Being bisexual female in a locker room?

Question

sometimes i find myself admiring women in the locker room. women are never careful and often walk around in bras or even naked for extended periods of time. i try not to look, but they are leaving themselves in plain view its often hard not too. do you think this would make people uncomfortable? i dont do it to the extent where someone knows i care any more than any straight female. do you think they should try to dress more privately?

Answer 1

Don't stare, but everyone looks and compares themselves.

Answer 2

Are you sure you're bisexual?

Here's why I ask this. You didn't mention once that you found them attractive. Yes you did say admire. That's sort of weak considering what you wrote in the second part.

Well look at what you wrote. You also hide yourself, you wrote. If a person wants to have a sexual relationship with that particular sex, nakedness in the desired sex is actually desired. That my dear is why they have strip bars.

Every lesbian person I know would be doing more drooling than complaining. They would be asking if it was okay to jump their bones right there.

You don't. You go Flying Nun. So what this is revealing isn't an issue with women walking around in a state of nakedness rather if you step back you would find that you just revealed a very serious personal problem. You may not be the person who you think you are.

Trust me when I say this. There is much to like about you. Which is why I am taking time for the answer. That last sentence isn't all that unusual with younger people. I must admit that I had my own periods of self doubt too when I was younger. I think your an intelligent young lady and eventually realize that you aren't even bisexual either.

Everyone who is heterosexual gets it, and they fall for females or females for males. A gay guy likes guys. Lesbian females positively love other females. There are no issues.

Except for bisexuals. I admire other guys. That doesn't make me gay. Nor does that make me bisexual. e.g. Gloria Steinham admired many women but that didn't make her bisexual. Lots of people often admire others in their own sex. Never confuse that with the issue of attractiveness of the same sex with simple admiration and being bisexual or gay. If you are truly sexually attracted the only thing you want the other sex to do is to be perpetually naked.

When one is a teen or young adult the casual nudity that you describe does affect a few people who simply are uncomfortable. And that doesn't mean a thing.

Back to bisexuality. Most of the gay people I know are comfortable living in a world with heterosexuals for the only reason being that at least they understand the nature of sexual attraction.

Bisexuals drives everyone frigging crazy. Many "claimed" bisexuals have normal lives other than the occasional same sex dalliance which seems to sate their needs. To most gays bi's are only gays in deep closets, so deep that they are hiding their gayness from themselves. The most positive thing about bisexuality is the admission that a person "could" be attracted to others of the same sex. However the make up of bisexual people very complicated and the reasons for such behavior very individual.

Indeed the least flattering comments about bisexuals often come from gay people. The reasons for that is simply because gay people have always had to manage and understand their sexual identity because of the recognition by all that this preference makes them a very vulnerable misunderstood minority. They don't understand bisexuality either.

Many people possess low libidos. In my experience, these are the people most likely to claim to be bisexuals. For instance they confuse the ability to sit in a room full of naked Playboy models and still discuss Universal String Theory and its relationship to Relativity Theory, as being a sign that they are gay. No. It means that their sex drive is lower than normal. But often these people think they are bisexual. They are not. Its just a low sex drive and that is not a wrong thing. It simply exists.

Shy and self conscious people can feel themselves trapped in a world which may lead them to personal identity issues. One of those identity issues may relate to sexual identity.

What would be an interesting comparison is your thoughts on being in a room full of naked males. You see you're conducting a research project without the application of a control group.

So tomorrow simply go into the men's locker room and then see what your reaction is. Then shuck all your clothes. Then see what their reactions are. This would be a good control situation. Good scientific research. That's the proper way to do research. Be sure to report back.

Answer 3

I have the same problem. I am bisexual and i too have problems in female locker rooms. Its hard not to stare but you'll get used to it. Everytimei go to the locker room i just try to find a private corner where i can dress privatley and it also blocks my vision of looking at any girls. I mean, its okay to look sometimes but try not to cause a whole comotion about it!


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Answer 4

I'm a lesbian, and I've started to go back to the gym lately. In the changing room I notice other woman, of course, but try not to stare. I'm not always successful, and once in a while I'll get caught >;)
But I'm sorry, if an attractive girl is walking around in her bra or topless, and her panties, I'm gonna notice! That's just how people are.

Answer 5

Some women like that extra attention, well I believe they do. Some fell like "If You Got, It Flaunt It" . You got eyes? Look. And if it is admiring you do, do it well. Apparently they want you to look, they might be interested, and want you and a couple of more people who may be under cover to look as well. Like I mentioned, some people like that Extra Attention. Don't worry about them caring if you look, because even so called straight females play cute bi & Lesbian games.

Answer 6

yah, i think some people do cross the line. locker rooms are for changing, not for trying to flaunt your stuff.. i agree, some people do make others uncomfortable be parading around naked a bit too much..

Answer 7

Male or female, there are those that seem quite proud of their naked bodies.
They are showing off.
They hope (they live) to be noticed.
If you cannot quit the locker room, get in and out with your eyes to the floor.
Looking at those conceited ones only makes them more proud.

Answer 8

i catch myself doing that too sometimes, its ok. dont worry, if someone confronts you just say sorry, i zoned out i wasnt really looking at you. what are they going to say? but it also depends are you out at all? do people know that you are bi, if they do i would advise just trying not to look that would make others uncomfortable, but if they dont know then you can be like hey i like your underwear and probably still get away with it. goodluck<3

Answer 9

even us guys look but dont stare the best way I know to help deal with this is to act like they do walk around in you underwear or nothing at all. it helped me.

Answer 10

Take pictures or video, it lasts much longer and most men and some women and would appreciate it if you shared....