I told him I was ok with the picture taking as long as it wasn't in our home, and he agreed, saying there were plenty of places he could to it. Now he says he can't do it anywhere else. It was causing serious problems so I let him do it, but told him he could only use the front room. Last night I came home to a girl in tiny underwear and not much of a top and it freaked me out, and then I noticed that they had tried to use the guest bedroom and the kitchen (he says he doesn't remember me ever asking for it to stay to the front room). I don't want this to happen here, but he thinks I'm standing in the way of his happiness. Am I being unreasonable?
2007-03-04 02:25:46 · 8 answers · asked by unsure 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
(this is a money-making venture; he would sell the photos or host a website and charge ppl to view the photos; thought that might be important)
2007-03-04 02:32:58 · update #1
I'm confident there is no sex- he has an assistant who is there all the time, and I come and go as I please. This is more of a honing photography skills/possibly making money thing... still freaks me out tho
2007-03-04 02:37:06 · update #2
You are NOT being unreasonable. I am always concerned about these kind of cheesecake shots as to where it will ultimately lead to
2007-03-04 02:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as an artist who works with nude models 2-3 times a week I just wanted to give you a view point. When working with a model it's not a sexual experience at all, it's about creativity and the human form is just wonderful as an art form. I think ou should talk to your boyfriend more about how he feels about his photography and what he enjoys about it. If he's serious about it he'll love that your involoved and that you can share in his hobbie. If he's not serious and he's only about the money then I would be less inclined to side with him.
As far as him using your home. I don't see why that would make you less comfortable then him hanging out with naked women elce where, this way you could at least meet some of the models and see what it is he's doing.
If it's just the idea of having scantily clad women on your furnature suggest he pick up some drapery to cover the items he's working with. It will add an element to his photography and provide an surface between the models and your furnature.
I wont out right agree with everybody here and say that your right, but your not wrong ether. Your comfort level is just as important as his happyness I suggest you talk to him more and come up with a solution that's suitible to both of you. When you do set boundries write them down if you have to so that if there's a disgression nither side can say - I didn't remember.
2007-03-04 11:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by Rhuby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are being very reasonable. He should get a new job venture. I mean for real. He says it just for money but come on. Do you think that he just might be enjoying this new job a bit too much? I would make him stop and get a new hobby or what ever he feels this is. I think it is just gross and you should put your foot down right away. If not learn to live with half naked girls on your kitchen table. Good luck!
2007-03-04 10:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a perfect right to feel as you do. It's YOUR home. If he must secure this so called profession, tell him to go elsewhere and do what he THINKS he needs to do. There are too many ramifications to come out of his poor actions!
2007-03-04 10:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl....ARE YOU DAFT!? Your BF is a moron, asking you to allow him to have other girls into your home to take pictures....what makes you think he may not be having sex with them when you're not around!? He is only thinking with his penis, not the brain in the head on his shoulders (however, I don't think he has one or he wouldn't have come up with this lousey idea!)....you need to kick him to the wayside....
2007-03-04 10:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by AngelEyes In SF 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being unreasonable. By all means, don't stand in the way of his happiness, so tell him it's time to leave.......permanently!!!!!!!!
2007-03-04 10:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, i think you are very reasonable. is he a porno director ? or does he want to do this just for fun ? if he is a porno director, he can rent a motel or something and do it. Otherwise, i think it's totally unreasonable on his part.
2007-03-04 10:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being unreasonable. Leave now. You are wasting time with this loser.
2007-03-04 10:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by J.R. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋