theres this girl at scool thats sits right beside me and my proplem is that she likes me so much but i realy hate her cause when she came to my scool she speareted me from my best friend for a while and i realy dont know wat to do with her she is like super glue some pals of mine say that i should treat her badly so she would dislike me and some of them say i should tell her that i hate her and make it over but my proplem is i cant be mean to any one and i realy feel guilty when hurt somebodys feelings wat should i do?
2007-03-04 05:27:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh, i totally had the same exact problem! it's not ok to hurt someones feelings, so don't be mean to her or anything..... what i did was sort of ignored her, but wasn't nasty about it and when she said hi to me in the halls i just kinda gave a small smile, don't say hi back or anything. chances are that this girl didn't know she was seperating you from your best friend, but if she did then that was just plain mean! i used to talk about my other friends around her, but don't overdo it...... the girl i had the problem with eventally got the message..... i introduced her to another girl i didn't like, and now they're best friends! strange how these things work out isn't it?!
2007-03-04 05:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mocha♣Chino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to make a list of things that **** you off about her. Second, I would make a plan on talking to her about these things a bit at a time. Address them one at a time over a period of time.
There is no need to make an enemy, she just needs to understand that you will have other friends and that she will need to address her insecurities such that she doesn't create too many waves in the existing pond.
There is no need to be mean....just guide her to a path that makes her more likeable.....who knows? under that skin of insecurity, might be a person who everyone will like.
I applaud you for taking the high ground, it says alot about you as a person!
Cheers
R
2007-03-04 05:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by tito_swave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard decision but maybe you can let her down easy and just have plans with some other Friends and go separate ways at lunch time and after school, even if its joining a club (extra activity) at lunch. if that doesn't work be nice and tell her that maybe you and her don't have to hang around to much.
2007-03-04 05:35:44 · answer #3 · answered by Lara <:(((>< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reverse psychology! Pretend you're 10 times more needy and clingy than her, call her up day and night, email her 30 times a day, then get angry when she doesn't respond promptly or can't commit. Soon she'll grow to fear and avoid you.
Oh, and let your closest friends in on the joke so they know it's an act.
2007-03-04 05:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She speareted you from your best friend? What does that mean?
Don't tell her you hate her, tell her she needs to develop more friendships so people won't get suspicious.
2007-03-04 05:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by supertop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be her best friend, but is there need to hate her? You are only hurting yourself when you hate another. Just
ignore her and go your own way, she will eventually get the message.
2007-03-04 05:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would telll her that you just want to hang out with your other friends for a while and talk to her less and less an eventually she'll get the hint
but still say hi to her
just so you don't create an enemy
:)
2007-03-04 05:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by Lorena Jayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i would do, is just one day after class just pull her aside and tell her whats going on. You dont have to be mean about it, but be serious so she knows your not jokin. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-04 05:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her but in a nice way
its not the end of the world
2007-03-04 05:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the better person and forgive and figure out how to get along..don't need anymore hate in this world
2007-03-04 05:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋