We split up about 5 months ago, I'm with a new guy now but I still have the engagement ring. I don't wear it obviously and when we split up I tried to give it back to my ex and he said " I could never take that, it was and is a symbol of my love for you so I would never sell it or give it to anyone else". I thought that was really sweet so I did keep it. BUT a few months later, he asked for it back to "hold onto it, in case we get back together and I want to propose again." So what to do? Keep the ring (it's geeee-orgeous!!!), sell the ring and travel the world, or return the ring?
(keep in mind too that I suppoorted him for the last year we were together and he still owes me about $2000.00)
2007-03-04 01:55:52 · 10 answers · asked by Free Spirit 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
keep the ring... as you get older you will want it as a rememberance of the past
2007-03-04 01:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sue him for the 2000 dollars that he owes u and give him the ring back. Legally, if u give someone an engagement ring but don't get married they have to give it back. It is a gift only when the marriage is final. Sort of a contract: If u don't get married, u don't get the ring. It's implied that when someone proposes, that when they give the ring it's the same as saying "Here is a ring that I want back if we don't get married." (of course that will kill the mood, that's why it's just implied). Since he said that u could keep it, it gets a little tricky. Technically the same rules apply but it is just alot more confusing. Save yourself the drama. If he takes u to court over this the judge will bring up the fact that u offered it to him when u broke up in the first place so u should give it to him now that he wants it. Also, the judge would question why u think that u should get to keep the ring even though u didn't get married. In the end there is no defense for u and u HAVE TO GIVE IT BACK regardless of how nice it is. Just make sure that if u gave him a GIFT of 2000 dollars that u get that back or make a deal the let him keep the money if u can keep the ring.
2007-03-04 10:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah! That last detail clinched the deal! You will probably never see the $2,000 he owes you if you keep the ring. BUT that sounds like the easiest way to settle your affairs (pardon the pun).
Keep the ring, have the stones reset by a jeweler if you want to make it into something else, and then don't wait to see the money your old fiance owes you. Does that sound equitable to you? Money and value are invested and your ex knows that. Settle it dollar for dollar in your own mind!! @8-) Good Luck!!
I'm wondering if you like the ring and want to keep it and also wondering how much it would be appraised at!!
2007-03-04 10:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he has asked for it back then give it back to the guy. You are no longer his fiancee so give the ring back and let him go now. This will bring closure as well and help you to move on faster without any baggage or unleft business behind. Do not be greedy and give it back. Greed and wanting the money here really is not worth it trust me. Do the right and moral thing and give it back. You will be a better person for it.
2007-03-04 10:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, legally, the ring should be given back to him. He gave it to you with the expectation that you'd marry him. Yes, it was a business transaction. That fell through. Since he owes you money, discuss you selling the ring keeping the money and him paying the difference or you giving him the difference.
2007-03-04 10:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He gave you the ring...it's yours to do with as you choose. YOu can keep it for keeps sake*, you can have it reset into something else for yourself (another ring, or a necklace)...He said to you when y ou first offered to give it back...that he couldn't take it as it is a symbol of his love for you...now he wants it back.
I would ask when he's going to repay you back the 2, 000.00 he owes you...if he says he doesn't plan on paying you back....then there's not much you can do* You two were together, and YOU chose to take care of him (support) for that last year..he lost out on how much he paid for the ring that' you're keeping....so I would let it go* if he says he can't pay you back. and just move on with your life with your new love*
GOODLUCK*
2007-03-04 10:06:06 · answer #6 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he wants it back so that he can give it to the next girl he plans to marry. Good thing the 2 of you ended up not getting married because the 2 of you would have just added to the divorce rate
2007-03-04 10:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by tonyalmeida 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i would keep the ring, as he does owe u money still. u could use that money as well as him.
2007-03-04 10:43:43 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what ever you wish with it, it is only a material thing to you, And it sounds as if it was bought with your money anyway.
2007-03-04 10:02:50 · answer #9 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you join with fiancee. he love you
2007-03-04 09:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋