they dont allow me to sleep over my friends house's even though they know my friends, and im almost 16, if i ask to go to the movies they wont allow it, and if they do let me out out (rarely) they keep calling me, and if i went out with my friends one weeknd i cant hang out with friends for another 6 months! i havent done anything wrong, my dad said that whenever i ask to go sumwhere there is only a .01 percent chance they are gonna say yes. i cant date, i have no social life what so ever. they are sooo annoying, i wish i had better parents, but i need help convincing my parents to let me hang out with my friends more, and not be stuck in teh house every weeknd doing nothing! i do all the chores in the house, i cook, im responsible! help thnx u guys!!
2007-03-04 05:59:09 · 9 answers · asked by cus i forgot my name...? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i know what u mean my parents are somewhat like that they won't let sleep over my friends houses and i can't date either. But i still do it i just don't tell my parents. But i don't do anything in my house so you should sit your parents down and explain to them that your responsible enough to go out with your friends and that they should trust you. If not rebel against them or wait till u're 18 to move out of the house.
2007-03-04 07:04:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jenny0305 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love you and want to protect you. Nothing is wrong with this. I grew up that way. And now I am happily married to the man of my dreams with two wonderful little boys. ( I will be strict with my boys too.) I have a good education too. Just relax and go with the flow. You will be 18 in two years and then you can do what you like. Just know that your parents, love you so much and want the best for you. Your education is the most important thing to you right now! Your fine!
2007-03-04 09:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents do seem to be unusually restrictive which causes me to wonder at what motivates their decision-making process with regard to your activities.
Are your parents religious? Are they trying to protect you from circumstances which they feel would lead to your becoming less respectful of your heritage and upbringing?
Have you, or perhaps an older sibling, gotten into trouble in the past? Are they worried that you might come into contact with drugs and alcohol?
If you don't know the answers to these questions, you might want to have a discussion with your parents to find out what their reasoning is. DON'T have this discussion with them when either you or they are upset. You want this to be a calm, reasonable discussion.
When you better know what motivates their decisions, you may be able to give them the assurances they need in order to allow you more freedom.
Please remember that they are NOT punishing you. They worry about you and they care what happens to you.
Good luck.
2007-03-04 06:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by vita64 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make some adult friend agree with you. Once your parents are being told that it is stupid by other adults then they are more likely to reconsider.
Try and make it so that they are taking to to the places, and you are beng taken back too, maybe by one of your friend's parents. When you ARE allowed out then call them and tell them when you will be back and stuff.
Try inviting friends over to your house, be on your best behaviour when they're there and make sure your parents see that you can be mature around your friends too. They are less likely to say no if they can see what goes on.
2007-03-04 06:25:22 · answer #4 · answered by typoqeen 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with parents that controlling i dont think that there is much you will be able to do! i had a friend like that and she ended up rebeling and sneaking out and stuff. i dont suggest that but maybe try to talk to your school counsiler she may be able to help you deal until you are 18 then you do what you want and your parents cant stop you!
2007-03-04 06:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by Kayla C 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sit down and try to talk to them , tell them just to listen til you get done talking. tell them they need to trust you more . tell them they raised you to know right and wrong, and they need to loosen the apron strings a little and let you grow up and have a teenage life. ask them if there is a reason they won't let you to things.tell them you have never done nothing for them not to trust you.. just tell them whatever is on your mind.. another thing. my son is 16 i worry about him all the time but he has to call me when he gets where he is going and he calls me when he gets ready to leave to come home and calls me in between time just to let me know he is ok.. so i won't worry as much..
2007-03-04 06:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by raven1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever done something that made them lose their trust in you? thats the only thing i can think of. that stinks im sorry. Just tell them that you are responsible and name reasons why ex. i cleaned my room i have good grades (if u do) stuff like that
2007-03-04 06:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well mabye your past actions (doing irrisponsible things at your friends) have made them so untrustworthy. If you do not think this is so, post additional details and i will change this answer.
2007-03-04 06:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by Russly F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be nice to them. if they are mean to you dont be nice ot them. I mean ask them do you wnat me to sneak out? and hate you?
2007-03-04 06:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋