married over 15 years, mid 30's, love my wife, but our sex life is in the pits. we both work F.T. ,3 kids from 9 to 15. use to be pretty adventurous, many toys, she talks more than she does. I crave the sex obviously more than she does. Im at a loss now. Temptation is just around the corner. What to do now?
2007-03-04 03:51:53 · 19 answers · asked by tj0744 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
masterbation just isnt quite the same as being with a woman
2007-03-04 03:55:27 · update #1
done the weekend getaway thing already...that lasts for ....well ...the weekend....
Im tired of her talking about what she'd like to do, and not acting upon it.
Why do men always have to initiate things
2007-03-04 03:59:15 · update #2
Most of these answers are ok , but ive been down most of these roads already. And she doesnt do any house work anymore, thats what teenagers are for...lol....and i work as much, if not more, than her.
Like i said, Im tired of talk, why wont she just do already?
2007-03-04 04:06:15 · update #3
Fleshlight and new porn films.
2007-03-04 03:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is wrong with you starting it? This is normal most of the time for my marriage. Go to a doctor and ask for something to help her. Your/her regular family doctor can. Second is you need to let her know how pretty she is and warm her up regular. Do the dishes together and do some more active activities. This way you can put your hands on her more (not always in a sexual way). When she i in the shower or tub take one with her. Talk to her and play with her through the day to get her warmed up for when the kids are in bed. Or lock the door and get a quick get together when the kids are still up. Put your effort in and tell her what you would like to do.
2007-03-04 12:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the toughest period to stick together ..... when your kids are entering their teens. I can never justify straying. Maybe she is overworked with a combination of her job and housework, raising the kids etc. I honestly believe that most women still work and also carry most of the home duties, including caring for the children. Try giving her a break for a week. As someone else mentioned .... you try doing the cooking ..... housework ... for a week. Plan a weekend rondevous ... perhaps one of those honeymoon hotels etc. Give her a massage. ... get a babysitter for the weekend. Take her out to dinner .... buy her a negligee ... all that stuff. See if it spices things up.
2007-03-04 12:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by burlingtony 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's talking about it but not doing it as much, it sounds like she may just be tired out. Perhaps make an effort a couple times a week to make dinner/do dishes or whatever her standard evening is that may be tiring her out on top of work, then go for it. Also, make her coffee drink. Caffeine boost may do the trick.
2007-03-04 12:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by romipenne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her, let her know how your feeling. It's normal for sex to get put on the back burner sometimes with work, kids, stress. The important thing is to recognize it and fix it. Sex might be the last thing on her mind right now, so you need to tell her how you feel. Cheating will only destroy your marriage, is that what you want?
2007-03-04 11:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and see if she is bored with you. It has nothing to do with you specifically, it is just that she needs variety. Try looking into a swingers group. It may be her ticket. maybe not, but go to an orientation session and ask questions. If it is what you want it will work. A swingers group will destroy a bad marriage and strengthen a good marriage. Good luck.
2007-03-04 12:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tell her how it's making you feel and that you've considered going out on her, but would like to rekindle the spark you once had with her. If she knows she has competition, this may just get her in the sack MORE than you're bargaining for!
2007-03-04 11:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sex isnt everything you love your wife and that should be all.If you are really craving for some sex then just talk to her and tell her you want to have sex.Show her some moves you like.
2007-03-04 11:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by hotck15 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be strong for your family. They are the most important thing, right? My ex cheated on me, automatic divorce. You will just have to struggle though this slump. You are both sooo busy. If you think it is more than that I would suggest couseling.
2007-03-04 11:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a swing club and watch other people have sex. Seeing people have sex all around you is almost like cheating it's just that she'll be in on it too. It'll be fun. If you live in NY try Fantasia or LeTrapeze
2007-03-04 11:57:04 · answer #10 · answered by Natoya B 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Many people like you, have lost themselves to temptation, just to have sexual pleasure and have indeed made thier lives a mess.
But, YOu must realise that sexual pleasure is nothing compared to your lovely wife to whom you have VOWED to love till eternity, kids and house.
You have established a house, which will be eternal.
Do not cheat on your wife. Life will be a mess before you know it.
My advice: Talk to her about it. She'll understand and will try all means to please you.( That's what all wives do..^_^)
I repeat: DO NOT CHEAT ON YOUR WIFE JUST BECAUSE OF SEX.
NEVER!!
2007-03-04 11:57:18 · answer #11 · answered by Romeo (The Original) 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋