. in case you do not have a fan in his room, placed one in to drown out the family members noises. He needs to understand that particular issues advise it truly is nap time. it will get more suitable positive!! To get a reliable morning nap each now and then i could deal with morning like evening, and substances him a bath, feed him, rock him and placed him down. do not trouble about co dozing, if it truly works for you and your toddler, then large! flow for it! more suitable positive nights are particular to come back! you do not could enable him cry it out if you're actually not smooth with it. i could enable my son fuss, yet when he became truly offended i could flow in and get him. reliable luck, I thoroughly sympathize with you! My son became (and nonetheless each now and then is) a terrible sleeper and he only grew to develop into a million. at the moment he's been taking 2, a million/2 hour naps also! Soo problematic! some children only flow through sleep degrees, a more suitable positive area is for particular to come back alongside quickly! carry close in there!

Answer 11

Buy a papasan infant seat. they run about $50 at target. Best $50 we ever spent. The material is warm and cozy and seems to be very comfortable to baby. try it. Our daughter was the same way from birth but when my husband bought her the seat at 2 weeks old. she would sleep for as much as three hours. try it. you wont regret it.