should i go to her wedding if i haven't talked, or seen her in 7 years?

Question

i had a friend who i was friends with from the time that i was 5 years old until she transferred school districts in the 10th grade. she didn't move, she just transferred schools. i didn't hear or talk to her until my high school graduation party and she was only there for maybe 15 minutes. that was 4 years ago and i haven't had any contact with her since. she sent my an invitation to her wedding. and i don't know if i should go. i want to be cordial, but i haven't seen her or her family in a long time. she is essentially a stranger to me. tell me what you think i should do. should i sent her money? if so how much do you think is ok? thanks

Answer 1

Are you the groom?

Answer 2

I think you should decide on whether or not you will feel comfortable being there. Weddings are expensive and you have to remember, each person invited, is costing her something. You don't really invite people to your wedding, that you don't want there. (Unless its that rich aunty who will at least send you a really great gift). But you sound like you're close to my age, which means you may not have/nor want to spend a lot of money on some great gift. She may know this. Your friendship was obviously special. If you can't make it, fine. But personally, I'd see if I can take a date. Its a chance to dress up, go to a "party" (hope for an open bar!) see people you haven't seen in awhile, and just have a good time. It really wouldn't hurt you to go would it?

As for a gift, ever heard of Things Remembered? Great place to go for wedding and baby shower items. Pick out a jewlery box, or a picture frame. Then you can get like a gift card, put $15-$20 on it and place it with the gift. Then they will be able to get it engraved to say whatever they want. Then it looks somewhat personal.

Answer 3

nicely, according to danger he *could desire to* carry it up, yet being that he's a guy, he in all probability won't if he hasn't by potential of now. it somewhat is to not say he does not marry you, besides the undeniable fact that this is of course not something it somewhat is significant to him after 7 years. If marriage is something you decide on, you're able to be able to desire to enable him be attentive to that, and don't be diffused approximately it. you will could desire to style of hit him over the pinnacle with it or he will in simple terms save cruising alongside an analogous way...he's have been given each and every little thing he desires, why substitute it?

Answer 4

Depends on if you want to pick up the old friendship, if your not interested in the friendship anymore don't go, just send a card regonizing her engagement. Apparently she considers you still to be someone she still thinks of frequently, or she wouldn't of invited you. I would be touched that an old friend still thought of me for such occasions.

Answer 5

the best thing you can do to outcome your feeling of being stranger is to have a dine with her or visit her before her wedding. .we have so many ways of communications today, why don't you try to call her up or even send her a text messages. by that small way you can feel that you're not stranger with them anymore. Sending money to her is a stupid thing to do by Friend , if you're still her friend, in friendship money is nothing the best thing in that relationship is BEING AROUND . try it now!

Answer 6

I agree with Bill...send a card; you don't need to attend. You can send a small amount (check, not cash) in the card - I'd go no more than $25.

Answer 7

Send a nice card wishing her well. This is a gift ploy.

Answer 8

Go to the wedding. Maybe you'll get lucky.

Answer 9

go for it, its a party right?

Answer 10

no way.