I've been going to a community college for almost 2 years now and I hate it. I had a terrible time getting through high school and didn't think i was going to college, but my mom forced me into it. She's now trying to push me into attending a university. I really just don't want to do it. She threatens me by telling me that if I don't go she will stop paying for my rent, car, and health insurance. School isn't for everyone, and I dont know what to do. I've told her that I don't want to go and she tells me that its not my choice and I'm going no matter what. How do I talk to her and tell her that I just don't want to go????? Help.
2007-03-04 09:16:34 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're an adult and shouldn't have to go to college unless you want to. However, if you want to quit, you should be prepared to start paying your own bills. It's unfair to make your mother pay for things if you're not in school.
Take your mother out to lunch and explain to her why you no longer want to go to school. Be firm, and make sure she understands that this is not her choice. At the same time, don't be confrontational about it. Hopefully, she'll accept it. If not, there's not much you can do. You can' tlive your entire life by what your mother wants for you.
2007-03-04 09:21:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first thing I would do if I was in your position is tell her your problem; make her listen to you. you should be old enough to make your own decisions. and if she still threatens to stop paying your way, I would find a nice paying job that could pay for your fees. And I think your totally right. College isn't for everyone, and your mom should know that. But that's what I would do. I hope I helped you!! ;)
2007-03-04 09:21:36 · answer #2 · answered by Krista Nielsen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just finish there at the jr college. get some degree that could help you later. but some degree is better than NO degree. It shows you have ambition and drive to get things done. plus, you'll get paid more. Stick it out. go back and just try to get through for a 2 yr degree. Then do what ever you want. But make mom and your self happy in the long run. otherwise you may be sorry.
2007-03-04 09:21:09 · answer #3 · answered by fleur_fuji 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain it...School is the right thing though. Maybe you could try a different school! It is wrong for your mother to threaten you but she has a point. It is hard to get a job if you don't go to collage and finish it! but a university... you need to let your mom know how you feel!
2007-03-04 09:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by chocoholic23511 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think it would only be fair to pay for your own rent, car, etc.? If you're not going to school, you need to work to pay your own bills and lift the burden off of your parents. She is paying for you in hopes you will get a good job one day (college is just about the only way to get one). I mean if you're not going to school then you can get a job.
2007-03-04 09:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by Junebug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come up with an alternate plan. Have it all worked out so that it is logical and fits your needs and abilities. Where will you work, live, etc. It sounds like Mom wants the best for you. Someday you may regret not having the education and the good future that comes with it. Think about it carefully.
2007-03-04 09:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. Your an adult. When you get your degree from community college, look for a job.
2007-03-04 09:25:53 · answer #7 · answered by andy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enlist in the army.
2007-03-04 09:27:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and explain to her that you have a hard time with school...
2007-03-04 09:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by rat_leg danny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start your own business...become an entrepreneur.
2007-03-04 09:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Toddacanda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋