I have three children, have had three abortions?

Question

I'm pregnant now by a married man who THOUGHT he was done with his wife. He recently got some bad news regarding one of his children(not by the wife) and since than has not spoke to me. Before the incident we were togther everyday. Now he seems to be spending alot of time with the wife. Is it that she can better console him threw this trying time for him or is it that my pregnacy only adds to his problems. We did speak about abortion and he knows that he would have to pay for it, so could this just be his way of telling me to do it my self? Does anyone think another abortion would harm me or prevent me from having a baby when my time is right?

Answer 1

why don't you get your tubes tied or go on some birth control if you are going to be having sex with married men, why don't you grow up and be responsible for your actions, instead getting an abortion,or 3 of them

Answer 2

a million. you're an ESL pupil are not you? 2. Abortion isn't beginning administration, so which you do not need to be a mom. 3. you would be waiting to be a mom after 3 years... you will basically be 27 years previous regardless of in case you have had 3 abortions. 4. confident you have got risks and this is stupid to have abortions like this. 5. suggestions: do not substitute right into a mom.

Answer 3

First, stop sleeping with married men, even if they will pay for the abortion. Second, use birth control if you are going to sleep around! Third, I don't believe abortion should really be your method of birth control. So either have the kid and put it up for adoption (you should probably do the same with the other 3) or just have the abortion. Regardless, keeps your legs shut till you are ready to have kids. Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm not going to lecture you, because I have a feeling you're lieing awake every night lecturing yourself.

You can't control him. You can only control your actions.

You deserve better than a life lived like this. So do your children. Don't settle just so you can have a "man".

Get rid of him. No matter what, he has to go. He doesn't love you, or respect you. He didn't give you the title of "wife" and now that he really needs help, he has turned to those he truly loves and trusts.

I know it's a bitter pill to swallow, but it's reality. You have to rely on yourself to love you, not some man who cheats on multiple women.

As for the pregnancy, why, oh why, would you kill your child because it has a loser for a father? You wanted that baby up until this point, so what has changed? The father. Would you get rid of your other three children because their father(s?) were jerks? No! You love them, and this child deserves that same love.

I'm not saying it will be easy. You may have to have it adopted, but please don't kill a baby because it has a waste for a father.

Notice that not once in that above paragraph did you ask what was best for the baby? Do you see that perhaps you are thinking only of your own interests and that jerky cheating man, and not your children (all of them?)

Answer 5

Yes, every abortion further increases your chances of sterility and infertility in the future:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp

I'm going to be blunt here, okay? It's not your baby's fault that you chose to have sex with a married man. Your baby is the only one who is totally innocent in this situation, your baby didn't ask to be created, and your baby doesn't deserve to die. At just three weeks after conception, his or her heart is already beating. Regardless of your past or your present situation, you do NOT have to abort this child. You can do the right thing and let your baby live.

Frankly, your boyfriend is showing his true colors at this point. He is being irresponsible and selfish. If he really cared about you, he would not ask you to kill your child and put yourself at risk. No man is worth the life of your baby. Boyfriends come and go, but your child is your child forever. This is your children's little brother or little sister. Please protect him or her and protect yourself.

Below is more information I think you should see. Because of your past abortions, some of the information may be painful for you. However, it's essential that you see it now:

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including Early 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

Information on All Aspects of Abortion:
http://Abort73.com

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.nrlc.org/Factsheets/FS15_pilldanger.pdf

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

Support for Pregnant College and Career Women:
http://www.nurturingnetwork.org

Help Dealing with Your Past Abortions:
http://www.healinghearts.org

Answer 6

Only know whether another pregnancy and child is right for you or not. And you need to be realistic that a married man who cheats is not someone you can ever trust to be there when you or a child needs them. If they will cheat with you, they darn well may cheat on you later on.

Having a great many abortions is not the smartest thing in the world. Usually these involve an invasive procedure and although very safe and much safer than full term pregnancy, repeated procedures mean repeating the risks. You need to think less about this jerk of a cheater and more about doing the best for yourself and your family. This clown has apparently fathered other children outside his marriage and there is no way you can't do better than this "man." And you need to consider why you are willinging to be with someone you know is in a relationship with someone else. It demeans you as well.

Married men will darn near always have an excuse for why they can't end their marriage. It's one of the oldest tricks in the book. You have to make your decisions on reality, not fantasies about his motives and him someday being true to you.

You also need to take an honest assessment of why you have at least four times failed to properly use effective birth control. Abortion is far better than bringing an unwanted child into the world, but it's a fairly stupid method of birth control. With at least seven pregnancies, you certainly know what causes it. And you need to get real about the risk of catching a sexually transmitted disease as well.

I sincerely hope you will never again start a pregnancy unless you are in a real relationship and plan to have a child. Talk to your doctor about the risks of repeated terminations based on your own body. Don't listen to the morons who claim abortion is murder, because it's not and it's none of your business. You have to be the adult who makes this adult decision. You could choose to have the child and let it be adopted as well. You have three choices and should work with a counsellor to help you see your options more clearly.

And somewhere, sit down and write "married men are poison" about a thousand times!

Answer 7

Wow!
You need to determine why it is you felt it was okay to get involved w/a married man that ''thought he was done with his wife'', vs. DIVORCED. Are you stupid or what? Do you not value your self ( and the impression your giving your 3 other children. By the way were you married to the father of those 3 kids, or are you just a habitual baby mama?)enough to not sleep with someone elses husband, regardless of what he tells you. Of course he's not gonna say: Yeah, my wife is the best thing since sliced bread, we get along great, the sex is still off the hook, and we love our children''. No stupid, he's gonna say dumb sh*t like: I'm done with my wife. Done is very different than DIVORCED.

Get an abortion, and grow a brain.

Answer 8

Do you and the fathers support the children you have? Or are you getting state/federal help? 3 kids are enough especially if you cannot afford to support them all by yourself.

I don't want to sound preachy, but I hope you realize the risk you are putting yourself in. You do KNOW that the largest percent increase in the AIDS rate is young African-American woman, with all young woman a close second.

You have to quit having unprotected sex and quit having babies with multiple fathers. Or your children could end up orphans and living in foster care, is that what you want for their futures?

If you don't have a strong enough relationship to get married, having babies is irresponsible and foolish. Raising kids in this world is hard enough WITH the fathers in the home, why put yourself and your kids through this?

Good luck to you, you need it.

Answer 9

You're the kind that just makes me scream. I would do anything to have a baby and cannot and it kills me to see people that give no care in the world as to how the kids are brought up or what they go through. Give your kids up for adoption to people who will put them first then you can live single and go on doing whatever you want. Maybe he did the right thing and is begging his wife's forgiveness. Get some morals. Please.

Answer 10

I dont think u should get one. abortions arent liek a form of birth control. You've had 3. i thought about getting one ( my first pregnancy) and i was glad i didnt. if push comes to shove you can do it without teh guy. As for why he is talkin to her again - it could be that he is still playin you and still tryin to be with her, or they could be freinds. They could be working out the kinks. its tough to say but dont get an abortion anymore. 3 times is enough i think u should never have another one again.