is age 16 bad to have a baby?

Question

well my boyfriend is 18 and i am 16 and we want to have a baby..
we haven't had sex yet and we have been together for 2 years already.. we really want to have a baby....
so should we wait or should we go for it...
we both know that our parents will be okay with it.....

Answer 1

please god....WAIT....you have no idea what it means to be a parent....you are way to young, immautre, and irresponisible to take are of another person.......please wait till you have an eduaction, a job and are with someone who is going to stick around and not go off with some other tramp when the mood strikes him....

Answer 2

I think it's too young. Mainly because your parents will be carrying most of the responsibility. And two years may seem great to you right now, but both of you are still young and life isn't full of promises that can be kept all of the time. But if you think you can handle it, go for it, there is nothing more precious than a child. I am sure it will bring happiness. But also think of the baby's needs, you still have an education to consider and your child needs a responsible parent. Finish school first and decide upon a career. The more life experience you have the better you'll be able to raise a child. But by all means, I really don't want to say it's a bad thing because it's not. But don't rush life sweetie, don't plan things so soon. I am sure that you will have a family in due course, let life surprise you.

Answer 3

I really don't think you want a baby that young. You may think you do, but I would try babysitting or taking care of a baby for a long period of time before deciding to have a baby. I always wanted a baby at 16 also, but never even thought of actually having one. It's very hard work and you want to be able to enjoy your life. Babies are a wonderful gift, but just enjoy being young and going to school right now. I know that sounds dumb, but I am only 19 yrs old and I miss high school. . I haven't had a baby yet, but I babysat 5 kids for 3 yrs and it's very hard. I am now married and have my own house and I am 8 weeks pregnant. Just wait a little bit longer. . it will come soon enough! :) Seriously though try to get a job at a daycare or something. . that will help you out and you will get to deal with babies. Good luck with everything! :)

Answer 4

Wait. Children are better off with more mature, stable parents. Teenagers are better off without children. A baby are not really something you should WANT; parenting, which is a lot of work and time, is something you should want to DO. Think about it. Time will pass. When you get around to sex, use birth control. If you are still together in a few years, with some education behind you, some money in the bank, stable enough to be married, THEN go for it. It won't be long and you (and the baby) will all be happier for it. Patience.

Answer 5

To have a baby, you have to be emotionally, financially, mentally, and physically prepared.

Even though 16 is quite young, if your parents are okay with it and you're okay with it, fine. Even though this may be a bad idea and I do not agree with it because having a baby is a big responsibility and you will have to put off many things in your life on hold. But, if you really want it, you should try and answer these questions first:

1. Would I be willing to go through a pregnancy (cramps, backaches, etc...)?

2. Are our parents 100% backing us up?

3. Are we financially prepared for a baby (hospital bills, diapers, baby food, clothes, crib, dresser, and still have enough money to continue education, etc...)?

4. Are we mentally prepared (are we going to care what our peers say, can we go through with it, will having a baby constantly crying disrupt us, etc...)?

5. Are we physically prepared (having a baby means going through a lot of pain)?

6. Will I be fully backed up (will my boyfriend help, will our parents help us raise the baby, will my friends be okay with it, etc...)?

7. If the baby gets sick, can we support the baby?

8. Can we provide the baby with a stable environment? Is my relationship with my boyfriend stable? Will we, thinking realistically, still be together in 10 years instead of fighting for custody and child support?

If you can think of more questions go ahead. But don't forget to remember the consequences.

Answer 6

it doesn't matter how old or young a person is, age is really nothing but a number. the most important thing is are you mature enough, responsible enough, and do you have the resources. Someone 16 with all of that can take care of a child better than someone 30 with none of those qualities.
Although it would be harder to do things with a child, as far as high school. And college is not for everyone so if you decided you didn't want to go, that would also be okay, as long as you could provide for your child.

Answer 7

I don't think you realize the responsibility a baby involves. You have to be able to support the baby (a place to live, feeding, your health, hospital visits, etc.). You should at least have a high school diploma (the job market is fierce, and it's hard to get a job w/o a diploma).
Also, it's good to have some sort of commitment before you get pregnant. I don't know about your guy, but a lot of them run before the baby is born. I'm not saying yours would, but a lot do.
I would wait until you are a little bit older.

Answer 8

When i was 16 I wanted a baby so badly and i knew i could handle it and i knew i was ready. Thankfully it didn't happen for me and i consider myself so lucky. I'm older now and i realize that when i want to go do something i dont have to worry about taking care of another whole person. Also a lot of young girls think they are prepared but they are not. My friend had a baby when she was 17 and i love them both to death, but she wasn't ready to raise a baby and now her daughter is two and she swears and hits people and isn't disciplined properly and my friend doesn't know what to do. Take some time to think things over. You have your whole life to have babies. Take some time to enjoy being an adult before tying yourself down.

Answer 9

Graduate high school first at least. I really think you should go to college first also. Having a baby really does change your whole world. Take some time to do what you want to first. I just had my first baby and I'm 27. I'm very happy I had time for myself first. If you want to have sex with your boyfriend fine but I think you should get on birth control and use condoms. At least til you are a little older.
Good Luck.

Answer 10

Jeepers, think about the fact that you have not yet finished high school. You do not have a well paying job. You have no job experience. You have no possible way to earn enough money to support a child. It's going to cost you at least 20,000 dollars to raise that child to its 18th birthday. Where are you going to get that money? You're going to be spending the rest of your teenaged years trying to find enough work for money to feed, clothe and provide for any medical expenses for that child while trying to finish school. All of your friends will be out partying and enjoying their youth, but not you. The child will rapidly become a burdon to you. It will realize that you regret its birth and start to hate you. Likely it will turn to crime because you didn't love it the way you expected to because you were far too young to realize what a responsibility it was to have and raise a child.

Answer 11

can you afford it? how will you finish school? do you even plan on finishing school/going to college? having a baby means you can't work for a while so your boyfriend would have to be the provider. think about this carefully before you make any decisions. in my opinion, wait. 16 & 18 is way too young to be having babies.