My husband and I have not had sex in over a month. We've only been married for 4 years. My hubby wants sex and he's getting really annoyed that I'm turning him down all the time. I used to love sex but recently I can't stand it. It hurts to have sex and when I do give in once a month I tell him to hurry and get it over with because it hurts. I can't get wet even. We have to use tons of KY and it STILL hurts. A couple months ago I actually cried during sex and he had to stop b/c it hurt so much. I didn't used to have this problem, in fact, it has just started within the last 6 months.
What should I do? I feel bad about depriving my husband but I have absolutely NO desire to have sex. I feel like something is wrong b/c I'm only 24 and should like sex. I'm worried that this is going to hurt our relationship.
2007-03-04 05:37:17 · 4 answers · asked by Shayna 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
You should see a doctor. This is not normal. There are many easy solutions to help. Don't be embarrassed about seeing the doctor about this issue. I worked for a gynecologist for years and these type things are common. This is very easy to fix.
Of course you don't want to have sex if it is painful and yes it will cause problems in your marriage eventually.
If you feel you are harboring some underlying resentment towards your husband and this is adding to the issue, then I would suggest a really good book to help with that. "His Needs, Her Needs", a quick read and very helpful...get him to read it too.
Act quickly, don't let this hurt your marriage.
2007-03-04 05:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by suzi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If its the fact that it hurts to have sex, maybe you need to go to the doctor and see what is going on. Especially if its for the reason that you are always dry, its not that you arent getting turned on by him, well that may be one of the reasons, but it can actually be a medical condition, that can easily be solved. And while you wait for the doctor, try oral sex or a hand job or something just to keep him calmed down a little. And explain it to him as well what is going on with you.
If hes still a jerk off after you explaining what is going on with you, then he doesnt give a damn about you and you should start thinking about that part of your relationship, because it might end up being stress related or the fact that you just dont want him deep down anymore.
2007-03-04 05:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by David K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go see a doctor ASAP. This is a common side effect of some medication (very common with some birth control pills and depression medications) that can be solved by switching to some medication.
It can also be sign of an inflammation that can cause infertility, if not treated.
It might also be a sign of depression, so you should definitely check it out.
2007-03-04 06:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by jimbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you should see your doctor about. It may be a side effect of some medication you are taking, or there could be something physiologically wrong with you.
2007-03-04 05:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by aqx99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋