any soon-to be-mothers out there my age?
i need a few encouraging words.
2007-03-04 09:38:34 · 20 answers · asked by nuklear16301 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well I will tell you that I was 18 when I had my first child and while I won't say it was easy it was doable!!! Everyone said I would be a bad mom and that I wasn't ready. Well 10 years later they are eating there words! I have a great son who does just as well as other kids who's moms were married and older when they had them. I am happily married (not to his dad but a much much better man) and have 2 other great kids. I don't think every 18 or 19 year old is ready to have a baby but not every 25 year old or 30 year old makes a good mom either!!! Keep your head up and don't let people discourage you. If you feel that you can do this than I think you can too!!
2007-03-04 09:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by got all I need 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun I'm 22 and have just had my first baby, a girl and she's 15 weeks now. I got pregnant for the first time aged 21, but I miscarried. However my daughter was born less than 10 months after that, in November. It's great fun. All of a sudden you are responsible for this tiny little baby, and your whole worldI is different, but better! It took me until she was about eight weeks old to fully understand it, when I started getting letters 'to the parent or guardian of...' and then I got a little jolt realising that meant ME! Suddenly the world is reduced to it's component parts, everything is newer. You realise that everywhere you go, she's going for the first time, and so you see them differently, through new eyes. it's like having a blank slate to start anew. THe smallest things you now appreciate, a smile, a laugh. The first time she holds something, the first time she sleep through the night....everything is rosy! It's like a whole new world.
Don't worry about it, pregnancy birth and motherhood are the most natural things in the world. Women are most fertile from 18-25 for a reason, you know. We are built to do this, and do this well.
Oh, and don't worry about giving birth either. I had great fun at my daughters birth and I did it at home without medication. You just have to relax. It's a big ol' scary concept but try to get excited. You're creating a new human being and that's pretty amazing.
Congratulations and I hope that helped. Good luck with life love and everything, I'll be thinking of you.
2007-03-04 09:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by Up-side-down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was there five years ago. I felt all alone. the father and I were not together and well not even on good speaking terms at the time. I was fortunate enough to have a supportive mother and a good friend. they helped me through it all. It is scary and overwhelming. I thought that everything that I had dreamed of and worked towards was over. But I was wrong. My daughter, who will be six in May, is my everything. I am thankful everyday that i was blessed with her. And though at times I wish I could just drop everything and go out and party with others my age, I wouldn't give up being a mother for anything. good luck and stay positive. It isn't easy, but it is worth it.
2007-03-04 09:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by heather d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child when I was 20. It was the best experience of my life. You are never alone, so talk to your baby. The funniest part was when I would down a glass of water, my little girl would get the hiccups. Now that was a weird feeling.
As for when she is born, it's not as bad as a lot of people make it out to be. Yes, they cry. Yes, they spit up. And yes, they poop. Your young one will wake up about every two hours to eat, waking you up at ungodly hours. But the first time she smiles at you will make up for the lost hours of sleep. The first time she says "momma" will make it all worth it.
A little advice for after she is born. When she is asleep, you sleep. If you need a break, ask someone for help. And you will mistakes. Everyone does, because no one is perfect. Just be understanding and learn patience.
I hope this helps, and good luck. Great and wonderful things are heading your way. :)
2007-03-04 09:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 and just had my first child 6 weeks ago ... Don't listen to other people's horror stories or experiences... In my opinion, people make labor sound worse than it really is but then again, everyone is different. I went through my 8-hour labor fine without an epidural. I figured the pushing would be the worse, but it's really not. Just stay strong and listen to close family and friends for support. You'll love being a mommy :)
2007-03-04 09:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by sarcasm_rulez_all 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, congradulations!
Secondly, this is Patricia filling in for my husband Dave--so we'll give him the points, okay : )
I'm a nurse who loves OB-GYN and also a counselor for unmarried expectant moms...
My first question is how does the baby's father feel about this baby?
Is he Supportive? Excited? Freakin' out? Leavin' town?
Those answers will make a big difference in your pregnancy...
Also, there's nothing like another women to talk to....
If you have a Mom, Aunt, Sister, Friend who's happy for you.....be thankful and stay close to that person.
There are great community programs for expectant moms that vary by the size of your town.
But even here in smallish Morgantown, WV, the local hospital has a free exercise program for moms to be. Call around to hospitals and doctors;
also, check with all the social agencies.
I recommend La Leche League ---It's a free group that's been around forever...they help women who want to nurse their baby be successful....BUT, they are NOT pushy in spite of some rumors.
More than anything, they're just new moms & pregnant women who meet once a week and give one another support on every level.
Our 3 kids are adopted---so nursing them in the sense of being the way they got most of their food wasn't likely.
None the less, me and my babies were always welcome at meetings and I made some very good friends and learned a lot about mothering.
Look online to find a La Leche League near you & call them before you deliver.
What else might you be nervous about . . .
How much does it hurt to have a baby?
Well, every delivery is different...
I was with two of our children's birthmom's when they delivered and both had a minimum of pain...
It matters a lot who your doctor is...if your doctor has a midwife in his/her practice, she'll be a big help when you're in labor at the hospital.
Our last baby's mom spend the most painful part of her labor,
While a nurse sat right outside the shower and caught up on her nursing notes.
Katy delivered lying on her side in her own room where everything was calm and peaceful...no cold, bright delivery room was necessary since she & the baby were not in distress.
Only women were there for the birth~Katy, the midwife, her nurse, myself, and our 8 year old daughter Mariana...who cried, then laughed in joy as she watched her baby sister Marielise come into the world.
I hope some of this has helped...if not, ask more specific questions and I'll try to answer...
One of the best things my mother said when my youngest sister was pregnant and scared to death was this,
"Look around you . . . every single person in the world was born to a woman who had the same fears you do...
Every one of us were born the same way your baby will be..
We're each living proof that God & nature knows what to do .
. .
And you will also when the time comes."
I hope we have the chance to talk again...
I'm not sure I'm allowed to give you my email address here...but if I am, I'll be happy to do so...
Either way, I'll be thinking of you and sending calm, confident energy your way...
You are about to discover what being in love really means...for you will never love another human being the way you will love your baby...
And if you are depressed after the delivery, PLEASE tell your doctor...tell the baby's doctor...tell everyone until someone helps you...above all, do not suffer in silence, okay?
We are finally aware that a woman's Thyroid levels fall during pregnancy & after delivery
FIND A DOCTOR WHO KNOWS THIS...often, all you need is a supplement to boost your thyroid function...
BUT, many women also need an anti-depressant medication, if so, please take what your doctor prescribes..and don't feel a minute of guilt, okay?
Remember....
WHAT EVER IS BEST FOR YOU IS ALSO BEST FOR THE BABY...
I hope to hear from you again as you travel one of the most exciting journeys any human being can experience...
love and more~
Patricia M.
2007-03-04 10:38:32 · answer #6 · answered by malachiwv 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm 18 years old, soon to be 19.....I'm also 34 weeks, 6 days pregnant. I know it's a nerve-wracking thing, especially the inital respons of finding out your pregnant. Don't worry, everything happens for a reason.....and it will all work out okay. Just take it a day at a time....stay healthy, stay active and enjoy the wonderful miracle coming to life inside you. If you would like to talk, have any questions....I'd be more than happy to talk to you, even if you just want someone to talk to. This is my e-mail at yahoo, so feel free to write!
2007-03-04 10:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by shontai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 and I'm 32.5 weeks. I kind of freaked when I found out I was pregnant, wasn't sure what to do, but my parents were very supportive, and now I am SO excited I can't wait for him to get here. It's just a matter of sacificing things that a 19 year old normally wouldn't have to sacrifice. I'm not going to say my pregnancy has been easy, because it hasn't. My friends still go out and party every weekend, and aren't very considerate of my pregnancy, but I am far more mature than them, and I will have a kind of love that they won't know. It's hard to feel like you don't have anybody anymore because they would rather go out and party-- my best friend can't even sacrifice a night of her weekend to hang out with me, but when my little man gets here.... It will all be worth it!
2007-03-04 13:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by Camille 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 20, not a mother yet but I have been around alot of young nervous mothers :)
Congrats on having a baby, it's always a blessing to have one.
There's not much you should worry about though, just keep yourself healthy and hydrated, keep yourself busy with hobbies and things to do when the babies born and the months should fly by easily.
With today's technology there's not much to worry about when it comes to birthing a baby.
2007-03-04 09:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong, remember whatever happens, this too shall pass. You'll be young enough when your child is older to enjoy life. Whatever you do, don't resent your baby, he/she didn't ask to be born. Try to get as much support as possible and don't be around negative people even if they are family. Once the baby's born, continue schooling and educate yourself it will help you later. Don't have more children until you're in a good position and truly want them!
2007-03-04 09:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by dancergalny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋