With my first child, 7 years ago, we told everyone we were pregnant at 6 weeks (once we "officially" found out).
It was a LONG time until the end the pregnancy, and I was getting annoyed by the cutsie talk, constant calls to see how I was, etc.
We were going to tell our son at 3 months, and right after that, my son would tell the grandparents. So he could be proud of being a big brother.
But, my husband wants me to tell everyone once I have my first doctors appointment, on the 14th.
2007-03-04 08:34:46 · 17 answers · asked by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
annoyed by the love your family shared in the joy of a new child coming into this world?
im sorry, but i don't get that. your family cares about you, and wants to know that your okay. are you anti-social?
you can tell them whenever you want, but i find your reasons for wanting to wait a bit strange. be thankful you have a family that cares enough to annoy you. at least your not alone.
i have always told my family 2 seconds after the stick turned pink. bring on the cutsie talk and constant calls, at least i know they care, and they love my baby immediately. how is that so horrible?
2007-03-04 08:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share the joy with close family right away. If you put it off some might get upset but you can tell them that you enjoyed having such a wonderful secret all to yourself for a while.
For others, wait until the end of the 3rd month. The odds of anything going wrong after that point are low.
If you are going to have an amnio test, then you may want to hold off on telling people until after you get the results.
2007-03-04 16:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell everyone after 4 months. If they figure it out beforehand then thats fine, we just dont talk about it. This is because of losing my first baby. So I always wait and make sure I know everything is going to be alright. They all understand, so when I start running to the toilet all the time they just pretend I have food poisoning. Which is really sweet.
Tell them when you are comfortable with telling them. I am sure they will understand if they dont find out straight away. Just explain you were being cautious.
2007-03-04 18:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congrats. The thought of letting your son be a part of the announcements of the new arrival is a smart move. It also helps to prepare him to share your attention...he won't be as jealous of the babe. You could make a game of letting him tell Grandma and grandpa. As for the "cutesy" talk that was because of the pregnancy being your first. This pregnancy will go smoother as far as all the attention goes. Besides if it doesn't, take advantage of the attention, soon, the babe will get it all. Tell your son about the new arrival as soon as your doctor confirms it.
2007-03-04 16:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By hiding your condition from the rest of your family, you risk hurting thier feelings.
Be honest, and take comfort in the fact that the "cutsie talk and constant calls" are a lot better than a family whom would scorn you for having children.
Is it really that bad?
2007-03-04 16:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by royalpainshane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I told with my other children right away. I was so excited. This pregnancy which was unplanned, ps. no lectures i was on birth control. I am holding off on telling people until i can no longer avoid it. I had my son on Oct 21st 2006 and I am 4 weeks pregnant.
2007-03-04 16:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by megan t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say wait the 3 months.. even then you still got the next 6 months of cutsie talk & how r u calls...
2007-03-04 16:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Angelic Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. It really depends, too on your relationship with your family. Some women are best friends with their mom and tell them as soon as they find out. Personally, I'm not extremely close to my mom.
It wouldn't hurt to wait until your first dr's appointment to tell your son and then have him tell your family. There's probably not much time in between. I personally waited until I was out of my first trimester to tell my family. They understood as I had a miscarriage before.
We didn't tell my husband's family until much later because they extremely UN-supportive of us having more children. And it's not for any valid reason. We support (financially and emotionally) our own children, not asking for their help whatsoever.
2007-03-04 16:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are going to tell our families in 10 more weeks...I am 3 weeks pregnant right now.
2007-03-04 16:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say 2 or 3 months
2007-03-04 16:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by blondebombshell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋