but i have kept my wedding dress in storage. now our oldest daughter is getting married and i am wondering if it would be very bad "mojo" to offer her my dress. it would look good on her and has stood the test of time (still in style)
or should i just forget the whole idea and not even offer it?
2007-03-04 04:37:25 · 16 answers · asked by annenymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you really want to know what I think? When I looked @ the first answer, helper_fo, that had been my first thought~why did you keep it? From my point of view, your asking this question suggests the issue is more with YOU. Whether the dress has "bad mojo" or not, if you have any doubts, this could definitely effect your feelings if she wore it, in ways you can't anticipate now. I'm sure when you wore it, it was a joyous day, but what does it represent to you after 25 years of a tumultuous marriage? Of course you could ask her, but I'm more focused on YOUR emotions. Think about it?
2007-03-04 05:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding dress has nothing to do with your marriage other than the fact that you wore it when you got married. Offer her the dress,she will probably be honored. If not, put it back in storage and don't take it personally. There is no 'mojo' on the dress.
2007-03-04 05:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by LORD BALTIMORE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would offer it to her, just because that dress did not carry you to a life long marriage does not mean it wont carry her.
Does she want to wear it? If she does, and you already said that she looks great then go ahead and let her, she will be in something borrowed. You said that it has stood the test of time, I would talk to her about it, she might not want to because of the reasons you were wondering. I would offer it and see what she says.
People hold on to stuff even if the past is done with because it was a memory of good times and a girl will almost always want to remember herself walking down the aisle it has nothing to do with not letting the past slip away but more about finding comfort in things.
2007-03-04 04:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your daughter what she thinks about wearing it. I would have loved to have worn my mother's dress for my wedding. I don't think it's bad "mojo". Your marriage lasted 25yrs and as you said, produced 4 children, that is where your focus should be, not on the divorce. If she doesn't want to wear it, don't be offended though, but yes, make the offer!
2007-03-04 04:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always nice for the mother to offer her dress to the daughter. There is nothing wrong with offering it. Just let your daughter know that it will not hurt your gfeelings if she does not want to wear it. I am sorry that your marriage was tumultuous (great word) I hope the best for you.
2007-03-04 05:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first question would be why do you still have it? Are you still holding on to some memories of the past? If you kept it for your own memories, then don't lend it to your daughter, since a wedding dress should be free of both good and bad memories, so she can make her own in it. Look at why you have it, and maybe contemplate letting it go, period. Good luck with your daughter's wedding...
2007-03-04 04:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by helper_for_life16 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong offering your daughter the dress... I know you do not want to bestow any kind of negative energy... but just tell her you still have the dress if she would like to wear it and leave it at that.
2007-03-04 04:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ended bad.. but that dress stands for a day of love and joy in your life no matter what happened after that dress and day was great to you and let her know this and let her have the dress and that same feeling of her day
2007-03-04 04:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by russellvero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer her the dress, you never know. It can be altered, adjusted and remember when you first got married how you felt. Perhaps she is afraid to ask you for the dress!
2007-03-04 04:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by sherryisfrenchcookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer it but let her know that you would not be hurt if she decided other wise because of your marriag in the dress.
2007-03-04 05:09:43 · answer #10 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋