And if you pick a career - does that make you selfish?
2007-03-04 09:13:15 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
What about a career making babies !!
2007-03-04 17:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by nicemanvery 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say...BOTH...but then I'm greedy lmao!
And no, I wouldn't say that picking a career is selfish, each to their own...what WOULD be selfish is having a baby when u really want a career and then the baby misses out!
But you can have both, I have had 2 babies (soon 7 and 2) and am now starting a career (midwifery degree starts in september). Or you could go the other way and get settled in a career first and then have a baby when you're financially comfortable, spend some time with the baby and then continue your career! Just don't leave it too late if you choose to do it this way!
But you do whatever you're happy with, if you don't want kids at the moment, concentrate on your career instead for the time being!
2007-03-04 09:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by nevine1982 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why should it have to be exclusively one or the other? It shouldn't, and it makes me extremely angry when people suggest otherwise. I'm not accusing you of suggesting that, just giving my opinion. My mother did both from the time I was 8 years old (she had no choice but to work full time, after our useless alcoholic father disappeared), and it has done myself and my little sister nothing but good.
Personally, I worked very hard for my degree and I'm making use of it by having a career, which I intend to continue. When I'm older, I will have my career and my children, and, as long as I don't neglect my kids - which I would never do - it is none of anyone else's business whatsoever. Same applies to everyone else, obviously! To each one's own choice.
No, it doesn't make you selfish if you choose not to have kids, in my view. It amazes me when people say those who don't have children are ''selfish'' - to me it is far more selfish to bring a child into an overpopulated world if you are not ready/willing/able to deal with such a huge responsibility.
Flexible working should be made far more widely available.
2007-03-04 09:21:08 · answer #3 · answered by Wildamberhoney 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would definitely choose babies but if it were a realistic possibility, I would choose a career that would accomodate motherhood. Picking a career over babies does not make you selfish, if anything it makes you a good person. It is better to choose a career over children especially when you know that you do not want to have children and you know that you would not be able to give them all the things/time they need. However, it IS selfish to choose a career and still have children when you know your career does not give you adequate time to raise them. When children lack the guidance of their parents, other things, often times less positive forces, tend to guide them through life. I say make your choice and stick with it!
2007-03-04 09:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had career, babies, career. I finally left the work force in 2000, to stay home when my husband's salary surpassed mine & his previous earnings together. No I wasn't selfish when I picked career. Now I enjoy being a stay at home mom, and I don't miss working a bit. I feel like I am on perpetual vacation.
2007-03-04 09:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I choose both. I have two beautiful children and finished grad school after they were both born. I made a point to get a job that is satisfying, but will not tie up every moment of my time. It's rough sometimes, but worth it.
But no, you're not selfish if you choose a career over having children. Some people are simply not suited to being parents. And if you don't want kids, chances are you won't take the best possible care of them if you do have them. No one should be obligated to have children.
2007-03-04 09:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would pick career so you can make enough money to even support a family and then start thinking about kids. Thats not selfish at all.
2007-03-04 09:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by Kassy M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Career, because I want to be successful and have a stable life before I have kids. It is not selfish wanting to have a career you worked for and earned. Some people aren't ready for kids yet, it is a personal choice.
2007-03-04 09:18:00 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥Bree♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I chose babies because that was what I wanted. If you choose a career instead, it doesn't make you selfish. Both are individual choices and neither can be called 'wrong' or 'selfish'.
2007-03-04 09:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope its the other way around. Do you want a baby soo bad that you are willing to sacrifice your babies futures by having a lame career at McD's?
I would suggest got your education and get the career started, then when you can finally come home at normal times and be a part of the family then have a baby.
2007-03-04 09:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋