what would you do if your wife constantly refused you sex?

Answer 1

Sit down with her and have a heart to heart conversation with her. Find out what her problem is. If she doesn't have one explain that you have your needs and if she doesn't love you enough to help you with those needs then you will go elsewhere.

Answer 2

Why do all the guys seem to encourage cheating? OMG can you all be that selfish? Hey, Mr. Question asker, have you ever thought maybe your wife is having a medical problem? Or a mental/emotional condition? Theres lots of reasons why some women aren't into sex at times. Maybe she is sick of you viewing her as a giant oraface for your penis instead of loving your wife in a mature way as a husband should. Show her some appreciation, more so than just grabbing her rear and requesting sex. Pathetic.

Answer 3

It is probably not you. It is how she 'feels.' About herself, about what she 'thinks' you see when you look at her. Or it could be outright depression. "Date" again, and don't press the sex. Don't mention, don't imply. For women, especially if you have been married for many years, begin to feel inferior. Most of us can't compete with the fem-fatals on the silver screen or in Maxim. It is a lot to ask because it is slow going, it is a trust issue. She has to trust you are really into her. Hold her hand in public, cook a dinner, take her to her favourite store even if it bores the crap out of you. Let her know you like her company. The same closeness you get from a sexual relation, women get through emotion.

Answer 4

You need to realize that there may be another problem behind this. Such has a lack of desire, that she cannot explain and would need to talk to her gyn about. Sex may be painful to her due to cysts or fibroid tumors, her cervix may be tilted which would require you to enter and perform a certain way. She may get frequent UTI's due to sex, and as a woman they are painful, all women should head to the restroom soon after having intercourse to p. This will flush her out and hopefully remove any bacteria that you may have shoved up in her (yep its your fault...lol). Above all be patient, and talk to her. It is perfectly normal to loose desire, but Drs. are now able to help treat this. It is very common, but women in the past never discussed it, the felt it was just part of getting older. Just be patient and try to help her out....I am sure that she is bothered by it too. especally if she does not understand.

Answer 5

There are always two sides to every story....If I were you, the very first thing I would do is find out the reason she is not interested in sex with you. If you find there is no legitimate reason why she is witholding sex from you, then she really hasnt given you much other choice than to find it elsewhere and she cant complain about it because she is causing this problem. Before you do that....find out the reason....maybe its something that can be fixed between the two of you...or maybe you both need counselling....maybe there is something in her past that is making her feel this way.....talk to her, find out what the reason is.

Good luck

Answer 6

Do you date her? Make her feel like a loving woman? Send her cute text messages? Anything? If you treat her in those ways and still nothing, then she needs to go to the docs to have her hormones checked, or maybe she's depressed, or tired with young babies. There are so many reasons for this. Stepping out on your marriage is only going to make things worse. Be the spouse you said you'd be and figure this out. Its so worth it in the end. Being a happily married couple. Take care of her emotional needs and your needs will also be met. Women are emotional and men are physical.

Answer 7

I will try to find the reason why she's responding like that. You should ask yourself how your relationship is working in general. Remember that women respond different sexually. Are you being caring, lovely, considerate with her? Are you telling her how uch she turns yo u on? Have you change on the way you treat her? After you make your own assessment, talk to her, and LISTEN (even when you won't like what she has to say) to her, without interrupting, then you will know what's happening with her.

I know we women can be complicated at times, but once we feel loved, respected, and desirable, we can treat you like a King!!!

Good LUCK!!!

Answer 8

Ask her why she is keeping that from you. What she is doing is wrong. She may be holding from you because either she has some resentment towards you, or something else. You just need to ask her.

I would consider on getting these two great books for you and her to read together called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands".

Answer 9

If the 2 of you can't get to the bottom of it through
regular talking, seek counseling. There is a deeper
explaination as to why- she probably feels distant from
you in general.
Remember that in woman, it is more more emotional
than physical.
Don't give up too quickly. Rememer your vows, and
try everything you can to make it work!

Answer 10

If she is always refusing YOU sex, chances are that she's getting it somewhere else. Give her some room. Make sure she knows that you LOVE her deeply! If she ever stays out late, try being gentle with her when she gets home. Try giving her oral first. That always works for me when I've been out late.

Answer 11

Get rid... Sorry I know a lot of people may see this answer as being vain but sex in a "grown up" relationship is very important