I am 7 months pregnant with our second child. We have been together for 12 years. In the first year of the relationship he cheated on me. I was 15 he was 18. And then when I was pregnant with our first child I refused to give him sex even though he was always wanting it and he kept saying" I'll just get it somewhere else" And I blew off the threats. Well he wasn't kidding. He cheated again. This pregnancy I want sex all the time and he doesn't. Some nights he does and seems fine with it, other nights he makes me feel diseased! Now he keeps talking about how I should let him get a girlfriend and all this talk about three-some's!! It makes me really upset because I instantly flashback to my last pregnancy and I feel like he could possible cheat on me again or maybe already has but is asking my permission so I can't say he cheated. Am I crazy or just paranoid??? I think he thinks he is being funny and is trying to annoy me but he is really hurting me. What should I do??
2007-03-04 12:32:01 · 34 answers · asked by kcronin79 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Thanks for all your input. And there is no trailer park. This was a serious question and that wasn't really called for.
2007-03-04 12:40:25 · update #1
He's a jerk, you're a fool, and he has never stopped cheating on you.
2007-03-04 12:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by Vegan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were way to young at the start of this relationship. Neither of you had finished growing or developing as people. It's pretty clear he's never been committed to a monogamous relationship, and now at age 30 you see the real guy. He wants an open relationship, and very likely it's been open for him throughout - he's just good at hiding it, or you've been too busy with your child, plus you just didn't want to see the problems.
You don't sound like a match in any sense. Although you have children together, it's probably best for everyone if you split up and do the best you can to raise the kids well, working together but not living together.
2007-03-04 15:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you even have to ask if he is a jerk or a normal guy? You should know the answer yourself...HE IS A JERK! You should try to date someone else...then you'll know other guys are completely opposite of your boyfriend. You've been together for 12 years w/ 2 kids...but he still won't marry you...? That should give you a clue how serious he is with you.
2007-03-04 12:39:28 · answer #3 · answered by RetroBunny69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex- Husband didnt even do that to me darling. this guy is sounding like a real jerk from what your saying. I mean I am reallly really upset with my ex and I have some really hurt feelings from him and I can say some bad things but I wont and he still never treated me like that when i was pregnant. those threats are hurtfull and mean. yes that is abuse. when someone tears you down like that that is verbal abuse and emotional abuse. Maybe I dont have room saying this but that sounds like a relationship you should not be in. i just left a man and I can understan the thoughts that probably come to mind after my comment but I think you really would be better off without him. I would be crying every night if I were you. I just think you could do so much better ya know. and just because you had this guys child at 15 you shouldnt punish yourself forever. There is so much better out there for you. really. Goodluck. I hope I was of help.
2007-03-04 12:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by moonlitocean2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how this talk makes you feel ? but as a man i will say it sounds like he has no respect for you and you would be better off with out him he does sound like a jerk ! if the girl o loved fell pregnant i would be over the moon and just want her to in best condition mental and physical and do what ever i could to show how much i loved her but then maybe that's just me !
2007-03-04 13:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by fulhamish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerk and normal guy mean the same thing for about 95% of us men... He may be just trying to annoy you, or "get back" at you for not having sex during the first pregnancy, but either way, all the kinky talk of 3somes has a real base and he will keep cheating on you. Tell him to shape up or ship out...
2007-03-04 12:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by RNcalledEd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Gazpacho!!!
You should suggest bringing in another man.If he reacts crazy then you let him know that thats how you feel when he wants to bring in another woman. Be prepared though.....make a list of fake names of guys you want to invite in (first names only), be sure to include some names of some of his friends. That way if he acts like it doesn't bother him you can show him the list. Then he will think youre a little more serious. No man really wants to have to "sword" fight in bed,and the fear of possibly accidently touching another man with his penis, or the other man being "bigger".....well you get the idea.
Other than that he sounds like a real JERK!!!!!!
2007-03-05 00:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by nov1268 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a down right piece of **** .What was he doing with a 15 yr old at that age? Well you found out didn't you? Would you want your son to do that ? What are you teaching your children? Dump his *** now . Its not that hard to raise a kid by yourself. You should not have even had kids with this guy. No decent respectable guy would do that.He could give YOU and YOUR CHILD a disease -
Gonorrhea causes PERMANENT BLINDNESS. I don't know who to blame more him or you for putting up with it. Remember the saying - " If you do it once shame on you - If you do it twice shame on me." and bust his *** for child support.
2007-03-04 12:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by primamaria04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve so much better than that. If your boyfriend really respected you then he would not even say those things, not only because your together but also because your the mother of his unborn child. Granted a guy could feel a little "weirded" out by pregnancies, but he should also try to sympathsize with the fact that your probably not feeling yourself as well. Also, his history speaks for itself.
2007-03-04 12:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by puppylove21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should throw him out to the curb. He has cheated on you at least twice and now wants permission to cheat? He is not a jerk he is a moron, idiot, cheater and worse. Get rid of him and get yourself tested for STD's immediately as you have a baby on the way and you need to know before the baby is born if you have any STD's or not as you may have passed them on to the baby if you have one with no symptoms.
2007-03-04 12:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, he's a jerk and you should leave him and find someone who will respect you. He needs to keep himself in his pants and not roam around, especially as father of soon to be a second child. A complete jerk!
2007-03-04 12:36:09 · answer #11 · answered by Randy W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋