I have a 19 year old son. His father chose not to be in his life. He has graduated from high school complete one semester of college. He is in his second semester. I have always been there for him... Now it seems like he has no clue who he is. Doesn't know what he wants to do with his life. I want him to be happy.. I told him to look into the Navy, only because i think he needs to cut the apron strings.. If i die tomorrow i don't think he will be able to make decisions for himself. He doesn't have the confidence. My neighbor offered him an apprenticeship as an electrician. He is twiddleing his thumbs looking for me to make a decision. I don't want to... I want him to do it.. Even though it will hurt me for him to leave if he choose the Navy.. I think that is the best thing for him. Any advice..
2007-03-04 01:34:14 · 4 answers · asked by dottlander 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
forgot to mention i'm not an overbearing mother.. When we make decisions together. It was usually for Important things that i needed to. He went to a catholic high school.. So we had to sit down and go through class options together.. I'm not one of them moms who make every decision for him.
2007-03-04 01:43:15 · update #1
Hold on, mom - slow down! Your son is still young at 19! He's not supposed to know what he wants to do with his life. He still needs your guidance and love. First of all, make him an appointment with his doctor. Rule out clinical depression (high rate for males in this age group). Help him see that he has a few great opportunities available to him - continuing with his college education, becoming an electrical apprentice (which might be the best option since he'll be able to work alongside a male mentor), join the service, attending a technical two-year college that would train him for a specific job, or finding a job now that would provide him with enough money to support himself outside the home. Sometimes you have to help this age group along a bit - it's an overwhelming world out there.
2007-03-04 01:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother of three boys.. you need to just let him make up his own mind on what he wants to do life is all about making mistakes and learning from them.. if you always make the choices he will never learn how.. Sorry to say but i think you need to back off and give him some space.. let him trip and fall but always be there for the hugs and kisses afterwards even though he is 19.. It is not easy but when is parenting..Good Luck
2007-03-04 09:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its time for you to let him go. In order for him to be a man and make his own decisions, he doesn't need to be sheltered. He's been used to someone making all of the decisions for him and now he's clueless. He's needs to learn how the real world is on his own without any help from his mother. In due time he will figure out what he wants to do with himself but you need to cut him off financial and kick him out the house.
2007-03-04 09:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by Shanee 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow! cutting ties is the best thing to do,but you should always be there if he needs you! I think he feels a little overwhelmed with having to make plans for his future, being an adult. Let him make it on his own without your thoughts.
2007-03-04 09:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by philly69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋