we were together for 7 years have a 4 yr old daughter. he left us 13 weeks ago to live down south saying he wasnt happy with his life anymore. we have been to see him, wasnt very good really, one muinete he saying hurry up and move to be with him, he wants his family back, then he says he has no feelings for me anymore and i should move on, i feel he is confused, and that he cant stand the waiting for us, he said he may be depressed and he is in a lot of debt, we just keep arguing and going around in circles. i am trying to move on but i cant as i still love him very much, if you read my previous questions you will understand it better, its a mess!!! i want to move on, but when i think about it i cry!!!
2007-03-04 01:49:04 · 11 answers · asked by ann_jacques 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi hun,i think you need to give yourself some time,your feelings for this guy are not going to disappear overnight.In my opinion he sounds very mixed up,leave him alone for maybe a couple of weeks to sort his own feelings out,and he just may realise what he's missing,its not healthy for you or your daughter to keep going back,only to find he's changed his mind again,it will only lead to feelings of resentment and confusion,give him a little space and he may come home to his family where he belongs.I really hope this works out for you and your little girl,good luck.
2007-03-04 02:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all very early days in your breakup considering you were together for as long as you were and you have a daughter.There is what they say something called the 7 year itch!.Where people in relationships wonder whether the grass is greener.It is so difficult when you love someone to take a backseat and look as though you aren,t bothered and are moving on but I do think you should play it cool and dont go into talk about your relationship when you next see him.He obviously knows that you still want him so dont push it anymore.For your little girls sake and your own keep calm.What will be will be so dont upset yourself anymore.It could be he feels smothered with commitments and tied down to it all.Give him time to get his thoughts 2getha and think about what he wants.In the meantime though just concentrate on you and your little girl.I so hope it all works out 4 you.Go out and treat yourself,a new hair cut,new make up,something for you!and wipe those tears away!
2007-03-04 02:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lorraine D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moving on is always hard but keep in mind that if he made a choice to leave you and your daughter he isnt worth the pain you feel. Find some activities in your area or single mom chats, you may find that you have the ability to be happier without him. I am sorry for what you feel right now but just know its only temporary and youll find happiness again, but look inside for your happiness first.
2007-03-04 01:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by kd1771 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some space without interruption... let him call you and dont give in the first call make up some believeable excuse as to why you cant visit him. then you need to pull all your friends together. you need a support system to help you with this. if he sees that you can move on and be happy with out him this could trigger him to see what he saw in you in the begining of the relationship and what he misses about you. But as with anything this is a chance. Depend more on your friends talk to them about what is driving you crazy with him instead of telling him(mostly likly while fighting?) in the end you may not have him but you do have your friends and with friends comes happiness!
2007-03-04 01:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by joyous 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to sort out your financial difficulties as 1st priority. Then, when on an even footing, you can try & sort your emotional attachments & decide which direction/s you both want to go in.
They say it takes 7 years to get over a divorce, so you're only in the early stages (of separation) so no wonder you're tearful, but remain strong for your child, and yourself... whilst he's off "sorting his head out" (OK for some, hey?)
2007-03-04 02:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can feel like this for a long time yet, but it does get easier as time goes by, he sounds very confused at the moment and may well want to have you with him, i bet you would go at the drop of a hat, but be strong, it's hard at the moment but you will wake up one day and feel you can move on and see things more clearly then you can make a decision. good luck
2007-03-04 02:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may both be confused so perhaps you could just be there for each other and help each other through some difficult times before you wade through the murky waters of love and relationships
2007-03-04 08:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course its gonna be hard to move on when you have been together so long and have a child but if you really want to make a go of it then give him his space untill he sorts his head out coz when your depressed you dont know what you want and pressure just makes it worse so stand back and see what happens if he loves you he will come back
2007-03-04 01:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by Sexy lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is never a truer saying than "you dint know what you have got until you loose it" SHOW HIM what he has lost he will come running. Prob just seeing how far you will go for him therefore playing with your head.
2007-03-04 01:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by LISA uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya, I remember you, you have a son too yes? I really believe if he wanted his family back he would move back to be with you. why should it be you who always comprimises?
2007-03-04 01:57:58 · answer #10 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋