seperation leading to divorce?

Question

I have been married 3 years and we are seperating. i haven't worked in the same amount of time. we have 2 kids. i need help. i am not sure where to start. i know that i need to work to support the kids and myself. i have never had to be on my own. are there any other single moms out there who know what or where to start?

i never said i wanted to try again. i am looking for how to start my new life. read the question next time.

Answer 1

This is your chance to start clean and to finally focus on yourself. You need to find yourself and figure what you want to expect out of life for yourself. Your children will be fine just be honest with them. Everything will work out fine just remember to be confident in whatever you decide to do. Are you getting spousal support, if so that should help for a while. And you guys need to make a decision about child support. If he's a good father and he's providing for his children don't worry about child support because that can create more frustration but if he's a dead beat father then go get that child support. Good luck, I wish you the best.

Answer 2

Someone else here mentioned going back to college and getting a degree - that some colleges will pay you while you go even. That is true - I am in a similar boat and am looking into such programs myself. Some programs will give you a stipend to cover your living expenses - this combined with any child support you receive should get you through at least a couple of years of college. Many colleges have special programs for childcare ranging from free to low cost, also. You should set up an appointment with a counselor immediately to find out what is available (sometimes funds are limited so it's best to get in early - many are first come first serve).
If you are going to have primary custody of the kids make sure you also get the tax breaks each year - don't alternate. It will make a huge difference with you being able to claim head of household, get the childcare tax credits, etc. Talk to a tax person about the benefits, too before your court date so you have a better idea of what you are negotiating for.
Good luck to you - stay strong sister.

Answer 3

what can u do realistically? are the kids in school? will u need daycare while at work? do u have any skills? in the job field? if not go to the largest retail stores in your area and apply. find the best schedule that fits all of your needs. didi u guys decide on who will get the kids? Do u have family or a close friend to stay with for a little bit? do u have any savings? I would find an affordable place at first and than look for something better when u are financially stable enough to afford something u want. u need to start by talking to your husband and finsding out exactly whats happening. do u all own a house? who gets teh kids, house, car, what kind of money do yall have ? Will he be in teh kids lives on a regular basis? so you dont have to fight for child support. maybe he is going tio keep them with everything they need as far as clothes, shoes, supplies ect... is he goingto help u find a place on your own or is he moving? hatrdf to answer with lil info. good luck. dont fight all the time. it comes out a lot better if u are civil no matter what he does or is doing.

Answer 4

I was in a similar situation a few months ago. I was a stay at home mom and my husband drained the bank accounts and left. Luckily I had relatives... my mom and sister to help. I hated relying on them but I had no other way to feed my baby. Do you have savings? If so, you should save up some money before you go. Start looking for jobs and daycare. It took me 2 months to find a job that would pay enough for daycare and leave me with plenty to support my baby. Do you have family you could stay with until you get on your feet? That would probably be best, a lot less stressful. I say get a job before you leave. That's the most important thing.

Answer 5

Look at it as a new Journey, a wonderful Journey of freedom to do what you want. Make sure you push for child support. An education would go a long way and the student loans will carry you through if you are wish with the money but of course you will have those to pay off when your done with school.
Keep a good positive out look and life will give you positive things to help you along your journey.

Answer 6

Its gonna be hard to just find something that will pay you enough to pay daycare. My suggestion would be check with your local gateway office or welfare office. Ask them if there are any programs that are offered that u can do to get started in a career while getting assistance from the govt.
There are many programs for women in your situation. You have to start with getting a degree. Some programs will pay you while u go to college. This would be the best bet for u.
Be sure to get daddy to pay up in child support. He has a responsibility to his kids as well.
Good luck to u.

Answer 7

I am going threw this too. I went to Social Services in the county I live in and they will help you even find a job. It's a difficult time but stay strong and it will all work out! Put it in the Lords hands!!!

Answer 8

Starting over is not that hard, start by taking care of yourself first. Your kids will really need someone to rely on when the divorce is finallized. Just appreicate the fact that life does go on, you will evently meet someone new. LOVE YOURSELF!!!!!

Answer 9

For a woman Education first then comes love,then comes marriage with a baby in a baby carriage............................................... women do not put yourself in the dark ages depending on a man for all your needs.

Answer 10

re join, no divorce pls