Can sum 1 answer my social questions?

Question

0k, im a 14 year old freshman &i dont "socialize" well. People dont talk 2me in school, guys and girls alike. I have been trying 2 examine myself and see why people dont talk to me like a normal person. Also, it is awkward when i try hanging with others, im not a good socializer and im not funny at all, its like i dont have any thing to give to my associates. I feel like im "dead weight". Example: some one who is a friend of alot of people goes away for a while, when he comes back, every body is like "oh my goodness, i missed you soooo much, did u miss me too?". Now, if i were to go away, no one would care. People that know me (like my friends and family) have to take out time and nerve to talk with me. I also have a low, deep, &quiet voice, so when i talk, people have to bear with me and listen &act interested so i dont feel left out.

My question is, how can i fit in socially &make frendsnormally. Most ppl who talk 2me feel bad or think im hot, i just want to socialize right.

Answer 1

well im a freshman too!n im i kno some1 who is like u in my school, and my advice would be...be confident, look at the positive sides to you, there has to be something that people would enjoy about u, and if u seriously think there is not, just be outgoing and cool about it all, speak up, laugh a little, but still be cool about it, and not like the outcast of the convo. or wut is going on, be fun, n yea,n of course, be yourself!o, and dont think about stuff too hard, just say it, but again, dont b like outcast of it all, just say it, dont think so much about whats right and wrong, but still think about it b4 u say it, n good luck!!!! i kno how ya must feel! =)

Answer 2

Well well well.. you have the solution to your big problem just waiting to happen. Girls love a deep voice. Does your school have a singing class? a group? Start now so you can be with them through the high school years. If they don't have one find a church that has a youth choir... or the regular choir even.
It has been my experience (mother of a shy guy who thought he couldn't sing) that there in the Choir class.. the ration of girls to guys is 4 girls to 1 guy. My son got into the choir and then a couple more guys saw what a good deal it was and eventually the odds turned into 2 girls to 1 guy.. and in their senior year they competed against all the high schools in the state. They didn't get First but they did get a real good Second Place with a musical cleff for their sweaters and a medal on a neck ribbon and a pin.. a nice momento for a shy guy who couldn't sing. Plus all the girls wanted to sing duets with him in the school talent shows. :)

Answer 3

You're at an awkward age for boys, but it sounds like you just need a little more self-confidence. Try to relax and just be yourself. A great way to start feeling at ease is to ask questions....people normally love to talk about themselves. When they talk, make eye contact with them...you don't have to go into a lot...a nod, a smile, or a simple.."I see.." or "really?" keeps the conversation going.
It sounds to me like you kinda get forgotten in the midst of things because you are not loud and boisterous, and don't demand much attention. People can sense when someone is uncomfortable, and that in turn can make them uncomfortable. Try to relax...and don't be so hard on yourself...some people don't ever try and analyze their situation, and they go through a very lonely, frustrated life. You have already made the first step by realizing you want this aspect to improve...the first step is usually the hardest. I really think you will do just fine if you relax, ask questions, and really listen to the answers. It will come more natural the more you do it. Best of wishes...

Answer 4

Hey L-dub, You are only 14, Give your self a break as you have a long way to go in life. It is normal for you to find it hard to fit into something that you are not realy interested in. Find what you like in life and you will find others that do the same. What you need to do for this low self esteem i join a club or group that promotes team building, and personal develpment. There is a world group of people that do just this and they are call Airforce cadets. It will teach you just that. You will learn to fit into what other kids are up to. I have been a teacher doing just that and i have seen alot of kids experiencing this also. So don't feel alone there are a lot of kids out there learning these all very inportant people skills.
Check out this side and you could find your local groups from this site. http://www.aafc.org.au/hqaafc/

Answer 5

i'm a softmore in high school and last year in i was a fish (freshmen) i had the same problum. Just start talking a lot more to people and try to speak up so people would be able to hear you more. something you said confusses me though "most ppl who talk 2me feel bad or think im hot, i just want to socialize right" ok people feeling bad when they talk to you is a bad thing, but people thinking your hot an't. Being hot is a good thing just in case you don't know. hot=cool, cute, good-looking basicly. well i know i probly didn't make sence but i hope this helps.

Answer 6

just because you don't socialize well, doesn't mean you can't fit in. You've just got to either attack or block what life throws at you. Just be yourself because eventually people will come along that'll want to hang out with you and be tight friends. If you try to fit in where you don't belong, then eventually reality will catch up to you. I'm not exactly the most popular person at school but I do what I think is right and life has given me the friends that I like. I'd be glad to talk to you more and be one of you're friends. :)

Answer 7

alright, there are alot of things that might be a problem.
Im assuming your a guy because you said you have a low voice. Now how do you dress? Do you wear things that people wouldnt normally buy or do you wear hollister and hott trendy stuff? Change your outfit.
Are you clean? Do you shower often?
Do you have facial hair? Shave it.
Be clean cut.
Are you tiny? Work out.
Are you short, be funny.
If your overweight, start a diet and eat healty.
What things do you talk about?
If you talk about stupid stuff like comic books and nintendo then that might be why no one wants to talk to you....
Talk about surfing or that hott girl with the skirt over there.
People are stupid in highschool to be honest with you.
Dont waste your time caring so much of what other people think about you. If you try to please the world you'll be unhappy and driven sick, because not everyone will be happy with you or how you dress, act, talk or walk. Someone atleast one person will always be mad at you.
Dont stress making friends. Just be sweet to people. Be respectful. BUT DONT LET PEOPLE WALK ALL OVER YOU.
Help the undeserving. when you see someone sitting alone, sit with them. Walk an extra mile. Honestly... dont worry about getting people to talk to you. Worry about school.
Im pretty popular at my school and I got there because I didnt worry so much about what people thought about me. If you stress over it your gonna get sick. Just be you. and you'll find the most amazing friends ever. Dont gossip about people who arent so cool. Dont treat people badly. Just be kind it'll alllllll work out just fine. good luck!!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Well okay let me just tell you how it is. People are really mean and people are really suckiiiiii. Forget those people because they don't mean anything but just try to socialize and be friendly. One day you'll find a really good friend that you can relate to and tell them everything so just hang in there. And don't feel alone because sometimes I feel the same way and I'm not even ugly.

Answer 10

Sounds like your shy and unsure of yourself.

Suggest you get involved in some sort of school activity, a sport, a club......something. If your not a jock, then maybe try some non-jock sport like golf or tennis? Through that you will develop the makings of a social group. Give it time and don't try to be someone your not. Be true to yourself.