a ex coworker on valentines day, it stated that he wish he could have spent valentines day with her and how much he misses her and her boyfriend is lucky.I confronted him with what i had found nd he told me that was only a friendly gesture .what should i do because we have three year old daughter together.I don't know if i took that the wrong way or if he has cheated on me with her, i knew they were friends but now i'm not sure if that friendship turned into something else behind my back. please help me.
2007-03-04 02:57:42 · 16 answers · asked by neesha k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move on...He is lying to you! He's settling for you cause he can't have her! Dump him and leave him with no one!
You'll always worry that he's not happy with you, if you stay with him!
2007-03-04 03:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's been caught! I'd put him on notice. It sounds like he has already cheated or had rendevues or interactions with his co-worker to make such a comment in an E-mail and since Valentine's Day is the most significant holiday to profess one's love and importance to THE (what's suppose to be) one and only important person in your life, he has betrayed this to you.
I would put him on notice and "Love Probation" and lay down the law about what will happen if he strays, cheats, or alienates his affection for you to someone else.
I think if he's been a "Boyfriend" for 5 years and has not committed to Marriage whether it's been his desire not to or a mutual deal, I'd up the stakes and say; "Let's make this legal, and binding".....or it's over.
Believe me, his little E-mail was not a friendly gesture but, a romantic wished hypothetical desire to be with her instead of you.
He sounds like a chump and he has insulted your intelligence. Make him realize it.
2007-03-04 03:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch- Just the fact that he stated he wished he could spend V-day with HER, and how much he misses HER, and how lucky HER boyfriend is.... IS a very very bad sign!! That's not even close to just a "Friendly gesture"! Sounds like he wants her bad, and he's just staying with you because you're always there ... That and you guys have a child together... Maybe that's why he "kindof" stays. ... You can't keep living with a guy who is acting this way though... You need to find someone who actually wants to spend V-day with YOU, and misses YOU, and feels lucky to have YOU for a girlfriend!!!! There's so much better out there, and you deserve it!!
2007-03-04 03:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by raven975 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I can't tell you if he has cheated on you, but he definitely has feelings for this woman. Seems a little more than just friendship to me. If you two are in a committed relationship, it is inappropriate for him to be sending that type of email to his coworker. Talk to him again and explain that you don't feel that it is appropriate, even if he meant it as a friendly gesture.
2007-03-04 03:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he hasn't been sneaking around on you yet, then he's about too, and you must not trust him too much or you wouldn't have been reading his e-mails. You need to ask him to see a relationship counselor, and if he refuses, then he doesn't value your relationship, and he probably is cheating. When you're in a committed relationship, you've got no business e-mailing a person of the opposite sex, and writing things like that!
2007-03-04 03:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe his e mail speaks for itself here. this is more than a friendly gesture. if he misses her than he has been with her, to miss her he has had to have experienced being there in the first place. guess u need to confront him, if he were my boyfriend i would have to believe he had cheated behind my back. this is not just a friendly e mail to a friend, it means much more. maybe she now is with someone else, and he sure seems to resent it.
2007-03-04 03:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you need to talk to him. Then, ask him for the truth. Tell him you know that the email wasn't just a "friendly gesture" and you want the truth. Remind him that you still love him and that you want a truthful relationship. Best of luck!
2007-03-04 03:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lavish 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is wanting to date outside of your relationship and has hidden this from you. You need to ask yourself, does he love me, or does he just love my daughter and doesn't want me to leave because he won't see her as much.
Guys will hang on when they are unhappy just because they don't want to get stuck with child-support and they also want to be able to see their children every day.
MOVE on. Leave this guy and don't tell him. You need to look out for you. He is wanting to cheat on you and probably won't say anything UNTIL it is too late.
Sorry to hear you going through this. Good luck.
2007-03-04 04:19:59 · answer #8 · answered by Time4Tivo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's lyin...y else would he have sent her an email sayin those kinds of things? i'd end the romantic part of the relationship but try 2 maintain a good rapport 4 the sake of ur daughter...what a jerk...u deserve better
2007-03-04 03:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by Aurora Blue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was NOT a friendly email. Something happened, he definately likes her. You two need to talk.
2007-03-04 03:28:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would just keep asking the same question over a period of time to see if u got the same answer & then try to keep it together if he's not cheating for ur daughter
2007-03-04 03:03:02 · answer #11 · answered by Hu$tla 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋