After I graduate High School, I am going to Italy for a year. She doesn't want me to go. I'm supporting myself, have already got a job and apartment lined up and have pretty much done everything on my own. I've always been responsible and never have given anybody a reason to doubt me.
I understand that I'm her baby and that she worries. But, I can't even talk about my plans with her without her getting mad. What can I do? I've even gone as far as taking a self defense class, hoping that it would make her feel a little better....it didn't. Any suggestions?
2007-03-04 09:20:40 · 12 answers · asked by Led*Zep*Babe 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I decided this last June. It's been a long while and she still has came around. I don't think I'll lose her for it, or else I wouldn't go....I just don't know.
2007-03-04 09:30:37 · update #1
notyou311....I'm female. I will get an education, it'll just be after I return.
Thanks for the answers so far.
2007-03-04 09:33:00 · update #2
You explained it yourself, you're her baby and she's worried that you'll be ok--it's a mom thing, once you have kids you'll get it. I'd be concerned if she didn't care what you did. You just need to see her point of view, you're going so far away, she's not going to be close anymore if you need her. Give her some more time, but if it comes down to you going or losing her in your life forever you need to decide which is more important..your mom in your life or Italy.
2007-03-04 09:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. She'll always love you and be there for you. You on the other hand will only be young and not tied down once. You will spend the rest of your life wondering what if....
Besides you make your own destiny and something is waiting for you in Italy, otherwise you wouldn't be so compelled to go there. You need to do it, she's just scared. Us mothers are very fatalistic and worry about every little thing we can't control around you. Live, laugh, and love.
Have a great time and take a ton of pictures!
2007-03-12 14:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man does what a man has to do. And deep down inside, your mom knows that. Surely she doesn't want you tied to her apron strings for the rest of your life? It's time to strike out and be independent. Just tell her that you will always love her and you will buy her something fabulous when your earn enough money in Italy. Hint: gold or leather.
PS. I think you're terrific to have worked this all out on your own but please get an education, too.
2007-03-04 17:31:30 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 18 years old and it's time for you to make your own decisions. My mom is the pushiest woman I have ever met, and would probably be the same way your mother is. Talk to her about why you want to go and let her know that while her opinion is very important to you, it's not going to make or break your decision. And she isn't mad, she really just loves you and probably doesn't want to be so far away from you. When you do go, make sure and call her as often as possible and let her know that you're alright.
2007-03-04 17:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is not furious with you believe me. She is scared, worried, unsure, and feeling out of control.
She is going to continue to behave this way right up until you leave. in hopes that she can keep you home.
It is very difficult for a mother to let go of he children. when they leave the country she has no way of knowing if you are OK. She can't protect you and that scares the crap out of her.
Make sure when you get there to call home often let her know how wonderful it is and that you can't wait to get home to see her.
She may feel better if you were going with a group. So maybe you could find a friend to go with you.
My kids are 20 10 and 8 My 20 year old just moved to Florida I am in Michigan believe me I tried it all to keep him here. But I secretly wanted him to go. confusing I know.
We want to know you are OK but we want you to reach your dreams and goals in life it is really hard with so many mixed feelings.
2007-03-12 09:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by angie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom that she should think of it as a chance for you to be her contact in a lovely country - so that she can visit and have a good time at least once while you are there.
Enjoy your time there. Know the laws, be wary and careful - perhaps she's afraid you will get into trouble there and she won't be able to help you.
2007-03-10 03:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is more worried about the loneliness she will feel when you are gone, let her know that you will be always be in contact with her to let her know how you are doing, by phone calls, letters and occasionally send her something home even if its a small gift no matter how small, and even a photo or two or the places you have visited etc, all those things will mean alot to her because she will still feel connected to you even though you are far away.....
2007-03-09 14:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going to miss you - she's not really afraid for you, she's afraid for herself. Set aside time to hang out with her - go to dinner, get a pedicure, go shopping with her, ask her if she'll go with you to run italy-related errands. Make her feel loved and needed and she'll come around. Parents need babying too :)
2007-03-04 17:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah, that's just the ol' motherly worry-wart syndrome... be happy she loves you enough to worry about you.
But, i think its a great idea to do something like that, my best advise is to not talk to her about it anymore, let her come to you about it... and if she don't come to you, wait until a month before you go, and remind her of your plans!
good luck! bring me back a sexy Gondolier!
2007-03-05 23:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by Cap'n Donna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send her lots of postcards and a few souveigners. she'll get over it. she's not worried about your safety as much as she's worried she'll never see you again. and when you get back....she'll be so excited she'll forget she was mad at you in the first place.
2007-03-04 17:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋