Have any of you successfully got preg whilst desperately TTC & been thinking of it literally 24/7?
I'd love to hear that some of you have as I don't know if I believe it actually makes a difference if you are conscientiously TTC or not. I agree you shouldnt just make babies but is it really a pyschological issue or just a physical thing?
I really haven't been trying up to now - just relaxed with a glass of wine & enjoyed sex - but after 2 cycles no joy & now it hasn't happened i'm worried I'm going to become obsessive & not sure whether I should just stop being too absorbed about it. But is this really possible? I can't believe it didnt happen this cycle as I had sex 3 times/wk Day1-28!! I know there's more to it than that but I've had a child & a m/c so know I can get preg. First time round I was oblivious to the hows & whys of getting preg & sometimes ignorance is bliss - now I know too much!! So what do you do? Just wish wine & childbirth went hand in hand! Thanks x
2007-03-04 05:30:58 · 19 answers · asked by heidimaghellian 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
D'ya know, with my first it was also at Xmas/NY and I drank loads & found out I was preg - baby fine! Maybe I will go down that old road again! Tx A MOST Beautiful sight
2007-03-04 06:25:27 · update #1
Leilani: you twonk - you obviuosly can't recognise a bit of lighthearted fun when you see it!! For gods sake, I'm not really going to permanently drink when TTC - I'm a sensible responsible adult. Take my advice and dont take things TOO literally
2007-03-04 07:52:58 · update #2
And another thing LEILANI - it's been proved that a glass of red wine is actually very beneficial & enjoyed by millions who would have to disagree with you - in answer to your Q, there is nothing at all irresponsible or wrong with having one glass of wine whilst you make love with your husband. Now, if I'd said I'm injecting heroin, I'd have to agree with you. Get a life and go have a glass of wine!!! Bloody hell!
2007-03-04 07:59:02 · update #3
i didn't relax like i was desperate to get pregnant asap, and i did Both times, i think that most people don't get pregnant due to error, like not having sex at the right time, and not keeping the sperm up there long enough, the best thing to do is by some ovulation strips ans make sure you have sex as much as you can during you period of ovulation, to help the sperm on it's way you could prop you bum and legs up ith a pillow or against the wall for about 20 mins just to make sure that the sperm is going in the right direction and it also stays up there a bit longer, this helped me and a few of my friends. good Luck
2007-03-04 05:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dreamah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is something in being relaxed. A recent babycentre.co.uk poll showed that 85% of respondents conceived while on holiday, which tends to be when people are most relaxed (and having a few drinks everyday!).
When you are stressed your body goes into 'fight or flight' mode and prioritises body functions that give the most chance of surviving an attack by a wooly mammoth!! Fertility is downgraded as it is not essential. This is ok if the stress lasts for 5 minutes, but if the stress is on going, then it's bound to affect fertility.
However, I don't know how best to relax because it must be very stressful wanting a baby and it not happening.
How about a nice holiday?
Good luck.
2007-03-04 20:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they're right! Even though you say you hadn't been 'trying', just relaxing, you must have had it in the back of your mind, otherwise you wouldn't be disappointed not to be already pregnant, and wouldn't be thinking you had a problem after such a short time. There's an old saying: 'If you keep treading on the grass, the daisies won't grow'! You've plenty of time, as once baby has arrived he/she is for life! Try and forget about ttc for the timebeing, just enjoy being with your husband/partner, make the most of your life together and all of a sudden, it will happen!! Good luck.
2007-03-04 05:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by uknative 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im exactly the same hun.I have been with my boyfriend for 11 yrs this yr,i would of liked to have started trying a few yrs ago (im 26) but he wasnt ready.Then day he said lets start trying, (10 months ago) was wonderful to hear...too wonderful that i was so happy that i started to tell my friends.Ten months down the line everyone else seems to have concieved and not me,first my sister,then his and then my closest friend.Leaving me feeling really desperate to concieve,espcially so our babies would all be a similar age.Everyone keeps saying,it will happen,your probably trying to hard..im just beginning to accept,it takes time,everyone is different and one day i will be there.I know its hard not too think about it constantly,its a big thing afterall,but as long as ur enjoying life (have a glass on wine) then it will happen.xxx
2007-03-05 01:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by donna h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do think that thinking about it stops it for some reason.
I tried desperately after having a misscarriage. Nothing happened. So once I gave up on trying I was pregnant within the month. My cousin in law was worried about trying because of being on birth control for so long. She asked my advice as they hadnt yet fallen pregnant. I told her to just have fun and enjoy
"practising" she fell pregnant not long after. Relaxing and letting naure take its course is really the best way. AS that way you get pregnant when your body is ready, it aint gonna happen by forcing yourself, its only gonna happen when your ready.
2007-03-04 11:42:17 · answer #5 · answered by Monkey Magic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun, im in the exactly the same position as you! But im on the obsessive pathway now!
Ive been trying for 5 months, with all my other family/friends members having babies, or they've had babies, and everyone saying, 'so when are you going to have a baby'? im like saying inside of my head, 'god damn it, im trying!!!!!!
Its so horrible and sooooo many people have said relax and don't think too much about it, even my nurse said don't put too much pressure on it. Its hard i know!
They say by text book, after a year and no luck with trying then see your doctor.
Give it a year, and then get worried thats what im planning to do!
Otherwise i see myself being handled by then men in white coats lol!
Good luck and hope you get what you want soon. x
2007-03-04 05:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by chloe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I've heard a few stories about couples who TTC for years and nothing. Then they adopt, and almost immediately the woman becomes pregnant and they end up with 2 babies.
So, yes, it can definitely be affected by your state of mind.
Make sure you orgasm every time - at the same time as your husband, preferably. The cervix acts like a vacuum and sucks up the sperm when you orgasm.
2007-03-04 05:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yup not thinking about it works
I had an eptopic, the doctors did not know if I would be ok concieving again........
When I was healthy again we started trying, I had a machine that told me when I ovulated etc we timed it just right even holding on so we didnt waste valuable sperm....
Nothing happened for months and months, I went to the doctors, he referred me to the hospital, I had a hospital appointment booked for Feb so we stopped trying until we knew what was going on In Feb when I went to hospital....
We went sking 4 days before Christmas, drinking loads then returned for Christmas and New Year drinking loads again ....
Then we went on holiday again sking for a week, and on the journey home I said to my hubby, I feel really sick, he said your pregnant, I said no I dont think so
Well it turned out I was, if you knew how much I had drunk during those few weeks it was unreal lol and skiing and I was pregnant the whole time eekk.........she turned out to be healthy
2007-03-04 05:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes i have, started trying 10 years ago, nothing and more nothing,
we then went camping in south of France for a couple of weeks , didn't stop thinking about getting pregnant , it becomes your life, i got obsessed, but we have a lovely 5 year old son now, only problem we have been trying for 4 years again , had ivf twice , you name it , we did it , i had my son at 35, so now i am 40, still trying , but have applied to adopt now , my advice don't wait , if you really are worried go see your GP . we waited too long first time, took 5 years to have my son , and wish i had gone to my GP sooner. good luck honey
2007-03-05 09:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by natalie s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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