back in november i joined my school's Gay Straight alliance and i started to fall in love with her. she is out as a lesbian and is very proud. i started to question my sexual orientation and now 3 1/2 months later i am still in love with her. i think of myself now as either bisexual or gay but i am only out to a few people, one of whom is her. she has a girlfriend who is a year older than her and they are extremely happy together. without her i never would have questioned my sexuality and i would not be the same. so now that im gay, all i want to do is meet people and have some relationships and live life, but i can only think of her. i dont think ill ever have her. she is 2years older than me and thinks of me as a child. she acts like the boss. nothing i do gets us a much closer friendship, we are pretty good friends, but it turns off and on. i want to get over her but i cant seem to. i wish i could have my first kiss with a girl, but i really want it to be her. help me get over her?
2007-03-04 07:16:44 · 3 answers · asked by lifeofdapartyrl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
she has a girlfriend, and I think you've realized already that it would be wrong to try and break them up. good for you.
now just be strong and keep it that way. theese kind of situations are always difficult and sometimes the only thing you can do is wait it out and hope it gets better. the best advice I can give is to think about the reasons you are attracted to her, and what you are looking for in a relationship. you can do one of two things, I think either look for someone else who has theese qualities and that you are equally attracted too, or , (and I prefer this option) wait to start any relationships until you have completely figured out your feelings , and your sexual identity as it would be a grave mistake to start a relationship with someone and end up rethink it later while some innocent girl gets caught in the cross fire. I suggest sitting back for awhile, however hard it maybe to ignore your feelings, and figure out who you are before proceeding, afterall its only been 3 1/2 months that are challenging a lifetime of contrary feelings. whatever you choose to do, best of luck.
2007-03-04 07:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Exactly the same as if you were straight, the girl in question was a guy instead, and he was taken. She's off limits because: 1. She sees you as a child. She may think that the fact that you love her is cute, but probably won't give youthe time of day. 2. Her girfriend. I don't know what kind of girl she's like, but I'll bet you that she won't like the fact that you're in love with her girfriend. My advice is to remain friends (no matter how much it hurts).
2007-03-04 22:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by ldnester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well think of it this way...you realize they are happy...Now find someone else. You are young...and there are so many girls out there wanting the same thing as you...you could be there first kiss too...If she has someone and that someone is older than her...she is not likely to go from her to you...sadly but its probably true...just like straight couples we lesbians have a set mindset on what we look for in a mate...just hang in there and keep your eyes open...lesbians are everywhere....Good Luck!
2007-03-04 16:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋