I know it a bad thing to ask but she says that she just wants to kill herself now and I don't want that to happen.
2007-03-04 12:18:49 · 19 answers · asked by Jenny Q 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she now wants to kill herself she and I are 22.
2007-03-04 15:20:22 · update #1
Just be there for her. She's not going to feel better. But atleast you can let her know you'll be there for her, if he wants to talk about it. Or even if she just wants to not talk about it. Maybe try to get her to keep things in perspective. Try to tell her that her brother wouldn't want her to be depressed or to hurt herself.
2007-03-04 12:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by rklst9pitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Thats rough. I don't know if you can. But you need to be there for her, and you might need to tell someone who you trust about how your friend is feeling. If she is serious about wanting to kill herself then you might need to take her to a doctor or somewhere where she can get help to cope with all of the jumbled emotions she is feeling right now.
There probably isn't much you can do to make her feel better, other then just being a good friend to her. And in the long run thats really all you need to do.
2007-03-04 12:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mike S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww, I'm sorry this happened. There's not a lot you can do other than be there for her when she needs you, listen to her when she talks, and maybe bring over a funny movie to watch to help distract her. I know it's hurting you too, but try not to bring up the brother for a while. Let her bring up any talk of him. Your friend will most likely be okay and will not kill herself. She's just traumatized and is not able yet to picture living her life without him in it. Good luck.
2007-03-04 12:24:25 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B a friend 2 her if she talks about killing herself tell her some positive things about herself and if anymore tell her parents
2007-03-04 12:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by iambeautiful65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. She needs to grieve - it's a vital part of the healing process. Help her find a grief counselor, or possibly, if she's religious, her priest, rabbi, pastor, etc. You aren't qualified to get her through this, but as a friend you need to be there for her. You need to know that sometimes being the friend of a grieving person can be hard also. Sometimes you will do too much, making the individual unduly dependent on you. It can also be emotionally and psychologically taxing on you, so have a support structure in place for yourself, too.
2007-03-04 12:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mangy Coyote 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just listen to her... dont try and fprce her to do anything. she is hurt more than you can know and she just needs someone to listen. be the shoulder and brign her some comfort food that she likes... and dont leave her she need to feel like someone is there to listen when ever she needs it. as for her wanting to kill herself just look her in the eyes and say ... would never want you to do that to herself. this happened to my friend when his sister drove her car into a tree and i found that if i just stayed with him he knew someone cared about him enough to not go and hurt himself. its a hard thing to deal with. but there is no way of helping them get over it. only they can do that so just be there and protect her... thats the best i can explain it. sorry. good luck
2007-03-04 12:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's under 18, tell her parents immediately or call one of the sucide or crisis hotlines listed in any phone book (usually on the inside front cover). If she's over 18, make her seek professional help. This can be a suicide hotline, a member of the clergy, even their family doctor.
Be her best friend above all and support her in any positive ventures.
2007-03-04 12:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by mabster60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to ask her how is she feeling and why she wants to kill her self and try to know why did her brother kill him self cause maybe the proplem is the sitch that made her brother kill him self and tell her that she might meet her bro in heaven and live is moving on even tho she might cry somtimes or think that if he is dead why would she live but shes gotta move on with her life and remember all the good times she had with her brother cause if she cry and scream he will not come back.
2007-03-04 19:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing is to be there for her. Talk her through the feelings she is going through. If she's talking about hurting herself, see to it that her parents know or get her to call a hot line and speak with a professional. Please don't wait. You wouldn't want to be going the what she's going through now.
2007-03-04 12:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by kayjay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry for her loss.
Just be there for her. Ask her if you can come over. If she wants to cry, give her a shoulder to cry on. Let her know that you are always there to listen to her and to talk.
2007-03-04 12:22:37 · answer #10 · answered by Kali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋