tips on how to overcome shyness?

Question

and is it it a weakness? I find im not very open with people and dont like telling people stuff bout myself and when i do make an effort with people they dont want to know

Answer 1

Hey,
This is Monique,
Shyness can be a weakness, because it let you feel that you're not important, or nobody wants to talk to you.

Question: What do you talk about, when you do make an effort to talk to people?
Don't talk about the boring stuff or weird stuff like: what you ate, if you didn't brush your teeth, farted, or just plain-out disgusting or nerdy, geeky stuff.
Talk or exaggerate about money, new clothes, what you going to do today, or other stuff you hear other people talk about!

Answer 2

Darling being shy is not a bad thing, people that are shy learn so many things that people that just jump into things like crazy!!!!!!! if those people do not want to hear from you leave them alone and find friends that are just like you. They will help you gain your confidence and you must also know that you already have but have not released it yet. Do what i just suggested and don't be too shy because that is when it becomes a problem.......

Answer 3

Be yourself. If you are shy be shy. Don't worry about it. If you work hard, take time for yourself and do things you like to do, take care of yourself (wash, remove the unibrow, work out, wear makeup etc), study hard, guys will go out of their way to find you. If you concentrate on making 'you' better, people will want to share that.

If you are really, really uncomfortable about the way you interact with people you can practise on ugly guys, not hitting on them necessarily but just being able to talk to them......that way when a good guy crosses your path you are more confident.

Answer 4

Try this, when you're somewhere you feel most comfortable, relax, imagine there's a bar of white light slowly scanning your body, relax each muscle the lights over. When you're completely relaxed, imaging starting and maintaining a conversation with someone, if you start to become stressed, go back to the relaxation exercise. Eventually you will feel relaxed in social situations and will be able to start and maintain conversations without feeling shy.

Answer 5

iits not a weakness i used to be very shy at one point your just scared that people will let you down thats all.Just overcome it by being yourself and if people dont like it tell them where to go and a never act like something your not just to imprss people just be confident within your self and other people will notice it good luck

Answer 6

You are right to be cautious about yourself until you get to know somebody better. That is not a weakness but good sense. In general you will find being a good listener of other people's problems will be much more appreciated than talking about yourself, particularly if you try to imply you are better than them.

Answer 7

i think you have to look at you,do you like your self? shyness we all have some tip of . its just finding out, if it is you ur them.me i will have a go at most things. i have Cancer, so wot i am a disabled man so wot,i have bad lugs,, but i am me.look at your self. you do not have to go out and tell all about your self,we are all just people, after some thing , head up and go for it, do thinks slow, at your own time, i hope i have Ben some help mike

Answer 8

Go to workshop or take training courses on 'how to be more confident' or 'assertive training' or over coming shyness.

Or go to library and get a few books out on the subject.

Answer 9

to overcome shyness first of all make yourself confident. secondly , practice talking in front of a mirror. it is very helpful

Answer 10

You have to go out of your confort zone.. meaning just doing things your not comforble doing, like talking to people and just being more outgoing, its selfhelp and no one can help you.