( i know i know ) its bad that he sleeps with us...but he is 5 months old and im want to try this tonight...any advice or has anyone else been through this? im thinking about trying the ferber method? ( leave baby to cry and then go in after 5 minutes, leave then go back in 10 and so on, but you dont pick them up) help!!!
2007-03-04 12:12:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
my reasoning for having him in our bed is he was colic and eventually by 3 months fell asleep on me and im a senior in high school, so getting up for school very early + crying baby = over tired mom who is dying for sleep and having him in our bed seemed to help him sleep and me
2007-03-04 12:33:10 · update #1
i just went through this last month trying to get my baby (now 6 months old) out of my bed and into hers... this is what i did:
i started out during her daytime naps by putting her down on my bed and lying next to her (i also found that she only likes to sleep on her tummy), i would surround her with pillows... once she was asleep i would get up and go about with whatever i needed to do, checking on her frequently... as soon as she would stir i would go to her, pat her butt and back and tell her that she was ok... give her a pacifier and she'd go back to sleep... after she did this for all of her naps, i started putting her down on my bed at night to sleep next to me.. i wouldn't let her sleep on me, just next to me.. after a few nights of this, i started putting her in her crib.. played some soothing lullabies for her, and patted her back until she fell asleep.. she now sleeps by herself, and i don't have to pat her normally at all.. i don't believe in the ferber method, letting your baby cry it out, b/c my baby will cry and scream for hours.. plus.. your baby needs to know that you didn't just leave him in there and forgot about him.. he'll feel alone and scared. give him a few days to get used to his crib and then he should do pretty good for you... like i said, it'll take time, and some nights you may feel like just taking him to bed with you, but it'll get easier if you get him into his crib now... you can always stand by him and pat him and give him a pacifier, and if he really gets upset, pick him up, calm him down, and then put him back down.. good luck.. hope this helps
2007-03-04 17:27:39 · answer #1 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is NOTHING wrong with co sleeping as long as its done safely. So don't think its "bad" for your baby to still sleep with you at 5 months. Babies are meant to sleep with their parents. I read about an anthropologist who was working somewhere that I can't recall, but a native mother asked this anthropologist if it was true that American women put their children in cages when they sleep. So why would you want to cage your child while s/he sleeps? Don't let the dogmatic folk make you think you are doing your child a disservice if you are co sleeping. The ferber method is quite cruel IMHO unnecssary. Do your own research.
2007-03-04 14:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by hollyberry 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you put his crib next to your bed first for a few nights and than try to move him to another room.
And why you say it's bad for the baby to sleep with you? As long as he is safe, NEVER feel guilty because you enjoyed your child. That's the best time of your life and if sleeping together with him makes you even happier, go for it.
5 minutes is tooooo long for the baby to cry. If you gonna do the Ferber method, start with 2 minutes.
I never let my baby cry, it brakes my heart. He is 6 months now, very calm and happy baby.
Good luck with everything, and please don't listen to anybody but your own instincts and make sure your child feels that you love him.
2007-03-04 12:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Just_Me 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You might want to try an camp out in his room for a couple of nights. That way you can go to him faster when he need you. He need reasurance that you are still there for him. I would still stay will him when he falls asleep for another couple of nights. First few nights reasure him if he needs the physical contact and then slowly phase it out. It's quite hard to hear your little one cry! No eye contact or conversations. Softly tell him it's sleep time and tell him mommy is right here for him. Best of luck!
2007-03-04 13:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by Allie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your method sounds wonderful. Make sure the baby has been feed, changed and not hurt and then let the baby cry. It doesn't hurt for them to cry once in while and yes the key to this method is Don't Give In at all. Good luck with this I know this is going to be hard for you but it will work out at the end and everyone will get a better night sleep.
2007-03-04 12:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by LoraBaby 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
That is what worked for us. And believe me, it will possibly be the longest five minutes you could imagine. And it won't take just one day! So don't give up! Other things that might help.. .. make sure you have a nightlight in his room. sometimes music also helps, especially if it was music that was playing when he slept in your room. Avoid the temptation of putting something in his crib that might smell like you or remind him of you, cause things like pillows and blankets at this age could be hazards in a crib. Good luck!!
2007-03-04 12:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by ashley_david_ny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not a fan of crying it out. You should teach your child to be relaxed and comfortable in his crib so he can learn to put himself to sleep. Do a bedtime routine, put him down in his crib when he's calm and happy, and leave the room. When he cries, go in there, comfort him, put him back down again when he's calm and start again. Stay patient and consistent and the effort will pay off.
2007-03-04 12:28:19 · answer #7 · answered by twinmom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
possibly there's a scent or the warmth temperature of your bodies that makes her gentle. Regardless, you could desire to smash this habit in the different case you will undergo many extra sleepless nights. And undergo in strategies, this could final for YEARS.....i could advise re-arising your mattress ecosystem in her crib - so possibly take the sheet off of your mattress and place it interior the crib.
2016-10-02 09:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just stand outside his\her door and when he or she gets out just say get in that bed and wait for him or her to go to sleep.
2007-03-04 12:20:19 · answer #9 · answered by Diva_Queen 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why oh why do people put their child into their bed?
put him in his crib and leave, it's that simple he is very young so he has no choice-but to eventually fall asleep, he is not the only person in the world who doesn't need sleep-lol-put some soft toys in, mabey a wind -up soft thing, how about a little radio left on his dresser-but very low volume?
2007-03-04 12:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋