Heres my situation.My fiance and i had been together for 4 years and we have an 18 month old son.About a month ago she decided to move out and into another guys place.I still love her and would do anything to get her back.I know deep down she still loves me too but she wont say so.She keeps our son on mon and fri nights but ive not allowed to see wheres shes keepin him or the people she has around him.Ive tried everything and nothings working.I feel like i cant hold on to this love anymore the pain is just too much.Im open for ideas.
2007-03-04 06:55:52 · 14 answers · asked by Nodyahead2this 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YOU MOLD YOUR WAYS. LET HER LIVE HER OWN LIFE. YOU ALSO THINK ABOUT YOUR FUTURE.
2007-03-07 04:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by RAMAN IOBIAN 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start calling her your ex fiance. You have what is call an anchor baby. It is sad for the kid and you should seek legal consul for the child's sake. You may like telling the woe is me story but you are a parent. Get a blood check on the child and you to make sure. This is not about you and you know it.
2007-03-04 15:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God ! i can understand how painful it could be. Between ur love n war ur child would be the ultimate sufferer. Don't give a bad life to the child. when he 'd grow up, n realise the fact between u n ur fiancee he'd hate u both.
Either u try to make up ur relation or quit.. I know it is very painful. No words would be enough, but u can always try.
Best wishes to u :-)
2007-03-04 15:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by Smile- conquers the world 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very bad stage from where you are going, but still there is a way to come out. Just think about your child who has nothing to gain between the fights of his parents but loose the touch of there parents whom he want to see together. Please let your wories and complaints upto to you and your wife and join hand with her.
Told her that you are going to stay with her with the fact that our child get best moments from us and if possible forgive her if she is also still interested in you.
Fix one day so that you both can let each other to talk what ever both you have for each other.
If still there is a chance please forward one step if you got an opportunity. Forget all past and live both of you for your child.
I wish good luck for you.
2007-03-04 23:08:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rahul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband was in your shoes.
what he did was fight for me. he didnt want to let me go, even though i hurt him really badly. i said i wanted a divorce, to leave him and that i dont love at all. but he loved me to the extent he never gave up.
at first he did the whole persuasion thing but since i was not listening at all, he used our child as a scare tactic. not very noble i admit but that was his last resort. he scared me about being a single mother and the child's sad future without a real father. and also threatened to harm the new lover in my life.
it was extreme but i was a very extreme person. in the end i was forced with him again. and with time things healed, he treated me like gold and now i cant live without him.
im not saying you should go as far as threaten her but dont give up if you love her that much. as for her, its easy to say hurtful words and not realise how she really feels until a lot later when she can really look back this whole thing.
2007-03-04 15:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u said she left .. why did u let her leave... its not right .. and u said u have a baby together... u need to fight for her if she left u to go to another man.. because she need a man a real man.. that she didn't find it in u.. DUDE do something find her..in Ur Q u said she is sleeping with a norther man.. ofcouse she ganna sleep with him . u think the man ganna keep her in his house for free.. I dont think so.. its not about sex its about respect if u respect enough u should ask her to marry u.. bur being GF and BF .. its ganna be a time were u guys need to do something.. go out there and find ur kid and ur women.. be a man
2007-03-04 15:19:35 · answer #6 · answered by I_belong_to_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all shes not your "fiance" anymore. 2nd of all leave her by sticking around all youre doing is setting yourself up for more pain. the best thing to do is just leave her alone hopefully she'll realize what she lost.
2007-03-04 15:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is a total loser! If she is not letting you know about your child's living conditions, she has something to hide -- and what she is hiding is NOT GOOD FOR THE CHILD! So protect your kid and forget your ex!
2007-03-04 15:30:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start your new life.Dont waste it like DEVADAS.Anything bad happens is due to our faults and every bad brings some good in life.So forget it.
2007-03-05 06:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by science for humanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all.........GROW UP........ what ever she is gotten herself into you need to find out for the sake of your child. file for custody is she refuses to show you the child is safe when not in your care... you would be amazed if she is doing something wrong and the child gets hurt you will never forgive yourself... your child is your number one responsibility...
2007-03-04 15:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
problem is lack of communication.
talk and discuss with her.
i m sure u will find the solution
2007-03-05 01:48:28 · answer #11 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋