Please don't judge me, instead help me
2007-03-04 10:06:30 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you have state assistance, the county will force you to establish paternity when the baby is born. I recommend going through the county child support office because it won't cost a penny to you if you are the one pursuing a paternity/child support case. And try not to worry about custody too much. Unless there is something seriously wrong with you like a drug problem or something, the state rarely would place a newborn infant away from the mother. Especially if you breastfeed. Then it is obvious that the child is very dependent on you and you are a good mother to want to give it the best.
And don't worry, I would never judge someone for having multiple possibilities of fathers for their child. Just remember this. First of all, you're not the only one(I know that for a fact!). And second, everyone makes mistakes. It's what you do with that mistake that makes the difference.
2007-03-04 10:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for me not to judge you. But this it what happens when you do this kind of thing and don't use protection. I hope you learn from your mistakes and don't just jump from one man to another. As far as what to do I mean there is 1 thing to do that is a DNA testing through the courts as all the other peopel on this panel have suggested, that's the only way your gonna find out. It is expensive and it will take a while for the results to come through. It's not just pregnancy that you have to worry about but what about all the nasty things you could catch from so many men?. Be careful next time.
2007-03-04 10:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not my job to judge you! Having said that, you may want to discuss this with your doctor before the baby is born & ask him about doing a paternity test on the three possibilities. There's nothing to it, they just swab the inside of the cheek, & the same will be done to your baby.
2007-03-04 10:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if there is a way if you get the hair or something like that from the men involved if that would help with the DNA.
Who do you want it to be ? Would one of the men be a complete jerk about it, maybe you don't want the real dad to know ? Go talk to a counselor/minister about this.
2007-03-04 10:17:48 · answer #4 · answered by Carlene W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the sme problem, i cheated on my bf twice and got pregnant so it was between 3 guys, all i can tell you is to tell all 3 guys, and make sure they all know that they are not the only possibilty, and when the baby is born have a paternity test done, its the only sure way to know.
2007-03-04 11:09:10 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll not judging u but next time u really should use a condom..... if u cant pin point who the father is all 3 of them will need to take a paternity test when the baby is born .. simple ...
2007-03-04 10:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. The only way to know for sure is to get a paternity test once the child is born. You should speak with your ob/gyn to see how that all works - they will know where/when/how to get it all taken care of. It can be pricey. Good luck!
2007-03-04 10:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by Hilary M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u are 14 weeks that means u got pregnate 15-16 weeks ago...Hope that helps
2007-03-04 10:57:55 · answer #8 · answered by jttatum2005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi when the baby is born take a perterienty test to see who the father is
2007-03-04 10:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by sandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not figure it out without a paternity test.
That way there is no confusion and no-one gets hurt by loving thischild and then finding out it's not there's.
2007-03-04 10:19:14 · answer #10 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋