How do I make friends?

Question

I am a 28 yr-old married woman. i used to have many friends before marriage, 2 yrs ago. but after that I lost my single friends. I haven't been able to make new friends for 2 years now.
I have so many trouble in my marriage, that can't be solved right now, so whenever I have the opportunity of meeitng a potential friend, I tend to open up more than necessary, and either me or them would avoid the next metting, because i feel embarrassed why i opened up, and they feel embarrassed of how much trouble I have that they may not be able to do anything about it. Specially this happens when I meet someone for the first time. Today a very beloved woman is coming to my house, and i am worried to lose her too. Can you suggest what I can say today so that I make friend with this girl and not open up my troubles?

Answer 1

I hope I get this out tactfully; I apologize if not.

It sounds like you want a friend to be your counsellor, not to be your friend. That may be putting too much pressure on budding friendships. Maybe you should see a counsellor for counselling and let your friendship develop organically, without an expectation that they will be your counsellor. You may be scaring off new friends with your "drama".

Best of luck to you.

Answer 2

I hope the below seven things may help you develop good relationships:
1. Do not see that Solutions for all your Problems come from Your Friends. However, see that Good Friends stand beside you while you are going through problems.
2. Recognize that just as you expect help from friends, your friends also expect some help and support in time of trouble, be prepared to stand beside them irrespective of your problems and situations.
3. Though friendship is a two way relationship, friendliness is one way. Be friendly with everyone you find right people who come into a good friendship relation.
4. Listening is more important than Speaking. Learn to listen to others problems, sometimes you find solutions for your problems when you listen to others. Pay attention and respond with concern when other share about their experiences.
5. Always ask questions about how they feel and think about some common interests.
6. Do not share ahead your interests without checking that they are also interested.
7. Do not stuff your time with problems; give chance for some humour and happy conversation. People like and remember that times they laugh and enjoy.

Answer 3

Sometimes when your life is weighed down by all the problems going on, you grab a "life line". Just try to keep things to basic conversions: kids, television shows, before marriage times, etc. Don't go into your marriage problems. No one around you can heal any problems in your private life but yourself. For that, try going to a pastor or someone that can listen without losing a friendship. You are looking for someone to heal the problems or "fix" your marriage or maybe just someone to listen. Just enjoy the time with your friend without bringing the "happy" moment down.

Answer 4

What you can do is you can have a get together and invite some people that live near you. Or just be yourself. When someone comes up to you just talk to them. You don't need your old friends, if they are goin' tostop bein' your friend all because your married.

Answer 5

take example from my mom.....................................................................................................................................she had done some picnic around the place and invide some women there.....................................................................................................................................or you can do something from the desperate housewives...........................................................................................................................be creative ; )