reading all your e-mails has helped and i want to thank every one of you who replied and have given me strength tank you xxxx
2007-03-04 12:17:44 · 8 answers · asked by lees 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hello, I am really sorry to hear about your Dad. My son lost his Nan when he was four. I found this lovely story by Doris Stickney and used it to help my son. I hope it helps you too
Waterbugs and Dragonflies :
Explaining Death to Young Children"
Down below the surface of a quiet pond lived a little colony of water bugs. They were a happy colony, living far away from the sun. For many months they were very busy, scurrying over the soft mud on the bottom of the pond. They did notice that every once in awhile one of their colony seemed to lose interest in going about. Clinging to the stem of a pond lily it gradually moved out of sight and was seen no more.
"Look!" said one of the water bugs to another. "One of our colony is climbing up the lily stalk. Where do you think she is going?" Up, up, up it slowly went....Even as they watched, the water bug disappeared from sight. Its friends waited and waited but it didn't return...
"That's funny!" said one water bug to another. "Wasn't she happy here?" asked a second... "Where do you suppose she went?" wondered a third.
No one had an answer. They were greatly puzzled. Finally one of the water bugs, a leader in the colony, gathered its friends together. "I have an idea". The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk must promise to come back and tell us where he or she went and why."
"We promise", they said solemnly.
One spring day, not long after, the very water bug who had suggested the plan found himself climbing up the lily stalk. Up, up, up, he went. Before he knew what was happening, he had broke through the surface of the water and fallen onto the broad, green lily pad above.
When he awoke, he looked about with surprise. He couldn't believe what he saw. A startling change had come to his old body. His movement revealed four silver wings and a long tail. Even as he struggled, he felt an impulse to move his wings...The warmth of the sun soon dried the moisture from the new body. He moved his wings again and suddenly found himself up above the water. He had become a dragonfly!!
Swooping and dipping in great curves, he flew through the air. He felt exhilarated in the new atmosphere. By and by the new dragonfly went happily on a lily pad to rest. Then it was that he chanced to look below to the bottom of the pond. Why, he was right above his old friends, the water bugs! There they were scurrying around, just as he had been doing some time before.
The dragonfly remembered the promise: "The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk will come back and tell where he or she went and why." Without thinking, the dragonfly darted down. Suddenly he hit the surface of the water and bounced away. Now that he was a dragonfly, he could no longer go into the water...
"I can't return!" he said in dismay. "At least, I tried. But I can't keep my promise. Even if I could go back, not one of the water bugs would know me in my new body. I guess I'll just have to wait until they become dragonflies too. Then they'll understand what has happened to me, and where I went.
And the dragonfly winged off happily into its wonderful new world of sun and air.......
God Bless and I sincerely hope this helps others who face or have felt the same loss.
2007-03-04 12:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by barneysmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I am so so sorry that your Dad has this terrible disease. My father died of lung cancer nearly 5 yrs ago now, he had been a fit man all his life & was struck down by this terrible disease. I feel your pain & I feel your sadness BUT please make the most of your Dad now & let your daughter be with him as much as possible...Its the only loving & good thing to do...be brave for now & when its over then fall apart & your hubby will be there for you, cos by that time your dad will be at peace & have no more pain, I know its hard & I can truly understand what your going through BUT trust me here it gets easier as time goes by.....Love & Peace treasure, take care
2007-03-04 12:28:46 · answer #2 · answered by Denise W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lees you dont have to thank us im just glad answers helped you a bit wish i could do more to help my best friend in work just lost her mam to cancer and i dont know what to be saying to her so im just there when she needs me wish i could do the same for you take care hope your dad is not in too much pain he is in my prayers
2007-03-05 12:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dad is gonna die! that's so sad. whats is he dying from? oh that's so sad. i havn't sent you any emails. oh that's is so sad. oh i feel so bad about your daughter. i'll pray for you which is somthing i don't usually do, but this seems like a one of those accations. I'm so sorry. Good Luck! Best of Wishes!
2007-03-04 12:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jacod Vs Edward?...Edward Wins! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't around for the original post but I wish you peace and faith that he will be in a better place watching over you and his granddaughter.
2007-03-04 12:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by tylw85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless you, take care xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
2007-03-04 12:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by rachellou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no thanks hun, its an honour to here about you love for all of you family members so so humbling xxxx
2007-03-04 12:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by nendlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your welcome
2007-03-04 12:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by PrincessC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋