I have a very dear friend who is gay. I kinda already knew he was before he told me b/c of stereotypical reasons. Is it wrong of me to have told him I already figured that he was gay? He seemed okay with my saying that - now I'm overanalyzing & hoping I didn't offend him. I'll ask him when we talk again, but we don't talk every day & it may not be until next weekend that I can ask him if he was offended. If you are a gay man, would you be offended?
2007-03-04 10:59:13 · 11 answers · asked by sweet pea 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
OK, how I knew he was gay - b/c he's sensitive, considerate, kind & loving, talented & artistic, impeccable-dressed, he's good at everything involving decorating or cooking & I just knew, ya know? How it came up? He said, "BTW I'm gay," and I was like, "yeah, I know" & started explaining why - like he's so caring & good at everything, I just knew. Then I thought, "how stereotypical of me!" Even if it's a positive stereotype, I felt wrong to associate that with being gay. I feel guilty & hope he doesn't think less of me b/c of my slip. However, he's so great, I think he'll forgive me once I express my profound regret for my ignorance.
2007-03-04 14:09:07 · update #1
I'm torn between Middleman & Robert with a Hat for best answer. Robert - email me - I'll be your friend! Thanks to all who answered with serious answers. I have to put this to a vote!
2007-03-04 14:14:25 · update #2
Well, a lot of people think they are "passing", and it's an assault to their delusion. I know I was a little disappointed with one person when I came out, when they responded "well, DUH".
2007-03-04 11:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 05:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. But then again, most people are surprised when I tell them I am gay. I guess it's just about how people want to be perceived by other people. Some act 'straight' but it just doesn't fly. A person ought to be who he is without trying to project a certain image. I don't try to 'butch it up', what I project is who I am.
2007-03-04 11:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by phxguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might anger me a little at first because anyone who's in the closet is trying to keep a secret and well, no one likes to know they're doing a bad job being secretive but i'm sure if he was offended, he'll come around.
2007-03-04 11:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by puzzlite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on how you revealed your "idea". If you were in a comfortable situation and asked quietly if this person was "gay", possibly he would not be offended.
I hope things work out.
Rose P.
2007-03-04 11:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by rose p 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a Gay, I'm a heterosexual woman with quite a few gay friends. And I do not believe that a Gay will be offended when you let him know, that you knew before he told you. Because that only shows him, that you liked him just the way he was/is and that you accepted him as a whole person and did not reduce him to his sexual preference...
2007-03-04 11:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
The shame you feel is trusting the surface stereotypical traits of the homosexual man, not your friend's emotional response to your suspicion he was gay.
This is totally about you. Not your friend.
2007-03-04 11:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by Just Ask Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no. knowing someone is gay before they tell you is good, cause now they dont have to stress over comming out to you. But if they are out to themselves, its a good idea to tell them that you know.
2007-03-04 14:22:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not gay, and not a man. I am however curious about the answers to this question, so i will be back to check.
2007-03-04 11:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by kelstar 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
No, I wouldn't be offended, and I speak from the heart, if you know what I mean. Since he came out honest with you about his personality, I know he wouldn't have minded you being honest with him also. In fact, if I were him, I'd treasure you more as a friend. Some people confront others they suspect as gay without even thinking how the guy would feel. You did have your suspicions, but you kept it to yourself. I wish I have a friend like you.
2007-03-04 11:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by Dowland 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
aslong as you don't call him a fag a point in his face and laugh. then everything is all good
2007-03-04 13:10:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋