Last june peter came back into my life, we hadnt spoke for 5yrs walked past each other and so on!!!!!!
He approached me and we started talking again,we went out for drinks so he could clear somethings up, I listened didnt agree with it all but hey whats done is done.....
He called everyday afterwards, came round to my house every night, this went on for 3 months ( me taking it we where in a relationship), then all of a sudden he says he wants me to leave him alone? He was seperated from his wife at the time, so I take it he was going back to her, I said ok I wont call you,he left and I carried on with life.. After a month he is back round taying the night sleeping with me, this has went on up till last friday,now Ive hardly heard from him last time he called I sounded off at him,said it seems he is just using me and Im a conveniet shag when he needs one and how dare he!
he says thats not how it is at all,but I think he is back with his wife, I have asked but get no reply, so what
2007-03-04 03:55:39 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
am I to do? I do love him he is my soulmate but I will not be used, his family use emotional blackmail on him which i think is nasty... him and his wife ahve been like this for years, she chucks him out then makes out he left of his own will, she cant use the kids now as they are adults so she uses the house to emotionally blackmail him... she even has bad mouthed me saying i broke her marriage up and split her family up, and he knows this..I said oh so she bad mouths me to anyone who will listen then you and her a re back together, your supposed to love me why do you treat me this way, and he cant see why im pissed at him..any suggestions please?
2007-03-04 04:00:43 · update #1
the guys on a winner hear. no offence like. but he's got a wife, and gets to bang someone else whenever he wants??? walk away.
2007-03-04 03:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by martinsmithdunbar 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I partly agree with the first answer in that he has an ideal situation unless you want to change it. He knows that you wont say no to him coming round and he will take anything on offer, food, warmth, sex etc. It is imperative that you tell him how you feel and you set some boundaries, but not ultimatums and see what he does and says. If he keeps on the same old path then he has not listened to a word you have said and you are well rid of him, soulmate or no soulmate.
2007-03-04 16:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by pete the panda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest that you just leave the pair of them to it - seems like they can't sort out their lifes and it's unfair that you should be dragged into it all. You've got a life too. It's as if, whenever his wife throws him out, he comes round to yours and builds your hopes up then disappears back to her again. I'm sorry to say this but she seems to mean more to him than you do, or he'd leave her and have a life with you. He's just a time-waster and you deserve better than playing second fiddle to her. Try to forget him and move on. Next time he appears at your door, be strong and tell him you don't want anything to do with him and his problems and suggest he books into a hotel for the night. Good luck - but look after yourself and don't allow him to use you anymore.
2007-03-04 13:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is using you and your letting him, or have done til now, why wait for him to turn up when you could be out there making your own life and happiness, a part-time lover is not what you want obviously or you wouldn't be asking the question.
what would you tell a mate in the same situation?
dump the loser and be strong, don't go back for a convenience shag cos you've been doing that as well as he has, be happy and good luck x
2007-03-04 12:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by RACHIE-D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well lady, there is nothing like soul mate, when somebody is using u. Can't u see! Listen! A soul mate is somebody who loves u and will never use u and dump u okay. Shake this guy off ur live and move on. Life is short lady, enjoy it, while u are alive. If u keep this guy around u, u might end up having a broken heart and or end up dead. Cut him off ur life now! or live to regret it.
2007-03-04 12:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by alert 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer love
The thing is get on with your life go out drinking socialising and if you meet someone have a relationship, just take what you want out of the relationship.......
If you can't handle a part time relationship get rid of him but if you can deal with meeting up now and then having a meal and staying together for the night then do it........don't expect anything more because he does not want that,
Women can have convenient relationships as well, and let him know what it feels like to not be centre of your attention, let him fit round you, if your lonely one night then call him.........
What is good for the goose is good for the gander
2007-03-04 12:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get rid of this cretin ASAP. Your soulmate?--i don't think so, he is playing both you AND his wife, more to the point though, you and his wife are both allowing this to happen. There are too many mind games being played out here by him, and YOU are coming off the worse--do yourself a very big favour and get rid of this plank once and for all time.
2007-03-05 03:51:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't understand why you are angry because you've accepted this kind of behavior from him for some time. And now all of a sudden you've decided not to accept it any more.
But whether he understands it or not is not your problem. If you don't like the way he treats you, then forget him and find another man.
2007-03-04 12:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he is not your soulmate. He's not even close. Deep inside, this is what you want to believe. But a soulmate would not be emotional abusive... and this is what he is. This guy has maturity and commitment issues. He is managing to make two women miserable. What you need to do is stand tall and tell yourself you will no longer be his sexual door mat at his convenience.
2007-03-04 12:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wake up he is using u he sounds a rite n.o.b 2 me im sorry 2 say that but he is if him and his wife have split up and she calls him 2morrow asking him 2 come bk he will y should u settle 4 second best u r so much better than that i no its hard
good luck luv x
2007-03-04 12:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are some nasty people out there! If you are willing to be used, then he will use you.
You say he is your soul mate, but if that is the case, would you treat somebody as a convenient alternative to masterbating?
Find yourself a nice man. Or maybe one who just isn't scum.
2007-03-04 12:47:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋