we have been married for 7 years and have 4 kids 3 of which are under 5 and possibly another one on the way but he thinks he can go out all day and come back when he wants he does all the housework so im lucky that way but he does not work and he is such a miserable **** should i get rid???
2007-03-04 05:37:36 · 35 answers · asked by xxclairexx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes i work i was at work 2 days before i gave birth
oh and the reason i had as many kids is coz i wanted them i am aware of birth control thanks for your concern
and i look after the kids constantly so who ever said i wouldnt last a week you are so wrong
2007-03-04 06:07:21 · update #1
HONEY HES A MAN! ALL MEN ARE PIGS
BEST WAY TO A MANS HEART?
THRU THE BAS***DS BACK WITH A PICKAXE!
2007-03-04 05:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by garethcooperwales 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Why ask this question after 4 kids. Where were you before the kids came along. He has not changed, he was the same way before the first kid. Where were you ? Hello? If you think you would be better off with out him then leave him. If you feel you will not then suck it up and stay with him. If he does all the house work that means he is home most of the time. Does he take care of the 4 kids? When you get home from work do take the kids from him. So don't blame him for the way he has always been, you have had something to do with it for all these years also. Why the kids, if you understood he such a ++++ then you should have realized that before you allowed him to make 4 kids. If he is good to the Kids then stick it out for them. Start taking birth control so there will not be any more kids, that is after the number 5 comes along. Why are you doing this? I think you need your head examined. How can you feel this way about him and open your legs for him. What kind of woman are you? Hello is there anyone home in that brain of yours. Geesh
2007-03-04 05:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey you need to be fair,, YOU LEFT OUT ALLOT OF INFORMATION….??!!
Can he work ?? Is there a medical reason he can’t work?? Are there any jobs available, and is he qualified for any of those jobs?
Do you work? If you do,, does he baby sit? Does he stay home and watch the kids every day? Does he do the grocery shopping, laundry, etc, etc,??
If You do work,, and he was working,, who would take care of the kids and how much would that cost ???
You have unfairly presented a question so almost everyone would side with YOU !!
If you want a good honest answer You have to give a honest question with a FAIR picture of why you are asking the question !!
2007-03-04 06:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So what that he does all the housework. He should. He doesn't work!!! Besides, it sounds like you take care of the kids all the time. Also, it is not okay for him to go and come as he pleases. He is a married man with a wife and kids and he needs to act like he is. It's okay to go out every now and then, but take care of home first. You are in a marriage so you really need to try to talk this out with him and come up with something that will work for both of you. Good luck!
2007-03-04 05:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought of that before you started making babies with this guy. He doesn't work, for pay? He should get a job, and leave the house work and kids to you. He is not setting a good example to your children. I would not leave just yet. Maybe you can talk some sense into his think skull. Men need to make the money to raise and look after his wife and children. He doesn't do that. Things must be a little financially tight. Is this how you pictured yourself? Barefoot and pregnant? I think not. Seems like you have some decisions to make don't you!!....
2007-03-04 05:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you aint releasing the whole story and the crazy cat ladies are eating this one up. Its real easy to scream divorce but wait until you actually take the advice of one of these loons and you will see where your mistake is. I'll take the thumbs down happily because I know I'm right.
It's possible right now you are just angry. Communication is the key. And YES! A man should have a job! I guess I'm just old fasioned
2007-03-04 05:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the communication is not there. you 2 should talk about things that are bugging you. with 4 kids and possible another one on the way divorce should be the last thing on your mind. talk to 1 another. communication is very, very important in a marriage. find out why he is so miserable( maybe because he has no job), that would make anyone unhappy. not being able to support your family. that's hard. talk to him. good luck.
2007-03-04 05:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by lynnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it to do with the financial side. If it is then you should politely tell him about the position that you are in. If it is not about money then im not sure what you are angry about. You work and he looks after the house, you have not said that he does not love the children and you sound about as miserable as him from what i have read. Maybe you are a little bit harsh towards him
2007-03-04 08:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him how you feel. You should try talking to him, he might think he's being helpful enough just doing the housework. On the other hand, if he is just bein a lazy **** and he won't change, you should definetly get rid!!
Not all men are pigs, mines great, I don't know what I'd do without him!!
2007-03-04 05:50:36 · answer #9 · answered by Gemma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow.......no. Bottom line.... you both have a idea of how things should be......the lines of communication are down a bit. Sometime wrting an email or letter helps, but take some time away from the kids and go to a "weekend to remember" conference.
...Think about this. 4 kids...maybe 5.....there are millions of people who would die to have someone just love them....let alone a have a beautiful family.
I love this site for questions like this........Communicate on his level.
Good luck .. "Weekend to Remember"
2007-03-04 05:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by hmmm123 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well doing all the house work is a big job I am sure,I have a hard time doing the house work for my son and I.
But I work 1 full time job and 1 part time job plus have lots of animals to feed goats chickens rabbits and all.
But he should not be staying out all night have you told him this makes you upset? Talk to him if it does not change to the curb he must go!
2007-03-04 05:50:39 · answer #11 · answered by Redmac1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋