what do i do when i cant do anything?

Question

im 17 and my girlfriend is 16

my girlfriend has this brother who beats her and she cant tell anyone or else he threatens to kill her and i cant tell anyone cuz she is afriad that her bro will do something about it...most likely kill her
but every day he hits her and everyday its getting worse
and more unbearable for her and me

yes ive called like the teen youth hotline and theyve said tell someone or persuade her to tell but she is too scared to do anything and i cant stand her getting hurt while im over here not able to do a thing i need to tell but if i do she said she wont trust me anymore but if i dont it will keep on going on until he goes overboard
her friend kinda sorta knows thats its going on and offered for her but she said her brother will find her and most likely do something bad
once she told me that "its not worth it all..i wish it would end" and she knows suicide is wrong but she is not hesitant to do it

this has been happening for too long
help

Answer 1

If you care enough about her as I think you do you will have to take the chance on her not trusting you. Her very life is at stake!!! Abuse like that will not stop until someone makes it stop. They both need professional help. Him to understand what is causing him to be so abusive and to learn other ways of dealing with his inner rage. She needs it to learn that she is a worthwhile person and to gain a little self esteem and to learn that she does not deserve that kind of treatment and that she is not alone. Many of us have experienced abuse from people we thought loved us or should have loved us. She needs help to deal with all of it. She will be dealing with a form of PTSD and needs the support of those who really care after getting away from the abuser.
Abuse will only get worse if it isnt stopped now. Where are the parents? They probably have the same abusive relationship. Abuse is learned and runs in the family. The Fear is very paralyzing. Her comment in your last statement shows that it is at a very dangerous level. She might cause her brother to fulfill that death wish. Her mental state is very fragile. Is there any way you can get her away from there? ;You might be her only chance at this point. Dont wait. Get her the help she needs. Dont give up. There are shelters for abuse victims where they can feel safe from those who abuse them. As soon as they are safe the legal system can be used to stop the cycle. I hope you are able to help. She will be probably be thankful later, even if she shows anger at first. Be patient with her, but dont give up trying to save her.

Answer 2

Are you sure it's her brother and not a parent? Assuming it's the brother and not a parent then how does the brother get away with it? Is the brother over 18? If he is he could be packed off to jail for assaulting a minor. Couldn't she go live with an aunt or grandmother?
Pray several times a day, giving thanks each time for her delivery from the evil abuser. Envision her happy, healthy and able to live normally and free. Maintain her confidence and stress that suicide is not the answer. Every dark cloud has a silver lining and often our trials that we are to endure are designed to bring us closer to God. Keep the faith and pray often. Envision the positive conditions you (and she) desire.

Answer 3

confident ! it could take place! It surpassed off to me final weekend! i replaced into eating dissimilar vodka to and customer...and the final element I rememebered replaced into leaving the club and then I awoke 3 hours later in a carpark in my automobile ! i don't undergo in suggestions making use of abode, which by potential of how replaced right into a 40 5 minutechronic on the interstate it somewhat is rather frightening becuase i'm going to have died and this is not exciting!!

Answer 4

MY QUESTION TO YOU IS THIS: WOULD YOU RATHER HELP HER AND END THE TORTURE FOR HER BY TELLING SOMEONE OR WOULD YOU RATHER SHE CONTINUE TO BE HURT AND POSSIBLY END UP DEAD?? IT IS HARD TO BETRAY SOMEONE BUT IF YOU LOVE HER YOU WILL TELL SOMEBODY THAT SHE IS BEING HURT....A TEACHER, YOUTH PASTOR, THE POLICE OR EVEN YOUR PARENTS. THESE ARE ALL PEOPLE WHO CAN HELP! PLEASE DO NOT LET THIS GO ON ANY LONGER. GET A PHONE BOOK, LOOK UP CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES AND PLACE AN ANOYOUMOUS CALL. HANG IN THERE AND I PROMISE YOU IN THE END SHE WILL THANK YOU!

Answer 5

takes someone with power to do anything about it.....you are NOT in that position.......there is the police, women abuse centers.......but, she has to be the one to call for help since it is a family issue. Suicide Prevention might help her as well........there is strength in numbers.....talk her into talking to someone else, her problem will not go away by keeping it secret

Answer 6

well, this is BIG. I'm no professinal but Ireally think you should tell someone, if you really love her. Maybe she'll stop trusting you but in the end she'll understand. I mean the least she can do is understand that you did it for her own good.

Answer 7

Talk to a school counselor or teacher about it and give them a 'heads up'. If the counselor (or teacher) suspect something or notice something unusual or suspicious, they are required by law to report any suspected abuse.

Answer 8

Is there a teacher you can talk to? What about your parents? What about her parents? If you love her enough, you should tell someone who can help her.

Answer 9

You have too help her somehow,tell someone about what is going on,this got to stop.

Answer 10

Tell your parents. Make them believe you and they''ll be able to help.