i am 8 weeks pregnant and my childs father wants nothing to do with the child. Would it be tacky or embaressing to have a baby shower without the support or attendance of the father and his family?
2007-03-04 04:34:39 · 30 answers · asked by nonabee 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My daughter had a baby and the father has never been involved. Her friends (and family) each gave her a baby shower. Having a baby doesn't mean you must have the father around. Sometimes it is better to not have the father in the picture if he'll just give you stress. Just enjoy these months and know that your family and friends can give you the support you need. The father and his family might turn around later, but if they don't it is their lost not yours and the baby's. Plus having them involved might cause more problems in the long run. Are you willing to let them take the baby for weekends and holidays? Maybe their way of raising your baby is different from yours and they'll try to change things you want for your baby. My granddaughter is 20 months and completely a blessing. My daughter was upset at first and thought she really needed the father involved. Now she is glad she doesn't have to deal with him or his family, plus she said she couldn't have her baby leave her for the weekends, holidays, or have someone tell her how to raise her child.
2007-03-04 04:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by mechellet3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The baby shower should be to celebrate the baby that will be entering this world! The gifts and everything is for the baby. Father's don't normally attend baby showers anyway. You shouldn't feel ashamed. What's done is done and don't pass any bad feelings to the baby. Having a child is a joyous event. Enjoy! Good Luck to you and your baby - the father does not know what a joy he will be missing!
2007-03-04 12:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by livingadream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go ahead and have the shower. Who cares if the father is involved. I have lots of friends that were single parents with their first baby, it doesnt matter. Your family loves you. You of all people will probably need help getting baby stuff too, a shower is a great way to get some. Congratulations
2007-03-04 12:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by krickee 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There are many women out there that are single and have baby showers.. And most of them choose to be single.. so Girl you have your baby shower!! Good luck and make sure you get some child support of that loser.. he is still responsible for his actions regardless if he wants to be a part of the child's life or not.
2007-03-04 13:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really have a friend or relative throw the shower for you. It is a bit tacky for you to throw one for yourself, besides, if you throw it you won't be able to sit back and just enjoy it! That said, who cares about him and his family! A baby shower is to celebrate the impending birth of a child, not the relationship that brought the child about. You friends and family will more than likely want to help you celebrate his special time! Party on!
2007-03-04 13:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by autumnofserenity@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely should have a shower. Single mothers are just as worthy of celebration and support as couples. It is not tacky at all. The embarrassment is a reflection of your feelings, not of those who love you. By the time you will have a baby shower, I hope that the embarrassment is gone, for your sake. You should be very proud and excited.
Enjoy your new adventure!
2007-03-04 13:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by sushishishi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all...Baby showers are usually for the women only anyways..I attended a couple baby showers and the daddy was never at them,it was just us women...we didnt even speak of the father,we just all had a good time talking bout baby and mommy to be etc...good luck and have fun!!
2007-03-04 12:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It certainly is not tacky and should not be embarrassing. Your baby deserves to have what he or she needs even if Daddy is being a a..hole and his family too. Just have your shower and dont even worry about those people. It costs a lot to get started in the parenting mode of life you will need a shower.Good luck to you and congrats on your new baby coming soon.
2007-03-04 12:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not tacky at all to have a baby shower. However, from the framing of your question, you want to throw yourself a baby shower. In my opinion, that is tacky. A baby shower is something some one else throws for you.
2007-03-04 14:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by CG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all the father has no choice but to support the kid. Make sure you get DNA testing done and get his assz for child support.
But...YES!!!! A baby shower is great. I never got to have mine with my son because I was in the hospital the day I was supposed to have it. But I'm expecting again.
Congrats. And don't worry. I had my son out of wedlock also. The father was around, but not really. Did it all myself and it's not as hard as people think. Good luck.
2007-03-04 13:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋