my step-daughter is 15 and has admitted to me that she is sexually active. she doesnt want me to tell my husband and understably he would over react. but am I under reacting to her being 15? I've got her on birth control and she has condoms but is ther anything else I can do?
2007-03-04 09:15:46 · 20 answers · asked by blondebombshell 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
15 is fairly young to become sexually active (i have heard doctors recommend at least waiting until you are 16, mostly because of the emotional results of having sex), but it isn't horrible either. it's good that she's on birth control and her bf is using condoms, but make sure she and her bf are tested if they want to have sex without a condom. i would highly recommend the HPV vaccine gardasil as well- it's more effective before a girl has become sexually active but she can still get it. your insurance may cover it at the doctor, and some planned parenthoods have it depending on where you live. she will also need a pelvic exam within three years if she hasn't gotten one already. make sure she is being responsible and that you are easy for her to come to in case of an emergency. it sounds like you are doing a fine job to me though =). however, if she starts dating guys that are 18 or older, guys that are in trouble with the law, or if she starts having sex with a lot of guys it's time for therapy. i don't think this will be necessary though and i don't think you're under-reacting either. it's good that you are supportive enough to make sure she's protected.
2007-03-04 10:52:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-04 19:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally 12-14 But Kids @ My School Started @ 7th Grade And Now Sinse I'm In 8th Grade It's Ten Times Worse.Just If You Love Someone Then You'll Know When It's Rite For You.Don't Just Do It Just Because. You have To Love Someone.Talk To Her About Sex Ed Too.You Wouldn't Want Your Daughter To Turn Into A Promiscus Girl Or A Ho
2007-03-04 17:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jay Tay 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was 14 when I first had sex. I'm still with the same guy (My fiancee. I'm 18 now and we've been together for 4 years.) and I haven't been with anyone else.
Generally if someone starts young they're going to start sleeping around and junk. Just talk to her. And make sure that she knows that just because you're supporting her, doesn't mean that she can sleep around.
Make sure to educate her on STDs and Pregnancy and stuff.
Also, Kudos on not telling her dad. My parents freaked out on my when I told my mom and she told my dad. I wasn't allowed to see my fiancee and my mom and I lost touch because I couldn't trust her... Now I'm living on the other side of the country, and we can barely speak without a fight...
2007-03-04 18:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by itskatyo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no magic age, it is up to each individual person to decide for themselves. Your step-daughter chose to be sexually active and so far you've done a great job insuring she has protection. Other than that there is nothing anyone can do, it's 100% up to her.
2007-03-04 18:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really. That's the best you can do. If you gripe at her for doing it and tell your husband, it's gonna understandably make things worse. Being 17, I know this. If you prevent her from doing it, its just gonna make her have more will and want to do it, and she's gonna find a way. Rather keep it how it is than make things alot worse and she still do it.
2007-03-04 17:22:17 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you mean having sex? not masturbating?
well i'd say anything under 19.
it always depends on the town. in more suburban (aka upper class) towns like Newton, MA anyone 16 or under having sex is like this evil person (not religiously) but for more urban towns (no name comes to mind) that seem trashy people don't care if you're 13 n havin' sex.
If she is being safe about it then have no fears.
2007-03-04 18:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by Russly F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on the kid, if she could handle having a kid, some 15 year olds can but like one in a thousand, then let hr be. if not then tell your husband and just keep hinting htat you think its a mistake but there really isnt anything you can do. ps if she does get pregnat dont say i told you so just be unerstanding and let her think through her options with you. pps. your ready when you are mature enoguh totake care of a kid
2007-03-04 17:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by Monkey Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are too young at the age of 17 and down.
2007-03-04 19:26:41 · answer #9 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her father!!! Make sure she is safe, and that her and her boyfriend both get checked for STIs. If you tell her dad she will never trust you, or tell you anything ever again! What i\f something really bad happens? Then she wonn't want to tell you and that won't be good..
2007-03-04 18:51:55 · answer #10 · answered by *Lizz* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋