I feel problem when talking in front many people.I always avoid to make contact to other.?

Question

I feel uncofident among people.It make me stress.I know its not normal.But i dont know how to change this.I practice everyday to be normal.But until now it doesnt work so much.Any sugesstion?
thank you

Answer 1

It all has to do with how much confidence you have within yourself. I am the same way. Although as I get older it gets better and better. How do you practice to become normal? Whatever your method is, it is obviously not working. Here is a tip, stop fighting within yourself to be "normal". You are striving to be something that doesnt exist. No one is normal, guaranteed.Normal is something created in your mind (Probably a product of the media). Others may appear perfect and put together on the outside, but everyone has their own insecurities and downfalls. What you need to do is stop comparing yourself to others. There is NOTHING wrong with you! You must learn to accept yourself, flaws and compliments. Also, you must overcome "you before others". What I mean is your mind set right now is self focused. Not that you are a selfish person to any degree, but your own thoughts are consuming you. You must reverse the picture. It is time to put other people, strangers even, before you. Its a concept that i believe is very difficult to achieve. But accomplishing that level of humility(modest, humbleness) will change everything. You no longer will be concerned about how others will be judging you. Only how you can be their friend and help them out. I hope I have not gotten too confusing. But I do believe being shy can be overcome by changing the way you are thinking to yourself. You must in a sense, train your brain. Put others before yourself, and I guarantee your world will change.
And last but not least, just relax! Its ok if you mess up or are not funny, or whatever your concern is! The most attractive people are the ones that can laugh at themselves and who are honest and accepting.

Answer 2

It's normal like you say to have some interpretations about public speaking. You fear how you will be perceived and or will someone judge you.

Here is what a professor with a Doctrine in communication taught me. Stand in front of a mirror and practise till you have the turd polished. You already know your speech and it's content backwards and forwards. If you don't then get back to the books and testimonials that makes your speech great.

And it doesn't hurt to look at everyone and try to imagine your using your eyes to implant the information into their brains.

Answer 3

hey, there is alot to life than what you are doing. And this is what i know if you dont say here i am nobody will no there you are stop behaving shy. in this life you need self - confident. see in most of the work you will do in this life you need your words. to make it work. be self dertamine and erase all fear think about this there are somebody that are doing what you are afraid of and you are somebody too. so be up lifted good luck

Answer 4

You just have to take the bull by the horns, so to speak.
Put yourself out there. It is scary at first, but in time it gets easier.
I was just like you. I went out and "pretended" to be comfortable. Guess what happened? In time I was!!