I am a 26 year old male and I want a circumcision, should I do it?

Question

I want to do it for self esteem reason. I am afraid to take off my pants in front of a girl because I'm afraid she'll be disgusted when she sees my foreskin. I think if I were to be circumcise, I won't have that feeling any more.

Wow, after reading the article that TLH linked me to, I'm not sure if I want a circumcision anymore. Hopefully more women will read these articles and will be curious to see what it's like with an uncircumcise man. I might have to move to another country and find a wife their where uncircumcised man are more accepted like England.

Answer 1

Well ultimately that's something only you can decide. You're going to have a lot of people give you different opinions. Often times, these folks are broken down into 3 groups:

1) pro-circumcision: basically, the folks who were cut at birth and don't particularly know what it's like to be uncircumcised. To them, particularly in the United States, Canada and Australia, they are the majority and as such think theirs is more normal and better looking than the rest. Sometimes women can enter this group, who support circumcision for its aesthetic reasons, as well as for the decreased risk of HPV transmission (marginally lower, but it exists) and other STD's (as recent studies have somewhat conclusively shown). Since many circumcised men don't recall being uncircumcised, they aren't the best judges of sensitivity loss/gain/sustainability. They also tend to automatically lend approval to your endeavor.

2) anti-circumcision: a lot of uncircumcised men, dissatisfied circumcised men, or men who were forced to get circumcised when they were younger, resented it, and weren't pleased with the outcome. They speak from the complete opposite side as those who have been circumcised; many aren't (and thus think *theirs* is the best) or have but didn't want to be (and miss what they used to have). A lot tend to use 'anti-mutilation' talk and the such, as well as cite the inconclusiveness of some studies about STDs and the like. Anti-circumcision folks also particularly like to talk about how you'll likely lose sensitivity as a result of the operation (it is, theoretically possible, and some of the guys 'cut as adults' could probably attest that it happens a bit, but most studies are inconclusive and I've heard men who were cut as adults say inconclusive things). They tend to automatically discourage/mock your desire to get circumcised.

3) Time wasters: these are the wonderful joys of Yahoo Answers who like to put things like "I have an 8ft unit" in place of a real answer.

Basically, now that we've gotten that out of the way, I totally know what you mean about being afraid to get naked in front of a girl. I'm definitely the same way. If you find your foreskin that debilitating, then yes, go ahead and get circumcised. You won't experience any major negative health difference (before those anti circumcision folks get on my case, HEALTH benefits, not sensitivity...) though you might lose some sensitivity, and of course will have to undergo the operation itself (which itself shouldn't be painful because of anesthetics, but the recovery will likely range from mildly uncomfortable to medium painful depending on your pain tolerance, and the doctor's skill). In an ideal world, you should be able to find a girl who will love you because of who you are and not whether your penis has some extra skin or not. I think the world is what we make of it, so we could live in that ideal world. But because I know what you're going through, I'm going to say you need to ask yourself this: "will i regret doing it?". If you even possibly think you might answer "yes", then don't get circumcised and instead find a better girl. If you have no hesitation about saying "no", then go ahead.

Best of luck, I hope you'll let us know what you ultimately decide.

Answer 2

Cutting off part of your penis will not help with your self esteem problems. In fact, it might make it worse. Did you know that 90% of women who had experienced with both cut and uncut men prefer uncut? It's true - see http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/60750.html

But any woman who would reject you because you have/don't have foreskin is too shallow to bother with anyway. (And once you drop your pants, you'll most likely have an erection, and an erect intact penis doesn't look a lot different from one that's been chopped; it just works better if it's all there.) Women care much more about your character and the way you treat them than what's in your pants.

Do some reading on this site and others. A few people who have been cut have a self-esteem problem that sometimes makes them recommend circumcision for everything from ingrown toenails to sinus infections. If you look at the people who've really thought about this issue, you'll find that most of us see no reason to mutilate our man parts. Really -- it's not going to make you any more confident, and it's likely to make you a less desirable mate. Talk to ssomeone about your feelings of inferiority and leave your penis the way God/nature intended.

Good luck -- I know it's difficult to lack confidence, but there are (non-surgical) things that can help a lot. And when you finally do work up the courage to drop your pants and she says, "Mmmmmmmmmmmm," you'll know you're on the road to feeling very good indeed about yourself!

Answer 3

It's your penis so you need to feel good about it.

Your girlfriend may like it like that a lot of women do.

I know this is no help to you but there are more and men now a days that are not circumcised then there used to be.

But the truth is you need to do what makes you happy and feel the best.
Go see the Doctor and see how much it will cost and how painful it will be that may help you to decide.

Answer 4

Uncircumcised guys have the benefit of choosing what they want. It's up to you; so you'll end up satisfied no matter what. :)

Girls are most likely to say that they prefer one side that they're used to. I'm a moderator at a teenage site (GovTeen) and many girls have said that they prefer uncircumcised penises, and they're from the US. So many girls end up liking it despite what they say at first. In addition, an erect uncut penis looks almost the same as a cut one.

It's up to you. Personally I wouldn't since I haven't had a problem with it, and you never know; she many end up liking it. You don't have a time limit to having it done. In some areas being uncircumcised is rather common, such as in the West coast (circumcision rates have been falling). In addition, despite what most brainwashed people say, cleaning isn't an issue; you just slide it back and take five seconds to rub it, and it feels good; but I'm sure you know that already. :)

Answer 5

Google the subject first and learn the pro's and cons of what you want to do. a lot of the advice you have recieved so far is crap, if you have an eyelid removed your eyeball will be easier to clean, doesn't mean your eye will work any better tho, In my opinion foreskins are there for a reason and shouldn't be removed unless it's a medical emergency(like stuck in your bicycle chain )there are some very informative websites covering this subject so research it first, can't fit another if you decide your not happy with it all the best
Paul

Answer 6

circumcision as an adult is intensely painful. we're talking childbirth level of painful (ok, maybe a bit les sthat that) OUCH. Also, Women really don't mind an uncircumsized penis! I think that if you consult a doctor over this, s/he will tell you exactly this, and probably try and talk you out of it. it's really not a good idea. be confident about your body! Your girl will love u for it! OH! and keep in mind, percentages of uncirmcumsized males is very much on the rise now so most women have seen at least one at some point. I certainly have, and I find them as attractive as an uncircumsized penis. good luck.

Answer 7

notice: My mothers and dads had me circumcised as an toddler. confident, it is going to likely be unlawful, until the affected person is over 18 and delivers consent for the operation. And what you stated approximately feeling like an entire human, i'm the comparable way... i think kinda "broken."

Answer 8

I`m a women, and I think an uncircumcised penis is just fine!!I don`t think it`s a wise idea to have an unnecessary surgery!! There are risks!!

Answer 9

Yes, you should. It doesn't hurt at all because of the pain-killers that are used during this procedure. The advantage is that you will cut the rate of infections with STDs by about half. It is much healthier not to have a foreskin. Circumcision does not affect sensitivity at all.

Answer 10

You should talk with your Physician, it is considered better for reason of cleanliness to be circumcised. The girl you will ask to be your mate for life , will appreciate it as well. Your Doctor can schedule the circumcision, and explain to you what you need to know about it, if you ask. Make an appointment.