would your tell your daughters friends parents if the had done something the have been told not to do ?

Question

The girls are 13/14 years old and have gone into liverpool city centre when they have been told by their parents not to. My daughter is one of them and I found train tickets in her bedroom. Do I tell their parents.

Answer 1

I have a 13 year old daughter and I would tell the other parents.

Answer 2

In my mind it would depend on what type of people the others parents are and how well you know them, I have just lost a friend or a so called one by telling her what her daughter has been getting up to and her words to me were I am not interested, they have to learn by there own mistakes, do not tell me anything else, so in future I must admit I will now think twice.

Answer 3

certain its offensive, yet i do not imagine the dad and mom will do something. Being a senior in intense college, I listen those products from youthful ones time-honored, doesn't count number race, sex, etc, and extremely, if dad and mom complained to a unique figure they might overlook about it. Your daughter needs to appreciate that a million) the girl become incorrect to inform this funny tale, and a couple of) no longer all of us has a similar ideas on those of alternative races. do not get me incorrect, i'm no longer racist, yet regrettably some people do not have a similar tolerance for those of alternative races. I advise, what number cases in a given day, week, month, etc, do you listen somoene discriminate antagonistic to some different person of alternative races?

Answer 4

first find out what the girls did while in liverpool city. but yea you should 13/14 is not old enough to go out and do things like that, just to let the girls parents know what their child is up too so she doesn't do something else like that cause something bad could happen.

Answer 5

i would address it with your daughter 1st.
explain about trust; if its broken then its difficult for parents to allow their kids to do things again. explain the reasons; what if something had happened to them etc.
i tell mine that if i know where she's going, why, when etc, and if i have a way of contacting her then she has a relative amount of freedom.
tell her you want to tell the other parents, and you know this will annoy her and them, but her safety and that her friends is paramount. ask her to explain this to her friends, or ask them over and speak to them all yourself first. tell them you understand why they did it but its not right to abuse trust or to put themselves in a position of danger etc.
perhaps you can stop them doing this again without telling the parents, but tell them you feel upset annoyed and betrayed and they need to show responsible attitudes if they are to be allowed freedom and priviledges, NOT rights, then they need to realise this is dangerous etc, and they need to understand that all actions have consequences, so you will be contacting their parents and will try to persaude them all not to go too ballistic! mayeb suggest if they want to go into city centre, that maybe one or two adults should go with them , not to hang around them but be nearby. tell them if they had all asked to do so they would not need chaperoning! so next time, ask, and go with the parents' decisions rather than sneak about.
its tricky finding a balance between being your childs friend and parent, but parenting must come 1st.
good luck!!! she may sulk for a while, but will come round. i had to call another girls parents recently, which created some problems, but now she is more open and realises boundaries are there for a reason, and the more truthful she is, the more they can be adjusted.
if only we got a manual when we gave birth eh?!
try not to get angry too.. i did this 1 st time and we both just ended up feeling awful. so i tried being calm, telling anecdotes from my youth, being humourous but getting the mesage across and how serious it was. seemed to work better!
again, good luck

Answer 6

Your daughter will be very uset with you and her friends will think you're a right c*w but the answer is yes i'm afraid.
The parents have a right to know where their daughters were so they can have a chance to sit and explain the dangers and concequences of what they have done.
Like i said b4 tho you won't be flavour of the month so get your tin hat out!

Answer 7

Most definitely .... what if something happened to any of them you would feel so guilty and the other parents would be angry if they found out you knew already ... you need to tell them .
I have a 16 & 13 yr old girls .. they are crafty !

Answer 8

Wouldn't you want the other parents to tell you, if they had made the same discovery? It is up to all us parents to help keep all children safe, and to guide them to making good decisions. Sometimes good kids make bad choices. Yes, your daughter will be very angry with you, but it is much harder to be a parent than a friend. She will get over it.

Answer 9

It's normal for girls of that age to do stuff like that, but I would definitely tell the other girls parents, it will make it easier for you both if you can communicate on things like that to find out when the girls are being sneaky and catch them out, my best friend and I used to tell our mums we were staying at each others houses at that age and go out drinking on the park and to house parties and stuff. Thankfully we never got into any danger, but we could very easily of done, had our parents communicated with each other they'd of easily caught us out!

Answer 10

Yes, tell the parents. These girls not only did the exact opposite of what they were told, but they went behind your backs. And if you don't put a stop to this, then they'll continue to go behind your back, and think they can get away with it.