I really don’t know what to do anymore. I am so torn inside from my boyfriend, a desperate aching feeling pulling me towards him but my head is pulling me away. I love him so much after all he is the guy I lost my virginity to. Yet, I feel as if I’m putting so much effort into the relationship and receiving none back. A relationship is supposed to be mutual, neither person is supposed to be controlling over the other. Yet I feel like our relationship is a hierarchy, with him as the dictator and me as the peasant. He’s always telling me what to do, don’t drink, don’t even talk to other guys, eat more you look anorexic (I end up eating when I’m not even hungry), don’t curse… I feel as if he is my father and not my companion. Last night, I had 2 beers and he saw me fall a little and took the beer in my hand away from me. I was completely fine; I’m just a somewhat clumsy person. I told him I was ok to drink I know my limit, besides I rarely drink, the last time was about 4 months ago. I took the drink back, and he said, “Fine go home, if you don’t want to listen to me then leave.” I was hurt I hate when he treats me like this. I walked across the room to my friends and didn’t talk to him (its not like he tried to talk to me either.) While I was mopping around at a ‘party’ which is quite an oxymoronic phrase, I talked to my boyfriend’s friend for a little. We talked about basic topics, such as college and music. Yet as you can imagine my boyfriend flipped. Over one conversation with a guy, my boyfriend kept giving me a dirty glance. When he got up I followed him. He told me to go back to his friend since we seemed so close. I told him to stop I had no feelings whatsoever with that guy it was just a friendly conversation (its not like he doesn’t talk to other girls.) He got mad and slammed the door in my face. A little bit latter he told me that maybe we should stop dating, then when we getting a ride home he goes, where’s my girlfriend? He confuses me so much!!!! It is sooooo frustrating, I feel like I’m going insane, but I can’t help it. As much as I know I should end it, I just can’t. I love him so much and thinking of breaking up with him makes me hysterically cry. I don’t know what to do. When I try to talk to him he says if you’re going to break up with me over something that stupid, then why are we in this relationship? Is it that fragile? Out of fear of breaking up I usually let the situation go. Yet it is a constantly occurring situation with him. Please give me some advice, I’m miserable, yet completely in love with him I just can’t help it….
2007-03-04 12:59:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow, i think i see myself a year ago in you. 'fraid i cant tell you what to do, im still with my guy, doesn't mean its healthy though. i wish you better luck than me tho.
2007-03-04 14:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by fear of the dark 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I been there with the first love and I know that it hurts to see yourself without him. But do not ever let a man have control over you or he will always stay that way. He is your first, so he feels that you are his property and you can never do better than him. That is never the truth, I have moved on plenty no matter how hard it was for me, but I know that if a man could not love me for me and treat me with respect than someone will, and when the time comes and you are with somone else and he is alone, he will regret the day that he let you go. So let him go and watch how he will fall and you continue to float. Good Luck!!!!
2007-03-04 13:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by its_whatever11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly like in actual existence i could be unfastened to do the comparable!! No be apologetic approximately, no jalousie!!! i'm very open minded! LOL X-) playstation : each and all of the guy's who won't be able to see the humorous tale on your question and respond with sentences like: How pathetic and sh*t are people who've had online relationships and have been given a bad journey :'-( WHEI WHEI how unhappy... LMAO :-)
2016-10-02 09:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need some space from him 2 be on ur own 2 find ur self n c if u could be on ur own 4awhile try 2 get ur weight back see if u find other on ur break that would love u better or just treat u rite good luck
2007-03-04 13:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to him. tell him thst you need a boyfriend, not another dad. explain to him how you feel. if he doesnt listen, then you may have to break up. you dont deserve to be treated like that. he is supposed to go through life with you, not lead you through it.
2007-03-04 13:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by gwmice 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would say go have fun, you deserve better, life is short
2007-03-04 13:04:02 · answer #6 · answered by filaha1984 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋