Well, my relationship with my ex was complicated ..there was no issue for us than separating ...well, although she went to find another man, but Í didn't hate her for that, because effectively the relationship was not working , I managed to keep it working, but it was hard on me ...and stressful ..we were really incompatible ..now after the split, we are just friends ..I think she likes to talk to me , although she is with her bf, ..me too ..but I don't know if it is the best thing to do ...I don't hate her , but .. I was really hurt when she left me , but it was really for the good reason and there were other issue left ..!! so, neither her and I are angry at each other ...!! because, we both knew it was a realtionship , we were trying to make work together ...!! but, couldn't ..!! she likes to talk to me as friend ...but, do you think I should cut contact wih her completely ..or just keep being her friend without even talked about the past relationship we had ..?
2007-03-04 06:18:27 · 16 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay her friend unless it starts putting a strain on other serious relationships such as potential life mates. But keep sex out it unless it comes to the point of remarrying. You can probably both use a good friend, but intimacy would complicate it..........for the two of you and for other potential serious relationships.
2007-03-04 06:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds SO close to something I've been through. I still talk to her, and we are good friends, I'm not going to BS you and say we are the best friends EVER now. We can talk about a lot because of all we have been through, and I think its always nice to have a friend over an enemy, or to have no relationship at all. I don't know exactly what you guys went through, but if you keep feeling like you want to talk to her, then keep talking to her. Don't give that up. If you feel awful everytime you talk, then you should stop. Because if you feel awful, that negative energy is sure to spread to her side, in essence, she wont be happy either. If you do decide to keep talking to her, its okay to talk about your relationship as all relationships are learning experiences, but make sure not to go too deep or too emotional while you have another significant other, it can hurt someone.
2007-03-04 06:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Marshall 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as it is not stopping you from moving on then there can be no harm in staying friends. Though it might not be a bad thing to be uncontactable for a month or so to give you both space and time to settle into lives without each other.
2007-03-04 06:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still keep in contact but I think you are still having trouble getting over the end of the relationship. You need to get over the relationship and move on she has. You have to realise she doesn't want you back that relationship is over.
2007-03-04 06:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would be safe and cut it off. There's something there or you wouldn't be asking. You sense some stress within your friendship so break it off nicely and politely. I am guessing, but I think your feelings are still hurt so why would you spend any time when that has to be overlooked? @80) Play It Safe!!
2007-03-04 06:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you enjoy talking to her and you keep it that way then go for it. It seems you both felt that you didn't work as a couple so just enjoy having another friend! Good Luck!
2007-03-04 06:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
keep talking to her it'll get better. and you guys cant just ignore the fact that you had that kind of relationship in the past. if you're uncomfortable with this new type of relashionship you should talk to her about it. if you're friends you should be there for each other.
you two should remain friends if you really want to.
2007-03-04 06:25:41 · answer #7 · answered by paybacksachick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids together? If not, do you need the stress? If you have no financial obligations to her, and you can't take the stress (which seems pretty obvious by your question) break ties completely. That's the only option.
2007-03-08 05:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by the_watcher_74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to stay friends with her then stay friends. i would advise that you don't go out of your way to accomdate her though and try to remember that she is in fact an ex. she has moved on with her life but i am curious...have you? maybe you could invest more of your energy in a new relationship and put this one on the back burner
2007-03-04 06:24:53 · answer #9 · answered by simplyme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut all contact otherwise you will never move forward. With keeping contact, you will always have wishful thinking. She has moved on already.
2007-03-04 06:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋