I've been happily married to my husband for 8 years. My husband has had the same job for the last 15. About 6 years ago, a man that I went to high school with, started the same job as my husband. Never having prior feelings towards this man, within a year, I developed a "small crush" on him. Now, six years later this small crush has developed into pretty strong feelings for him. I have never told this guy about my feelings for him. I don't want to risk losing my marriage, and the respect of our 2 children. But on the otherhand, I can't get this man out of my mind. I think about him all the time, and can't stop. I dream at night about being with him. What do I do to supress these feelings? Why is it six years later I still have such strong feelings for him? Is it more than a small crush? What do I do? Thanks for your input.
2007-03-04 01:23:21 · 6 answers · asked by khaki0108 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
drink beer and masturbate.
2007-03-04 01:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by edna b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really do not know why you have feelings for this guy. I tend to think it is more of the idea of wanting to be with him than actual and real feelings for the man at all. Focus on your marriage and family and try to get past the thoughts of this other man and let him go from your mind and heart. The feelings you so called have for this guy is just fantasy and falling for the idea of being with him. It will do you a world of good to let these thoughts and feelings go.
2007-03-04 09:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THoughts and feelings are normal. They're ethereal. They could count in the greater scheme of things, but don't have to.
I think your interest with this man is a distraction, like TV, video games, or books. There's nothing wrong with this. Just keep in mind that it's not real life. Think of him as a beautiful sunset... to be admired, but not possessed. I would do nothing.
2007-03-04 09:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Identify your feelings.There is a good chance that you lost that romantic feeling for your husband and your putting it on this man that you will never be with.It may partly be sexual.Try to rediscover this with your husband.Like by making a date with him.Like you did before you were married.
2007-03-04 09:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be transference, you really do not know this man and you may be attributing all these attractive traits to him. risky as it may seem getting to know him better may resolve this somewhat, you really need to see him as who he is not the "anti-husband" he may have become to you, and no I do not mean spending time alone with him!!
2007-03-04 10:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him and leave ur hubby
2007-03-04 09:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by lisaanndubay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋